OddOneOut Registered User
#1

Hello,

This is my first post (nervous cough ).

Anyway, I'm am just putting the feelers out as have been thinking of starting a social group in Cork for other child free people in thier 30's.

A bit about me:
I am 33, female and although I have a great group of friends I have slowly over the past few years become the 'Odd one out' as I seem to be the only one without children. (This is by choice).

As much as I love my friends, it has come to the stage where it is almost impossible to have an uninterupted cup of coffee / chat with any of them. Worse, if there is a group of us together I find myself having to sit listening to conversations about nappy rash / breastfeeding / childminders etc.

Now before anyone jumps down my throat - I am not holding any of this against my friends. I fully understand that obviously when you have a baby this takes over your whole life, at least for the first few years and it is important to talk to other mothers about different issues.
I just miss the old days when we could hang out and talk about a range of subjects or do anything remotely spontaneeous without them having to arrange babysitters at least a week in advance.

I'm just wondering if there are any other women out there who feel the same and would be interested in maybe getting together as a social group?
Men - more than welcome also. Is it the same for child free men or do you even notice a difference among your friends???

Anyone interested in a meet up in Cork city please let me know - if nothing else perhaps it will start an interesting discussion here!

Thanks.

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Owen Registered User
#2

Yup, 30 odd here, little or no interest in having kids. I'm just not the paternal type!

#3

Me, with kids?

Bahahahahaa.

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#4

Nope.

Great idea though, hope it works out

lukin Registered User
#5

Me?Children?Sure I've hardly been born myself!

RoverJames Banned
#6

I'd love to have kids when I grow up, not ready at the moment, I struggle to look after myself tbh, not a great way to be but such is life............ I'm 31

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sok2005 Registered User
#7

What if you meet up and end up hooking up with each other, by chance, one gets pregnant, are you then removed from the group?!?

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MrFrisp Registered User
#8

I'm in My mid-40's.....Have 4 kids...

Banned from the Group even before it forms..


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Malari Registered User
#9

By chance all my friends are also childfree. I'm not friends with them because they are childfree Is that enough to have something in common?

sok2005 Registered User
#10

You find yourself having to sit listening to conversations about nappy rash / breastfeeding / childminders etc.

I find myself having to sit listening to conversations about ridiculous nights out / men not calling women back after a date / wasting money on completely useless stuff etc but I still wouldn't turn my back on my friends just because they are at a different life stage.

The childless and the childrearing can unite! There's enough segregation in the world!

Any chance of getting a spot of babysitting from ya?

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MrFrisp Registered User
#11

sok2005 said:
You find yourself having to sit listening to conversations about nappy rash / breastfeeding / childminders etc.

I find myself having to sit listening to conversations about ridiculous nights out / men not calling women back after a date / wasting money on completely useless stuff etc but I still wouldn't turn my back on my friends just because they are at a different life stage.

The childless and the childrearing can unite! There's enough segregation in the world!

Any chance of getting a spot of babysitting from ya?



Babysitting?

From Moi?


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OddOneOut Registered User
#12

sok2005 said:


I find myself having to sit listening to conversations about ridiculous nights out / men not calling women back after a date / wasting money on completely useless stuff etc but I still wouldn't turn my back on my friends just because they are at a different life stage.

The childless and the childrearing can unite! There's enough segregation in the world!


I'm not turning my back on my friends either - expanding your social group does not mean disregarding your existing friends. Having peers is an important aspect of any society, hence the formation of social groups who share common interests / lifestyles.

Also, the childrearing and the childfree (I hate the term 'childless' - it suggest something is missing from your life that should be there) can certainly unite - they do so everyday. No one calls it segregation when parents groups are formed.

As I said, I'm just putting the feelers out to see if there are people out there interested in something like this - if not it's no big deal. I won't be forcing anyone into anything or declaring war on parents or anything !

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Knasher Registered User
#13

SexyGuy said:
Banned from the Group even before it forms..


I was going to make a Simpsons reference to the No Homers Club, but I have a feeling it would backfire on me with your username.

MrFrisp Registered User
#14

Knasher said:
I was going to make a Simpsons reference to the No Homers Club, but I have a feeling it would backfire on me with your username.



Give it a lash..

We're here for the fun..


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quietsailor Registered User
#15

35 and childless. All my friends keep telling me I don't know what I'm missing - I wonder have they looked in a mirror lately at the bags under their eyes

I'd be game to meet up, it'd be like a motors meet or a Cork city meet (Still haven't gotten to one of those though ) so nothing new for boards - introducing random groups of strangers.

What do you think OP/folks, anyone up for meeting some day/night?

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