Long Distant Relationships

LegacyUser

Hey,

After having a quick read of another post I felt I needed to open a new thread on long distant relationships.

I am currently going out with a guy that is living quite a distance away from me. Limerick (me) to Belfast (him). For the last five or six months we had a different situation, we worked together, went out together, knew the same people and spent most of our time outside work together. Recently we went on a holiday together and I still love him all the more.

As we are both in college money is going to be a major factor.

I am hoping for some advice on how to overcome the distance. I want to hear from people who have been in a similar situation and how did they make it work or why it didn't work.

Thanks...

LegacyUser

Hey,
I know how you feel. I'm in a similar situation myself. Going out with a girl from Belfast (I'm in Dublin). She's just started college and I go back next week.

We've been going out since Jan and I've never been so happy We've spent most of the Summer together and until Xmas we're only gonna see each other at the wkends. Its a v long story how we got together but it was definitely worth the wait

I don't know how the next couple of months are going to go. Its not so bad coz I usually have a car on the wkends and with the new motorway its only a 2 hour drive (its takes me that to get into college usually!)

We txt each other alot (esp with the 500 free txts from O2 ). We usually ring each other every other day. (btw I've read only recently that you can get some good rates on phone calls to the North like local call rates after 6 but I'm fairly sure it'll always be cheaper to call Dublin from Belfast.)

I do find myself thinking about her about every sec but I suppose such is love . I know I have to wait till late Friday to see her.

I really really hope it works out for us. We've been friends for about 5 years and we hadn't seen each other for about 2 years. We kept in contact with each other on the phone and net. When we met up in January it was magic

So anyway won't waffle on but I hope it works out for ya. I hope works out for us both

....

magick

welll this one is probably a record, but i met my gf, and im crazy in love with her, but she lives...................6000 miles away we have been "going out" for a good while , but we see each other every couple of months, and email text, ring, i spent the summer with her and we got on like a house on fire, now granted we have our disagreements but what couples dont?! but i guess if its a strong love its lasts. hang in there!

Typedef

It totally depends on the two of you and if you want to do it.

Really.

You could take the view.

"I can meet someone locally"

or you can take the view.

"I love (x) so much that, the effort is worth it".

Simple really I'd think.

It's doable if you both 'acutally' are prepaired to do what's required.
However if one party is humouring the other, then it's a waste of time.

Who knows, it might work it might not... I'd be inclined to ask.

What does your fella have to say about all this?

Kell

Who was humouring who with you Typie? *Nudge, wink*

K-

Dave

I've been going out with a girsl for about 9 months now, I'm college in Limerick and she's in college in Dublin. I lived with her during the summer, I see her every weekend and we talk everyday on the phone, I still miss her though, but y'know it's tough at times but I love her so it's well worth it.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies :-)

However it not so much myself questioning wheither the relationship is worth it or not, I know it is. It is more of a question of how to keep the spark.

How do I show him that I still love him even though I am so far away??

What little things could I do??

kaimera

ah the joys o the long distance relationship.

use the tinterweb...send E-Cards, etc...

Gordon

You can still enjoy your relationship, just on a different level.

I would advise you to get chat software for your computer and if possible - take pictures and send them to him. When I was in my long distance relationship I emailed and phoned etc but I really wanted piccys, any piccys. Probably because I am more visual than aural.

Anyway, Limerick to Belfast really is not long distance, if needs be you can always pop over now and then.

Good luck, it'll be fun even though you will be a tad lonely when you miss him. The contact moments should be enhanced to be honest.

Villain

Originally posted by somebody
Thanks for the replies :-)

However it not so much myself questioning wheither the relationship is worth it or not, I know it is. It is more of a question of how to keep the spark.

How do I show him that I still love him even though I am so far away??

What little things could I do??

I think that other thread you talked about was mine.

As for keeping the spark when you find that out let me know, my current GF is in london I'm in waterford/carlow not easy, we speak most days which is costing a bomb.

My previous relationship was long distance for about a year killarney-carlow then we moved in together lasted 2 and a half alltogether and I don't regret a minute of it, we'r still good friends.

Thats just my 2 cents

bombidol

Dude, my Girlfriend lives in Detroit. stop moaning. www.irishrail.ie

kaimera

Originally posted by bombidol
Dude, my Girlfriend lives in Detroit. stop moaning. www.irishrail.ie

rofl.

that post just cracked me up Bomb

he's right tho...could be worse. [btw, mine is in Florida ]