james.xix Registered User
#1

I’ve been seeing my girlfriend for the last 8 months.
Some of ye know this from a previous thread of mine but this has nothing to do with that, I’m not going down that road, we talked last night, have patched things up and all is good.

I’m not sure if I should make a big deal on Christmas presents though. I’d like to get something she’d like as well but not sure I I should not overdo it. I think we’d want to be going out longer for that and we have had our ups and downs recently like any couple.

Do the presents we buy say anything about people feel where they could be in a relationship or is just material and not something I should worry about?

I’d hope by her birthday or Valentine’s Day I’d be able to surprise her better.

I don’t want to put a figure on how much I spend but should I keep it small or go all out?
Would anyone have ideas?

magneticimpulse Registered User
#2

I think its best to ask her what she wants. You mentioned before that she didnt have a job. So maybe there are some things which she could actually do with. I think its good too to maybe have a budget for the 2 of you. Its definitely not good to go over the top with gifts. I spent a mad amount on clothes for my ex last year. He said the jeans were fine and few months later told me they were the wrong size. They cost bout 300 euro (2 pairs). Could have brought them back if he told me, as i dont have much cash myself.

So from my experience, it prob better to ask 1st. Always good if you can make something like a card. Sounds childish, but its the genuine effort that counts. If you dont want to ask. I got Ryanair flights for my parents last year to a europe city they wanted to visit. They loved it and it prob the best present i ever gave them.

#3

Moved from PI

jrd_old Registered User
#4

Going from the previous poster said about her not having a job, I think you both should agree on a budget.. about 20 - 40 euro..
Ye both will have to put more thought into it, and at the same time it should be affordable for your GF seen as she has no job.

Another nice idea is to trade promises.. where ye promise to do nice things for each other... again its more about the thought than anything else

james.xix Registered User
#5

jrd said:
Going from the previous poster said about her not having a job, I think you both should agree on a budget.. about 20 - 40 euro..
Ye both will have to put more thought into it, and at the same time it should be affordable for your GF seen as she has no job.

Another nice idea is to trade promises.. where ye promise to do nice things for each other... again its more about the thought than anything else


I like your idea of promising to do nice things for each other.
That'd be a good idea along with buying presents.

StargazerLily Registered User
#6

If you can afford around 50 euro, go for a piece of Newbridge Jewellery. As Jewellery goes it's not expensive, and won't come across all heavy or serious but at the same time it can be looked at as romantic and nice without 'going all out'.- it's quite fashionable and suits all budgets.....either that or a bottle of nice perfume -again can be seen as romantic but doesn't exactly say 'serious'.

dublingal80 Registered User
#7

definitely talk to her about a budget. I do that with my OH every year just to make it fair. with a lower budget I find creativity comes into it a lot more.
You can make a calender with all pics of you and her and her friends/family thats only €20. You can make her a CD with all "your" songs, and write the list of the songs you picked out for her and why you think they are special.

I love doing personal things like that and she will LOVE it

LadyMayBelle Registered User
#8

I've done the budget buys with my boyf the past few years; both students at times and/or not working so not flash with the cash!

Making a cd with songs and decorating the cover, getting some snaps from the past 8months and sticking them into a frame, going for dinner (even it is the early bird menu it's still nice!).

Regards jewelry, just make sure she likes the style; no offence to previous posts but sometimes Newbridge can be a bit run of the mill and if she isn't a fan it can be a bit token (in my experience anyway, again no offence intended, sometimes it works a treat)

hitman79 Registered User
#9

Im seeing a girl a matter of 6 weeks..we've had about 8 dates..what could i get her for xmas and how much shoud i spend?im 28 if that matters..need help on this!!

Azureus Registered User
#10

I always hate getting together with someone just before xmas as I never know what to get them. For our first christmas together (after much the same length of time) my bf took me out for a nice dinner as my pressy. It was lovely as it meant he could splash out on a date/pressy at the same time. He then got me a cd he knew i wanted and a jokey sexy construction worker calendar (as hes a plumber) so i had something to unswrap on xmas morning. It was simple but sweet and took the pressure off!

Ask her what she wants and if she gives you an answer go with that! and maybe something cheap and fun for an additional surprise.
In all probablility she wont give you a straight answer so just listen out for lil things that she mentions in conversation. Its all bout thought at the stage, and I wouldnt go too crazy on money splashing gifts. Get her something small and take her out one night, thats my advice.

hitman79 Registered User
#11

Thanks for that Azureus...i have asked already and was told a bag or jewellery...My knowledge of both is pretty limited to be honest...Somehow dont think the night out would be a runner even tho i thinks its a good idea..I'll just have to go jewellery shopping i guess .

tfak85 Registered User
#12

hitman79 said:
Thanks for that Azureus...i have asked already and was told a bag or jewellery...My knowledge of both is pretty limited to be honest...Somehow dont think the night out would be a runner even tho i thinks its a good idea..I'll just have to go jewellery shopping i guess .



after only a few weeks?! holy moly.. perhaps you guys should set a limit...

myself and my boyfriend have set a limit of 20e this year because we are going away right before christmas and as we are living together and stuff it seems a bit mad to spend huge money on things!

hitman79 Registered User
#13

Its hard to say to someone you've had about 8 dates with to set a limit without coming across as a scrooge which im not by the way!Im thinking 100-150 is plenty to spend myself considering i dont spend anything like that on family members who i've known all my life!!

E26 Registered User
#14

dublingal80 said:
definitely talk to her about a budget. I do that with my OH every year just to make it fair. with a lower budget I find creativity comes into it a lot more.
You can make a calender with all pics of you and her and her friends/family thats only €20. You can make her a CD with all "your" songs, and write the list of the songs you picked out for her and why you think they are special.

I love doing personal things like that and she will LOVE it



just wondering where can you get the calender or pictures done up for €20, its too late to be ordering on line for it, to be delivered for xmas...think its a great idea though

StargazerLily Registered User
#15

www.photobox.ie

Don't know how much but I'm always getting emails about special offers on their calenders and photobooks.

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