He didn't say you weren't
He was comparing the difference between a "Lady" and a "Laddette."
He didn't say I wasn't what?
Maybe I read that wrong, but I saw that as assuming that I'm not seen as a tomboy/one of the lads and that I don't drink much.
There are other roles between lady and laddette I hope
Incorrect. You're seen as a lady, and thus treated like a delicate flower. It's usually how you carry yourself that dictates this. I'm not saying that this is a bad thing; this is how most men have been programmed to treat a lady.
Georgina/George from the Famous Five would be classed as a tomboy and would be treated as a ladette from the get go.
I see nothing wrong with lads seeing a woman as a lady, as they'll help her out. A "ladette" won't receive (nor often take) as much help.
With respect, Mr Syco, it's a little absurd for you to assume I carry myself like a lady seeing as you've never met me. You are talking through your hat. You are suggesting that I act like a delicate little flower and therefore I deserve that treatment. I only wish you knew how wrong you were.
Were the famous five not children? And isn't 'ladette' a fairly derogatory term? Maybe you attach a different meaning to it. In my part of the country, it's the female equivalent of 'scumbag' - i.e. a woman with no class
Your dichotomy of 'delicate little lady flower' and 'ladette' is a false one. Do you not see that the vast majority of women don't fit into either of these categories?
Anyway, I think we are derailing the thread.
If you buy a nice classic car I'll show you mine if you show me yours.
Then maybe we can race them
If Your a lad, Join a club soccer, gaa, darts, poker could be anything really
If Your a girl well coming from where I live the only way girls seem to become friends with lads is on a night out or through mutal friends which isnt really helpful
I give much the same advice for this question as I do for people looking for a partner on the Relationship Advice forum here. The best way to meet someone is to stop trying.
Instead invest yourself in the things you enjoy, most especially the social aspects of those things. There are few hobbies that do not have some social aspect. If music is your hobby find jamming sessions, if learning a language is your hobby find conversation groups. Few hobbies can not be explored socially.
Things like friends, partners, drinking buddies and so on then sort of work themselves out without you even trying. You will be just doing your thing and you will hear, or maybe you will say yourself "who is up for drinks when we are done here?" and it will go from there.
+ about a billion
There's nothing more annoying that a girl who's all flirty then you find out she's not interested for whatever reason. To be honest I'm sceptical when people say they are flirts and don't realise it etc. If you don't want people to get the wrong idea, don't flirt with them. It's pretty easy not to flirt with someone. It's not like it's something impossible like sneezing with your eyes open.
Im taken as I am or not at all, as I said previous Im unaware Im doing it, I dont limit it to men either.
And in your experience its easy not to flirt with someone because Im sure your aware your doing it.
Well fair enough, but you must have some awareness of it in order to say you are doing it and not knowing.
Anyway, that's not the point of the thread. I guess just try out some clubs, and stuff that men are interested in. I think there's been some good advice in previous replies.
And your right it isnt the point of the thread, thanks for your input. There is some great advice
You have to change your sense of humor around ladies otherwise you could be done for some sort of harassment.