Zenify Registered User
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So my neighbour at the back of my house is always complaining about the tress at the back of our house. They are high and we are south of her garden so it blocks the light at the top end of her garden. She has always asked us to cut them down but we like the privacy they give our garden. I told her she can cut anything over her garden and she did that during the summer. I also told her she can put the pieces and over into our garden. she also complains about the ivy growing over the wall which we usually cut at the top of the wall for her (i can't understand how bare concrete can look better than ivy). However recently she has cut the ivy back from our side and pushed it back to remove it's grip from the wall so it is even hanging over our side now. It has destroyed a lot of it from our side and it took years to grow. What should I Do?

evolving_doors Moderator
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Video or it didn't happen

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kylith Registered User
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So she unstuck it from her side of the wall and shoved it back over and gravity now has pulled it off the wall on your side?

As for what you should do: you should keep your ivy trimmed so that it doesn't grow onto your neighbour's property.

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Call me Al Registered User
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Zenify said:
So my neighbour at the back of my house is always complaining about the tress at the back of our house. They are high and we are south of her garden so it blocks the light at the top end of her garden. She has always asked us to cut them down but we like the privacy they give our garden. I told her she can cut anything over her garden and she did that during the summer. I also told her she can put the pieces and over into our garden. she also complains about the ivy growing over the wall which we usually cut at the top of the wall for her (i can't understand how bare concrete can look better than ivy). However recently she has cut the ivy back from our side and pushed it back to remove it's grip from the wall so it is even hanging over our side now. It has destroyed a lot of it from our side and it took years to grow. What should I Do?


So what you're saying is she came into your garden and cut the ivy on your side of yoir joint wall, or just pushed it off the top of the wall and t fell backwards and disconnected it's grip on your side?

I've a somewhat similar situation albeit that it's in reverse. I'm the one who wants a clean bare wall, no ivy (personal choice, I really really don't like it), and would love if my neighbour would maintain what he has growing on his side of our wall and keep it cut well back. Well he needs to keep most of his shrubbery trees briars bushes etc cut back. He never does any of it though which infuriates me.
I'd never dream of going into his garden and cutting it though.
I think you should approach her and ask her why she did what she did, and then politely but firmly tell her she is not to touch anything if it isn't touching the top of the wall. I'd try to pin it back up if I could but i would try to keep its height under the capping block if you can so she can't see it. It will reattach itself quickly enough. But try to keep it off the top of the wall.

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Call me Al Registered User
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By the way it would be manners on your part to actually maintain your own trees and not expect other people to pay to do it for you. Your property is encroaching on to the property of others. Getting this work done is not cheap. I should know. Did you contribute anything to her costs?

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listermint Registered User
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Have you considered trimming the trees at the top to give them back some sunlight.

What I like to do is always put myself in their shoes.


What way would you feel .

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Teyla Emmagan Registered User
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If you trim it to take a bit of the weight off it it should reattach itself. Then keep trimming it once it reaches the top of the wall so it won't grow over the top again. Or you could probably put a bit of wire or trellis on the upper part of the wall to give it some support until it reestablishes itself.

I don't think you can do anything about the fact she pushed it back over your wall though. Realistically if it hadn't been so heavy it wouldn't have peeled itself off. I can't see you getting anywhere by complaining about it, it doesn't seem wildly unreasonable action on her part. And ivy can undermine a wall I believe (though I would personally far prefer an ivy covered wall to one without).

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Zenify Registered User
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I wasn't planning on taking legal action or complaining to authorities. Just wanted to see what people's opinions were.

She didn't come into my garden but she did cut a lot on our side. The cuts are clearly on our side, I assume she put the trimmer over the wall. Do most people think I should cut the tops of the trees? I just love them so much and I'll be looking at her house rather than trees if I cut them.

accensi0n Registered User
#9

Chop off her head.

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uberwolf Registered User
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Zenify said:
I just love them so much and I'll be looking at her house rather than trees if I cut them.


is there an elevation difference?

My answer would be that they should be maintained - you don't need to lose your tree, but if you can get a bit more light into her then that would be the neighbourly thing to do IMO

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Flippyfloppy Registered User
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Zenify said:
Do most people think I should cut the tops of the trees? I just love them so much and I'll be looking at her house rather than trees if I cut them.


Yes definitely, give her some sun, the way things are she can’t even grow plants should she wish with no sunlight.

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Murang Registered User
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You should cut the trees and keep the ivy back on your side. Just because you like ivy don’t mean every one else does. As for the trees how would you like it if someone blocked on the sunlight in you

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Wildly Boaring Registered User
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Be nice. She's your neighbour. Trim the ivy every now and again. Trim the tree a bit. Have a chat over the wall about the weather.

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salmocab Registered User
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I’d agree that you should keep your tree trimmed, obviously without seeing all the relative sizes it’s hard to know but if it’s blocking their sunshine and making their garden dark then really you should do the neighborly thing.

Aoife1049986 Registered User
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My neighbour grew ivy all along a shared back garden wall for years, we had to constantly cut it back. Now the wall is unsafe as the ivy grew through the wall. Nobody can go within 6 feet of the wall as it visibly moves, and the neighbour has no intention of making good the damage to the wall!

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