HunnyNut Guest
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I wanted to ask because it's a bit of a touchy subject, most women would not admit it and i wanted to know if the majority of women do, My partner wouldn't have a very high sex drive, I have found myself lately ''satisfying myself'' and now I have started watching porn. Am I just really old fashioned but it feels a little wrong....any Ladies out there going through anything similiar?

rainbow kirby Moderator
#2

Nothing wrong with a bit of self-service.

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Sardonicat Registered User
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HunnyNut said:
I wanted to ask because it's a bit of a touchy subject,



Absolutley nothing "wrong" with taking things into your own hands. No need to feel embarrased, it's perfectly normal and natural. do you think it's wrong 'cos you're in a relationship or just wrong in general?

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Hunny Nut Guest
#4

Wrong - that I am in a relationship and that when he's not here I ''look after myself'', he picked up my laptop and it came up in history he looked at me and I was mortified - made up some ridiculous story - that even I wouldn't believe about my friend and I looking for Paris Hilton's vid as a laugh! Do most women do this, this is the first relationship I have done this. feel like I'm cheating in a sense.....

#5

I've had and witnessed loads of discussions about female masturbation and I've only ever heard two women say they didn't. I don't see why touching your own genitals should be viewed as wrong - we should revel in the ability we have to naturally de-stress and get the oxytocin and endorphins flowing.

Most importantly, without a good understanding of what makes our own bodies tick - how do we ever show a partner what really does it for us? I think women who don't explore every facet of their sexuality and orgasm are seriously doing themselves a disservice.

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#6

There's definitely nothing wrong with women masturbating it's a natural thing.

Whether women admit it or not they all have urges and if they act on those urges it certainly not bad and you shouldn't feel guilty, sometimes a bit of self exploration is what a girl needs

#7

I do it. If anybody asked me I'd offer the info but I wouldn't just be like "so I like to touch myself". There's nothing wrong with doing it while in a relationship, I'm sure a lot of men still have a sneaky go too.

Panthro Registered User
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If the tables were turned, and you found out he was caught having a gawk a one or two vids on the internet, how would you feel?
My guess is something along the lines of "hoh, blokes and their pawrn" and think nothing more of it. He may be thinking along a similar line, or he may be thinking "my girlfriend looks at porn...thats ahhh...kinda hot!"
Either way, I don't really see it as "cheating"

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Hunny Nut Guest
#9

Ah another way to look at it I suppose!thank you, god it's like weight off my mind!

Pembily Registered User
#10

It's not cheating, how in the name of God is it cheating?? You are playing with yourself, there is nothing wrong with it or watching porn! When I was with my ex I would play with myself if he was too tired and he did the same! It's natural and fun, relax!?

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krudler Registered User
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Hunny Nut said:
Wrong - that I am in a relationship and that when he's not here I ''look after myself'', he picked up my laptop and it came up in history he looked at me and I was mortified - made up some ridiculous story - that even I wouldn't believe about my friend and I looking for Paris Hilton's vid as a laugh! Do most women do this, this is the first relationship I have done this. feel like I'm cheating in a sense.....


I'd find it strange if a girl didn't masturbate, course its not cheating you're doing it with yourself, as for porn being equated to cheating, piffle, its just a visual stimulation nothing more. prefering porn to actual sex in a relationship would be an issue, but using it as a relief? nothing wrong with it.

Thanks to the backwards sexual attitudes for decades in this country (which is a different debate altogether) women, well actually everyone have been told that masturbating is wrong, well balls to that says I. Everyone does it, nothing to be ashamed of. It relieves stress, is something to look forward to after a ****ty day at work (I know I'm not alone in this lol) makes you feel good for a while afterwards, and is all round awesome.

you'd imagine since Ann Summers arrived more women would say (I wont say "admit" cos that implies its something to be ashamed of) they do it.

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Faith Mary Berry is my idol
#12

Am I the only one who finds it a bit dull and hollow? It scratches an itch, sure, but it's not even remotely close to the satisfaction I get from being with a partner. I only do it when I'm fairly desperate. I always wondered if I was missing something with it! But at the end of the day, orgasms are only a very small part of sex for me - it's the whole thing that I enjoy, especially feeling another body pressed against mine. So it would follow that self-love doesn't do much for me.

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colc1 Registered User
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HunnyNut said:
I wanted to ask because it's a bit of a touchy subject, most women would not admit it and i wanted to know if the majority of women do, My partner wouldn't have a very high sex drive, I have found myself lately ''satisfying myself'' and now I have started watching porn. Am I just really old fashioned but it feels a little wrong....any Ladies out there going through anything similiar?


Every woman does it how could they resist same urges as men....

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Faith said:
Am I the only one who finds it a bit dull and hollow? It scratches an itch, sure, but it's not even remotely close to the satisfaction I get from being with a partner. I only do it when I'm fairly desperate. I always wondered if I was missing something with it! But at the end of the day, orgasms are only a very small part of sex for me - it's the whole thing that I enjoy, especially feeling another body pressed against mine. So it would follow that self-love doesn't do much for me.


Screams* - not doing it right. Sorry.

*pun intended

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Faith said:
Am I the only one who finds it a bit dull and hollow? It scratches an itch, sure, but it's not even remotely close to the satisfaction I get from being with a partner.


I don't find it dull or hollow - in fact, I've had some tremendous DIY orgasms and some stupendously dull sex...I don't think sex and masturbation are mutually exclusive either, tbh.

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