I've been with my girlfriend for over 3 years now and one of the deal breakers that she had to get over is my habit of going out to get groceries and instead coming back with some rare/obscure film or toy. As I tell her, someday she will send me out for the basics with out last 20 euro and I'll come home with magic beans.
For me a deal breaker would be someone who won't put in that lil bit more effort to make sure that something they are working on is great. I really can't stand people who will start something and only give it the bare minimum.
Dealbreakers: rudeness, impatience, arrogance, insensitivity, proneness to any kind of aggression, emotional immaturity, low self-worth, lack of intelligence, lying, cheating, snideness, selfishness, lack of physical attraction, effeminate demeanor, delusional personality (religious etc.)... I'm sure there are many others but it's late and this will do...
Alas, a good man is hard to find. IME
(Also, a hard man is good to find.) (tee-hee)
I believe in equality, its why I make fun of everyone.
for me, someone who does drugs would be up there, not the odd smoke or whatever, that wouldnt bother me, but someone who spends weekends off their tits on pills or coke, instaturnoff.
someone with no sense of humour, or who takes offence, or even worse, fake offence, to everything, and who can't poke fun at themselves.
overly religious, wouldnt work.
someone with crappy taste in stuff I like
Independence is a big one for me. For example, I would find it VERY difficult to date someone who still lives at home.
Self-confidence ... I like a guy to be able to be himself, and know what he wants, and not care too much about other peoples' opinions of him, e.g. what his friends think, etc. Someone who can is openminded and can take on board advice and opinions, but who has confidence in their own beliefs and ideals.
I can't ever see myself dating anyone religious. I just can't understand that mindset, and anyways it would cause all sorts of problems long-term.
I couldn't date a workaholic. Been there, done that, never again! I'd much prefer someone who works to live, rather than vice versa.
A bit of a shallow one But I don't think I'd date someone shorter than me. (I'm only a shortarse myself though, so that's an easy one!)
I don't think I'd date someone involved in drugs. Never done them myself, and it's just not something I'd want to be involved with. (Smoking and drinking are fine!)
Jealous, possessive, controlling guys are the biggest turn-off in the world to me. I've never been involved in that sort of a relationship, but I've seen friends who have, and it's scary! I'd run a mile if I ever saw a sign of any of that sort of crap. It just shows a complete lack of trust and respect, in my opinion.
Other than that ... It's all about this mysterious "spark" that everyone talks about. If that's not there, then no matter how perfect the person is on paper, there's no point in trying to force a connection that doesn't exist!
She just reminded me of the time I went out to get milk, bread, tea bags, chocolate and some beer and came back with a J Rocc vinyl, an ealy B.o.B mixtape and nothing else.
Heavy drinker is a no no.
Someone who moans and moans rather than does something about a problem.
Lack of drive or ambition.
My dealbreakers in no particular order.
1. Someone who wants kids
2. Religious to any degree, I am tired of having to explain why I don't agree with their beliefs.
3. Doesn't like Star Trek / Star Wars
4. Wants to change me - "stop playing that console etc"
5. Bigots. Enough said.
6. Cheaters - or someone who has had a relationship with a married man.
However the worst dealbreaker I ever hit was when I was in a bar with a girlfriend and her best mate having a drink when her "boyfriend" from the young-IRA strolled in with all his mates. This was not a good night, needless to say it was the last time I went out with her. Worst and longest night - and will leave it at that.
Smoker / Druggie - immediate nope. Have ended relationships in the past for this, not a single regret especially seeing these folk 20 yrs later. Amazing how some folk age when abusing their bodies so much.
Noisey eaters..absolute no no for me.
i actually couldnt go out with someone who doesnt like console games!
id like someone to play the 360 with me sometimes
What's embarrassing about that?
If that's what you like to do, it's what you like to do.
I have 2 mega bug bears:
1) someone who is overly clingy
2) someone who cheats
I was in a relationship with a girl who would text about 7 million times a day (the girl would go through 20 euro credit in a few hours) and if I didn't reply within a minute I would either get another text or I "didn't care enough about her".
It's an insecurity I know but it was just too much, one day I was out with the folks and was told to "get off your f*cking phone" - so I told the gf I would talk to her later....at that stage she "got lonely".....and number 2 above happened!
she was a c*nt! (suppose that could be number 3 - "someone who is a c*nt")
i dunno maybe because its not that much of a girly thing to do haha
I've been thinking about this recently and the deal-breakers for me would be:
Drugs - while I don't mind hash as such, it's not entirely for me, but any sort of hardcore drug use would be definite walk-away material
Smokers - I'm a non-smoker, hate the way it smells, tastes when you kiss someone and how it leaves your room feeling afterwards.
Party-Girls/heavy-drinkers - I have no problem going out and getting drunk sometimes, but I wouldn't like to date someone for whom it was a pretty regular thing.
Messy people - I'm generally a neat person and it would really bother me if the person I was seeing was overly messy. I don't mind clothes thrown around the place, but like say if a cup of half-drunken tea was still there a week after the person had last drank from it. Then it gets a little silly.
Judgmental people - this really bothers me. I try and give everyone a chance, until they do something really wrong to me. But I hate people who judges someone straight away.
People who are stuck in their ways - OK, I love trying new things. Whatever it may be, I love experiencing them. It would annoy me if someone wasn't at least a bit adventurous as well.
This is definitely one of my pet hates too. I know the "never judge a book" saying is a cliche but it's true. I would also never judge someone on someone else's experience of them.
And in agreement with some other posts, I would never ever be friends with or go out with a racist or a bigot. End of.