Galvasean Registered User
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Guilty as charged.

Armaghmagic Registered User
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Armaghmagic said:

I was thinking of leaving it until Sunday (as her first week back may be tough, with Juniour Cert practical exams on), and then calling her to find out what the story is. What do you think?

I just really like her and we have spoken about the way you have to ignore people on POF if you dont like their messages but I think we have gone beyond that stage of it being ok to ignore me??


Sounds like she has found somebody else or lost interest in you but is too cowardly to give you the time / decency to tell you. Happens a lot (and it's not exclusive to people you meet online either) these days. As Lotwan said, it takes a few seconds to take a text. If she's not willing to spare a precious minute of her life for you then she's being extremely rude and not worth your time.
And yes, it has gone well beyond the stage where it is okay for her to simply ignore you, but people can be rude dicks like that.
It's happened to a few times at this point. It sucks donkey balls when it happens, especially if thing had appeared to be going extremely well, but the best thing you can do is move on and forget her.
As an aside, personally I like to text them to tell them how rude they have been and how they lack common courtesy. It never achieves anything, but damn I don't like the idea of just letting them away with being so callous.


Yeah I was thinking I was being ignored alright but didn't want to admit it......in fairness when we were chatting about meeting up it could take her a day to txt back! I definitely can't leave it like this! If I hear nothing there will be contact made about how rude she is being, there is a real person with real feelings here! Nothing worse than plain bad manners.

That_Guy Registered User
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Armaghmagic said:
Yeah I was thinking I was being ignored alright but didn't want to admit it......in fairness when we were chatting about meeting up it could take her a day to txt back! I definitely can't leave it like this! If I hear nothing there will be contact made about how rude she is being, there is a real person with real feelings here! Nothing worse than plain bad manners.


It sounds like she might be ignoring you mate. Sucks. It shouldn't be a case of you having to figure it out for yourself by "taking the hint". It should be a case of her having the decency to just let you know if she's interested or not.

It only takes a minute to send a text or give you a call to let you know where you stand instead of racking your brains about it.

Armaghmagic Registered User
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Well im glad people see why I am annoyed / confused......a terrible thing to say but there are plenty off the site that I would love to have ignore me! Just the way life is I guess!

Well I have sent her a txt, and this is the jist of it:

"Hey Mary (fake name), I was just wondering why you have been ignoring my txts.....if you don't want to see me again then that is ok, I just think I deserve at least a text after collecting and dropping you from and to your house, taking you out for dinner, etc. I realise you may be busy with work but it should'nt take this long to reply. I basically just want to know where I stand as I do like you but can't wait around forever, you understand?"

A bit OTT or what do you guys think?

Galvasean Registered User
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Chances are she wont reply to you, but with any luck you may have sewn some seeds in her mind so she might be a bit nicer to the next poor sap.

That_Guy Registered User
#6,426

Seems like an alright text to me lad. Now stick in a few F Bombs and you're good to go.

Armaghmagic Registered User
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Galvasean said:
Chances are she wont reply to you, but with any luck you may have sewn some seeds in her mind so she might be a bit nicer to the next poor sap.


Yeah I realise that but I have signed up to free txts to all networks so at least it cost me nothing

Armaghmagic Registered User
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That_Guy said:
Seems like an alright text to me lad. Now stick in a few F Bombs and you're good to go.


Oh trust me I had to restrain myself

Not tarring all the ladies with the same brush, im sure this is an isolated incident.....if any wish to reinstate my trust in the female species feel free to PM me

andreac Registered User
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Armaghmagic said:
Oh trust me I had to restrain myself

Not tarring all the ladies with the same brush, im sure this is an isolated incident.....if any wish to reinstate my trust in the female species feel free to PM me


If its any consolation ive been through this several times recently with several different guys, being ignored after meeting up, its horrible.

A simple text isnt that hard to write to someone. You dont have to see the person ever again, its only a few words.

But on the other hand, the guy i met a month ago is lovely, we've met up twice and had a lovely time, been in touch everyday and hes great at keeping in contact. I have a good feeling about this one

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Armaghmagic Registered User
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andreac said:
If its any consolation ive been through this several times recently with several different guys, being ignored after meeting up, its horrible.

A simple text isnt that hard to write to someone. You dont have to see the person ever again, its only a few words.

But on the other hand, the guy i met a month ago is lovely, we've met up twice and had a lovely time, been in touch everyday and hes great at keeping in contact. I have a good feeling about this one


Well it is good to hear a success story to keep the spirits up so thanks and I hope it works out for you

It will be interesting to see what she replies with (if anything which is unlikely). There are POF in the sea so I guess I will just have to polish the rod (no innuendo meant) and add some new bait!

LoTwan Registered User
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Regardless of the llama guy I have turned my profiles off. I need a few days to clear my head

Armaghmagic... I'm sorry she messed you around. It's not nice, at all.

That_Guy Registered User
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Armaghmagic said:

I guess I will just have to polish the rod (no innuendo meant) and add some new bait!


My tagline is "Just sticking my rod out there so apologise you need not.

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Armaghmagic Registered User
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That_Guy said:
My tagline is "Just sticking my rod out there so apologise you need not.


Love it.......has cheered my day up no end

BraziliaNZ Banned
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Do none of you tire of this dating thing? It's just such a pain meeting strangers and going through the same chit chat all the time. Some of you seem to go on so many dates I don't know where you get the enthusiasm. Tried dating for a while and the whole thing just made me appreciate being single tbh. Anyone else feel this way?

Galvasean Registered User
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BraziliaNZ said:
Do none of you tire of this dating thing? It's just such a pain meeting strangers and going through the same chit chat all the time. Some of you seem to go on so many dates I don't know where you get the enthusiasm. Tried dating for a while and the whole thing just made me appreciate being single tbh. Anyone else feel this way?


Sometimes. Take a break. Long for it again. Go back. repeat cycle ad nausea.

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