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Basically my g/friend likes to be spanked..which is fine. I am not into it myself but she is and I like pleasing her.
But then she wants me to take her from behind (no probs there) and in the middle of the deed she will say
"Tell me how much of a whore/dirty slut I am"...
Now I love my GF very much but I find it impossible to start calling her a "whore" and "dirty slut"....
Any comments appreciated.
What you could do when she asks you to call her a whore / slut is just ask her when she asks you to do it:
"You want me to call you a whore, yeah?"
"you want me to call you a dirty slut, yeah?"
You're not technically calling her those names but it will still have the desired effect for her.
It's just talking dirty. It doesn't mean you actually think she is a dirty slut or a whore, it obviously turns her on, at least give it a try. If you don't like it then you'll know you will have tried, you might get quite into it.
Reminds me of this classic SATC episode
Then these are the words you tell her when she asks you to do it again, she will/should understand.
You're taking this too seriously. There's a world of difference between a bit of harmless dirty talk that's actually been invited and seriously referring to your partner in those terms.
Im sure the OP is only to aware its not going to mean anything, however that doesnt mean he has to be comfortable with it, if he cant do it, he cant do it.
Just like some women would be upset if you said it (even though it wasnt meant as its just dirty talk), some men are upset at the thoughts of saying it.
You should be prob be more worried if she was a whore or dirty slut...
I think you both are thinking of these terms in different ways.
You think 'whore' or 'dirty slut' and you think nasty, STD ridden creature.
She simply thinks 'whore' or 'dirty slut' as woman who enjoys sex (ie 'good' girls just lie there and pretend to like sex for their husbands but really just want babies). Use it in that context.
You're not screaming "you whore, I hate" you. Your going porn star and whispering "You want this, don't you you dirty slut. You like this..." in a cocky manner.
What happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom - it doesn't mean anything otherwise. Obviously though, if you're still not comfortable with it you can't do it.
And if it's an actual turn off, you may need to compromise. IE if she only likes this style of sex, and if you only like the romantic, stare into my eyes and whisper sweetly style, you may need to alternate or something.
I think you can talk dirty and satisfy that side of her without using those terms.
Instead of calling her a slut you could say things like "Oh thats so good, you're so kinky, so dirty".
Even throw in a " kinky bitch" remark if you want.
No, she wants WHORE SLUT etc, give the girl what she wants OP could be worse
If this was a woman posting that her bf wanted her to do something she wasn't entirely comfortable with I don't think people would be advising "its harmless" or "just give it a try".
OP, if you dont feel comfortable with it you should explain this to your OH. She may accept this or she might suggest less extreme suggestions.
I don't see the problem myself. It's just dirty talk, I would have thought it was quite normal and common. It's not like you don't respect her or are using these terms to degrade her.
It may seem uncomfortable for you at the start but hey just think of it as roleplay and try it out in the heat of the moment if she's asking she won't be offended and she appreciate the effort.
Lets face it roleplay is about trying out things that are a bit taboo but when your with someone you trust then everything is worth a try.
If you really dislike the idea you might have to come to a compromise, she maybe a girl who like s the running commentary like "I'm going to do this ..." " bet you'll like it when I do that " etc not particularily offense but descriptive also it might be easier then trying to think of my complex things to say as you basically just shout out what your doing at the time.
Call her anything she wants you to call her. She's asking you to CALL her a slut or a whore, not to SEE her as a whore or a slut or TREAT her as a whore or a slut or THINK she is a whore or a slut.... You get my meaning I'm sure...
She's asking you to use words... What happens during sex stays during sex. They're words, it turns her on. I'm sure (well I hope) she does things for you that turn you on?
They're only words.....
If you are not comfortable with it don't do it.
Have a talk about it and see what your feelings are and why and what hers are too.
This type of name calling in the bedroom is pretty commonplace for a lot of people but
if it's something which is upsetting for you and you can't get your head around it then don't.