Love is so painful

LegacyUser

does anyone feel that love is so painful?

say you have a girl that all you want to do is hold so close to you, and when she does, all the pain in the world goes away in the blink of an eye!

yet she doesn't feel the same way and theirs nothing you can do about it.

and you know that even though you may never be together that she is the only woman you will ever love in your life. so whats the point doesn't that make the rest of your life meaningless?? why would god do that to you???

the fvcking bastard!! im seriously questioning my faith in alot of things at the moment how do i make this pain go away

Wook

what doesnt kill you makes you stronger.
believe me , there will be others.
just know that everybody in his life has at least one big crush on a possible partner, sometimes it works out sometimes it never even stands a chance.
but there will be others.

WhiteWashMan

Originally posted by im goin low
does anyone feel that love is so painful?

say you have a girl that all you want to do is hold so close to you, and when she does, all the pain in the world goes away in the blink of an eye!

yet she doesn't feel the same way and theirs nothing you can do about it.

and you know that even though you may never be together that she is the only woman you will ever love in your life. so whats the point doesn't that make the rest of your life meaningless?? why would god do that to you???

the fvcking bastard!! im seriously questioning my faith in alot of things at the moment how do i make this pain go away

ahhh, i feel 16 all over again.

dont worry.
youw ill fall in love again (unless you die soon), youre life wont be meaning less, not sure what faith has to do with it, the pain stays for awhile and then one day you wake upand realise you havent thought about her for 3 weeks, if she doesnt love you, then i guess thats life.

head up old bean, everything will be fine

Sposs

Get drunk and make a slut of yourself that usually helps ease the pain!!!

b3t4

I wasted 2-3yrs of my life because of something similar.

Once I learnt to let go I ended up in the best relationship I could ever have asked for.

Learn by how you feel and use it to give your everything to the person that does love you back.

Loving and being loved back is a love that is much greater than what you have now. Just start letting it into your life and not hang onto a lost cause.

A.

blackadder

a quick hand shandy normally does the job for me...

all joking aside, get out and see friends. that doesn't mean going out, getting smashed and sniffing around pubs in a short skirt/tight jeans. spend some time on yer own. get to know yerself. remove all evidence of the said person from your sight. relax. read. pen your memoirs. above all else: enjoy yourself.

Beruthiel

and you know that even though you may never be together that she is the only woman you will ever love in your life

yes, you sound very young
there will be many, many women in your future

remember the little saying:
so many women, so little time

in no time at all this will be a distant memory to you...

vibe666

I was desperately in love with a girl from the time I was 10 until I was 18.

She was the only girl for me, and despite being very good friends growing up we were never more than that, and she never really knew how I felt.

I moved abroad when I was 18 (Tenerife) for a year and had almost forgotten about her in 6 months until I went back home.

I saw her again, and all the same feelings were brought back up again, but I pretended we were nothing more than friends.

I lived with someone else for 3.5 years and neither of them knew how I felt for her the whole time.

I moved back to Tenerife after we split up and kept in contact with this girl (my childhood sweetheart) and eventually poured my heart out to her over the phone a little while later.

We've never spoken since, and my feeling for her died over time.

I now live with a girl here in Dublin, we've been together almost exactly 2 years and my feelings for her are very much stronger than they ever were for this other girl in my younger days.

Times change, and so will you, and your feelings, but only if you let them. Yo9u need to be in control of them, not the other way round. Don't live your life thinking that someday you'll be together, because most likely you won't. What is likely is that you'll find someone else who makes you feel even better than you do when you are with this girl, and only then will you be able to put your current feelings in perspective.

