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I bought a white dress today using a voucher I got for my birthday. I had a voucher. ...the dress was half price and within voucher budget so I bought it.

Any how I was just thinking that if I accessorise it, i could bring it up to wedding guest suitability. So I broke it up with green (ribbon for a belt, green shoes, necklace, brooch and bag) and it looks really good!

The wedding is an old friend of my husband's, so we won't be in any family shots, we're not close friends and its unlikely we'll see much of them in the future. And we're flat broke, so it would really get me out of a hole. But having said that I certainly wouldn't want to offend anyone on the day...or commit a wedding guest crime!

So is it ever okay to wear white if its broken up enough or should I just steer clear altogether?

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Hannibal Smith said:
I bought a white dress today using a voucher I got for my birthday. I had a voucher. ...the dress was half price and within voucher budget so I bought it.

Any how I was just thinking that if I accessorise it, i could bring it up to wedding guest suitability. So I broke it up with green (ribbon for a belt, green shoes, necklace, brooch and bag) and it looks really good!


The wedding is an old friend of my husband's, so we won't be in any family shots, we're not close friends and its unlikely we'll see much of them in the future. And we're flat broke, so it would really get me out of a hole. But having said that I certainly wouldn't want to offend anyone on the day...or commit a wedding guest crime!

So is it ever okay to wear white if its broken up enough or should I just steer clear altogether?



I reckon its fine as your not close family and as you said u wont be in many of the shots, however my mam whos a twin wore white to her twins wedding in the 70s full length lace and a big hat to boot and her sis in law has never been the same with her since lol. If i was you i would stick with what you chose.(",)

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#3

I wouldn't if I were you. It might be fine but you might have randoms looking daggers at you all night. IMO it's disrespectful to the bride.

If you really have nothing else to wear why not see if a friend can lend you a dress?

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Lima Golf Registered User
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Once it's short and not a white maxi go for it. People are ridiculous when it comes to weddings, seriously if someone wore white to my wedding I wouldn't be thinking that witch or throwing daggers, I'd be happy they made the effort to come. This white rule is so silly. I wore a white and pink dress to a wedding abroad once and got nothing but compliments, not a dirty look in sight.

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CaptainPix Registered User
#5

I work at weddings every week and have often seen guests wearing white so guess it's not that uncommon

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Maryanne84 Registered User
#6

I wore white to a cousins wedding. It never cost me a thought. I accessorised with black. It was all I could afford at the time. Wear what you're comfortable in and have a good day.

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ted1 Registered User
#7

This may sound odd, but if your hot maybe you shouldn't wear it. Can't imagine it's go down well with the bride if there is some one hotter than her in a white dress.

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happywithlife Registered User
#8

So long as you accessorise it and it doesn't in any way resemble a bridal outfit it'd be ok
But I was at a wedding recently and there was one guest wearing white
She wasn't part of the bridal party nor would she have been in any family photos etc
But
Her dress was white, long & floaty and not at all accessorised ...
To be honest I did think to myself who did she think she was wearing such an outfit to an wedding?!

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#9

The idea is not to upstage the bride so if the bride is young and beautiful and you are less so - then go for it

true-or-false Registered User
#10

I've seen quite a few people wearing white to weddings, so it must be widely accepted.

However, personally I'd always see it as very thoughtless, and while I understand that this is a completely irrational addition, I'd also see it as vain (I understand that you're under financial constraints, but in the back of my mind when I see someone in white at a wedding I assume they must care more about how they look than showing respect to the bride). I know I'm harsh, and I'm sure the bride has better things to worry about on the day, but I can't see why there's any strong reason to ignore the custom - surely you have other dresses or friends the same size as you.

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#11

Ooh im in two minds now....I was kind of leaning towards no....but it is in no way like a wedding dress and when i put it together it looked even less so. Its knee length Audrey Hepburn style. And I'm in no way arrogant enough to think id in anyway upstage the bride. Its literally just the fact that its white.

But id hate to think there would be peoplewwhispering about 'yer one who wore white'.

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true-or-false said:
I've seen quite a few people wearing white to weddings, so it must be widely accepted.

However, personally I'd always see it as very thoughtless, and while I understand that this is a completely irrational addition, I'd also see it as vain (I understand that you're under financier constraints, but in the back of my mind when I see someone in white at a wedding I assume they must care more about how they look than showing respect to the bride). I know I'm harsh, and I'm sure the bride has better things to worry about on the day, but I can't see why there's any strong reason to ignore the custom - surely you have other dresses or friends the same size as you.


To be honest I think you're spot on. I can see how it can look thoughtless. And to be honest the bride is not a friend so that's why I can afford to be a little less thoughtful. The bride isnt even going to see me on the day...so she really isnt going to care. ..but her friends and relatives might.

I literally have nothing else...ive been to a gazillion weddings and have lots of dresses. ..but ive lost 4 stone since Christmas so none of them will fit my new teeny ass

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CaptainPix Registered User
#13

Hey happy days saying goodbye to the 4 stone eh... nice one

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#14

Thank you. ...I guess all just have to go and buy another dress then *first world problems*

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HardyEustace Registered User
#15

Congrats on the weight loss.

To be honest, I really don't think its nice to wear white at a wedding. I wouldn't dream of it.

In fairness, the sales are on right now and you can pick up some amazing dresses for half nothing.

I got a beautiful dress (for a wedding at the end of August) in Debenhams recently, it was reduced from 160euro to 30euro.

So, I really wouldn't wear white. I think after this mail thread, you could possibly feel very self conscious about it as well. Get a new dress, borrow one from a friend or find a good sale, and go and enjoy the day.

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