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Boy Rejects Girl...Is this normal?

  • 25-08-2003 5:03pm
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    LegacyUser
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    Don't know if there's anyone out there that can make me feel a bit better about myself. Let me explain - Firstly, I am a female and I have just come back from a week's holiday in Portugal, one in which I thought was meant to be romantic as I had gone away with my boyfriend. Let me tell you about him. I met him about 5 months ago - really went all out to try win me over. For 2 months he kept pestering me to go out with him until I finally did. He is very funny and charming and I really thought this could be the one. Well about 7 weeks ago I found an intruder in my house and my boyfriend insisted on staying with me in my house for at least a week just to send out the message to any would be intruders that I wasn't a girl living on her own.

    I have to say, I was impressed by his genuine concern and feelings for me, so it was only a natural progression that we decided to go away on holidays together. Well we got to Portugal and for some strange reason he did not want to physically close to me at all - I mean he slept in a sofa in the other room. When I questioned him on this and told him that I needed some affection he started going a bit intense and I thought he was going to have a seizure - then he bursts out that he doesn't fancy me and that it's over. This happens two days into our holidays. Then he says that I better not kick up a fuss or he is getting the next plane home. He also said that he wants us to be friends as I mean the world to him. Needless to say I am devastated. I mean, we may have had a few harmless niggling arguments on the holidays, what with lack of affection etc, but that is only natural. Another thing, he has never gone away on holidays with another woman or been in a serious relationship.

    My feelings are (and I was getting a few vibes) that he might be gay or have problems with his sexual identity - he kept commenting on how good looking various famous blokes were, also that sexy lingerie did nothing for him when he saw them on a woman etc....

    The thing that really messed my mind up was if other men on the holidays tried to chat me up or even looked in my direction, he would go mad. So even though he didn't want me, he would not let anyone have me either.

    I am now home two days and even though he is currently sending me light hearted text messages I am seething inside as he ruined my holiday and has also made me paranoid about my self. He has made me feel that I am a repulsive monster.


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