LegacyUser

yeah im glad i sound young to you all

im nearly 21! im not offended, just to tell you

ive been out with a few women not many and none of them have been like her

but im trying to comprehend what im feeling for her but i cant its digging in to me like a chainsaw

mabye i should have nothing else to do with her mabye not mabye its me mabye it isnt so many thoughts in my head i just want to tell them all to fvck the hell off i feel like a skitzo

LegacyUser

thanks for all your help anyway had to tell someone about it it was driving me mad

vibe666

no probs mate.

always good to get these things out.

remember opinions are like ar*eholes, everyone's got one! (especially here at boards)

you did ask though didn't you?

Vlad_Tepes

it can be even worse....As a kid, I always wanted a girlfriend to play with (nothing sexual, of course) As I am a bit odd, I started making up a friend. And till now, I look for that particular girl in any woman I see. I know it's stupid, but I am looking for a dream. And this hurts too. Because I know I'll never find her.

WhiteWashMan

tell her how oyu feel.
a swift kick in the nutts will make forgetting her a lot easier

Sposs

Originally posted by Vlad_Tepes
it can be even worse....As a kid, I always wanted a girlfriend to play with (nothing sexual, of course) As I am a bit odd, I started making up a friend. And till now, I look for that particular girl in any woman I see. I know it's stupid, but I am looking for a dream. And this hurts too. Because I know I'll never find her.

ok ...........................................me slowly backs towards the door.

Divine

aw man the exact same thing happened me last summer, i met this girl while i was lifeguard on a beach and went off with her, fell in love big time and i know what you mean about holding her, its like you could just stand there with her forever.

What you are doing wrong is letting yourself fall too much in love with her, you have to be tough and even though you dont want to treat her a bit more harsh, she will welcome.

Truse me man since i broke up with that one all ive been doing is breaking girls hearts cause i feel i can never get too close to anyone again.

Then she txted me the other day and asked was i working this year on the beach aswell and i said yeah or my mate did anyway and she went to to him about still really liking me still and all that but this time im gonna have the upper hand. Its the only thing you can do, just try it you'll thank me!

LegacyUser

Yeah i tink your falling too much in love and yes it can happen, its sounds harsh but true, if you leave yourself completely open, your vulnerable to being heart broken. If she were to break up with ya, it would probably crush you.
Im not saying love her less, Just don't let your emotions completely control you, stand back occasionally and take a look at the relationship realistically. Not OMG she's the most amazing women ever, everyone should love her. and more like OMG i really like this girl, were perfect for eachother.

Jesus83

What you need to do is not to see her, not to talk to her, not to text her, not speak to her generally. if you do that, within weeks you'll start to feel much better......believe me.

It's a simple solution in theory, but not so simple to do....but it's the only way to get over it.

oq4v3ht0u76kf2

If you feel madly in love with this girl then act as if you're madly in love with her, tell her you want to be with her... if things work out, excellent. However, if they don't then just take a step back, dust yourself off, get your breath back and follow your heart all over again (if you can keep up with it).

Mac daddy

tell her how you fell, i she doesn't react the same ditch get a another one, because then you know that she doesn't feel the same about you.
Don't worry there are plenty more fish in the sea :ninja:

The Corinthian

You can’t make someone love you.

All you can do is stalk them and hope that they panic and give in.

Big Chief

What you need to do is not to see her, not to talk to her, not to text her, not speak to her generally. if you do that, within weeks you'll start to feel much better......believe me.

not getting drunk during that ^ phase is something i can recommend through experience.

vibe666

seriously though, it's not going to happen, and you'll have to come to terms with this before you can get on with your life properly.

If you stick around her hoping that one day you'll 'get your chance' you'll end up making an arse of yourself and possibly end up alienating yourself completely.

If you can't deal with that right now then look at it this way. She's not going to have you the way you are now, you just aren't as compatible as you would like. She needs to be able to feelk the same way for you, as you do for her for things to work out, and to do that you'll need to grow into someone who she will want to be with. I don't mean grow up, I just mean go out and do stuff, learn more how to be around people of the opposite sex without getting deeeply emotionally involved with them.

