Amelia, a blogger for The Huffington Post has recently written about her seven-year old son telling her that he's gay. If the below is TL;DR, that's the important point.
How do you think you'd react?
I think I might be initially surprised, but I think at such a young age when kids have little sexual awareness, it's not so strange to have same-sex crushes (though I don't recall having any) and they can't really know if they're gay or straight.
If he was getting close to his teenage years and he was still insisting he's gay as much as this kid is insisting, I'd try to make sure he really felt it, and wasn't letting his insistence get in the way of discovering his sexuality for himself. I'd be the same if my son was hitting puberty and kept going on about how straight he was. I'd be suspicious by the level of insistence.
Reading about the parents' reaction in this case though, I am struck by how differently my parents would've reacted if I had told them I was gay when I was seven, and how times have changed (for the better overall, though I can't help but have a slight dislike for a father telling his son he's awesome. But that's mostly my issue with the word "awesome."). They wouldn't have got angry (and if I had turned out to have been gay, they would've been fine with that, though I'm sure it would've taken some time for them to adjust to it) but they would have tried to stop me saying it very quickly. And immediately given me a football and a toy gun, if only because they knew how much hassle a gay person would get!
How do you think you'd react in this situation?
Even if you have no ounce of prejudice in your body, would you still be a bit shocked?
Would you have some kind of talk with your son?
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- Kid watches Glee.
- Kid mimics popular Glee character.
It's what kids do.
I watched James Bond as a kid and despite what I told my parents I am not, nor was I ever, a fucking spy.
I think that's what happened here.
The kid likes Blaine.
Blaine says he's gay.
The kid says he's gay to be more like Blaine, possibly not knowing what being gay means.
Though I wouldn't let my seven-year old watch Glee.
Not because of the gay characters or characters having sex, but because it's ****e.
I could've told you that I was gay at 7, maybe even a bit younger. I just didn't know what it was back then, or that it was considered "different"
does a 7 year old even know what being gay is?
Some gay people usually know they were gay all their lives. They realise that when they understand what gay is.
But if this kid has a role model in a popular TV series and he realises that I am like them. Then perhaps he would get that realisation earlier.
I don't necessarily think it is a good thing, not because the child is gay, but he knows about sexuality. I barely knew what sex i was when I was a kid, never mind about sex.
If i had a 7 yr old son who wanted to watch Glee, there would be no doubt in my mind that he was gay.
I've heard a few gay people say that. I can't imagine what that would be a like, probably because, as a straight person, I wouldn't have "felt" straight, as that was considered the norm.
I wouldn't have had sexual feelings, but I knew that boys were "supposed to" like girls.
Maybe if I were gay I would've noticed though, like you said.
I wonder if he really does know about it. He might think that being gay just means behaving in a certain way (like Blaine, basically) or he might realise that he likes boys, but in a more proto-romantic way as opposed to in a sexual way. Like the way a straight seven-year old girl would tell you that she's going to marry Justin Bieber.
My daughter has always been what would be considered a "tomboy". When she played games, she chose boys names etc. When she was 3, my husband was asking her would he do for a wedding we were going to. He was in jeans! She said he would, but that he would have to wear a suit for her wedding. He told her that she better marry a nice man then to which she replied "I might marry a woman". My husband just said, yeh, you might, and she turned and walked out of the room.
If my daughter (who is now 7 and sitting here shooting a nerf gun at my walls) actually said the words "I'm a lesbian", yes, I'd be taken aback, but only by the words, not by what it actually means.
I think I would have got slapped.
I don't think it is just the case of a kid mimicking what they have seen on tv. When I was about 7, I had a crush on Jo from the "Facts of Life" and I told my mother that I was going to marry her when I grew up. I think at some basic element, children do learn what they like and they can accept it, but it is parents - in their constant desire to protect and shield their children - that cause people to question their visceral identity.
Could it be argued he sees it around him with his parents friends and then is open to it.
Is it environment or something you are born with?
I don't know, just asking
It might be that he already has some inkling of his sexual persuasion, and seeing gay couples normalises that for him and makes him willing to express it.
Or it might be that he has no awareness of sex at all and thinks marrying a man would be better than marrying an icky girl!
I think ultimately though, I'd go with the first one. You're born with your sexuality, but your environment can make you more likely to embrace or suppress it.