Expect nothing from a woman and you'll never be disappointed. Take every step with people one at a time rather than aiming towards something you might not ever get.

then maybe, one day you might get to meet back up with her and if you've made yourself into someone who can deal with people more easily and keep in control of your emotions you could win her over. maybe.

LegacyUser

i submitted a thread much like you'rs not very long ago, called "see theres this girl"
Its good to vent it cos it eats you up inside, (believe me i know)but i got some good advice from the members here.
Sounds like you're idealising her (sp?) Its tough (very)

Tell her how you feel, Really... It will be a huge load of you're mind, and if she dosent feel the same sure it'll be tough but at least you're sure then and you can move on.
(hey, maybe she feels the same bout you too, who knows)

AngelofFire

man i know how ya feel ive been in that sitaution more than once. its hard but ya just have to learn to let go of them. i had a crush on this girl bout 2 and a half years ago who was a total bitch i dunno why i was young and stoopid. but i learned to let of go of her and a month later i got into a relationship with this other girl which lasted a year and two months so i was fortunate. I havnt actually had good experiences with girls ive fancied but recently i had been fallen for girls who i got along well with. sadly lack of success has made me cynical about crushes. so i dont let myself take a fancy to someone too easily any more.

fisty

Don't worry,
It's all part of growing up.

Once you realise that no women will ever find you attractive the world will become less complicated and you can get a nice dead end job as an accountant.

Wolf

The thing is when you find a girl like that it hurts. There will be other girls but it will take you years to find them. Just take your time. To love that strongly is a blessing and a curse.

LegacyUser

your infatuation is based on a physical attraction.
talk to the woman and you'll see that you have nothing in common.

AL][EN

Believe me mate i know exactly how you feel i have another thread on personal issues just like this, the whole "woe is me, the love of my life is gone" type thing,

my suggestion to you is listen to what the guys on boards have to say. everything (well almost everything) they say is 100% right the good points and the bad,

at the end of the day its down to you what you gotta do whats best for you mate this i know now.

coming on boards and spilling all to the boards community will only make those feelings go away for a while it makes you feel better just talking about it but eventually they'll come back the person you should be talking to is the most important one of all
that this girl your mad after. you have to be prepared for the fact that she may not feel the same way about you which is i have to admit is about as good as a kick in the stones but you have to accept it and move on. easier said than done i know we've all been where you are now and its not fun but you have to otherwise you'll spend the rest of your life stewing

im only 23 and im crazy about a girl too im not sure if it will work out but im willing to accept the fact that i might not and the only way im ever going to find out is by talking to her.

G'luck mate
what ever you decide I hope it works out for you.

Typedef

Originally posted by AL][EN
Believe me mate i know exactly how you feel i have another thread on personal issues just like this, the whole "woe is me, the love of my life is gone" type thing,

Yeah right.

And try not to think about all the people all over the world living in poverty or getting killed by war, because that'll really make you feel better about having a broken heart.

AL][EN

What? i do know how he feels i went through it myself, it wasnt a joke or a stab at him it was just a statment

the difference is i can accept the fact that life hard and it doesnt work out all the time....

there's better things in life to be doing than moping around after a lost love that isnt going to work out. Life's to short for that kind of 5h*t (of course i only came to accept this over the last 3 days)

Dr Bolouswki

fvck all that having feelings sh1t - you'd be surprised at how much just beating the **** out of random chicks will empower you...

... then of course, you get the whole thrill of pitting your wits against the authorities - now there's a REAL challenge!

Agent7249

Want to feel empowered? Take up death sports and live!

As for the crushes thing I went trough 2, then just stopped when i came to the fact i knew nothing about em, Then a girl (who shall remain nameless) found me, and she grew on me hehe, cant get her outta my mind, Kind smart and beutiful, nothin better . Try focus on the activities in your life and a girl will find you (just make sure your hanging around quite a few girls in what your doing, or sumtin where you will meet new ones, the worst that will happen is that you'll make more good friends, the best you'll find the one ya love).