Came across a story this morning that I was quite frankly very surprised at -
I was going to post it in AH but felt I might get more intellectual responses than "w00t! every guy's dream!" and "Sign me up!".
Basically just wondering what you think. Of course the first time can be daunting but would you ever have resorted to this? Is there method in their madness?
Sign me up !
Opens bag of Taytos and dives behind couch waiting for xavi to be shredded!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
tbh, this showed up on the front page and i was over here like...well, me.
That's a bit bizarre to be honest. If you waited for the right person, then the first time you have sex shouldn't be a big deal, and certainly not something to be dealt with 'clinically'. To each their own, but surely they would be more comfortable with a guy they know rather than a random stranger? People make too big a deal out of losing their virginity- it's just sex.
I can see a certain amount of logic to it tbh and I can see where they're coming from.
There is a lot of pressure on women these days to be sexually confident. This seems like a very pragmatic and practical approach for some people who would like to get the nerves/worries about their first time/couple of times out of the way so that they feel comfortable and confident when it comes to forming real sexual relationships and having their first emotionally involved sexual encounters. Without sounding crass, it's like getting a few private lessons on something before going on to try it out in public, like getting a few dance lessons before you start going out to clubs.
Not everyone is a sentimental type
""Some of Berney's escorts had told him horror stories of virgins who had been unprepared for the reality of what is involved. ""
These are women in their 20ies
I have heard a fair amount of horror stories concerning girls losing their virginity over the years to understand why this might be an option for some people. For most losing their virginity is a very uncomfortable experience, and these guys won't be in it for their own sexual pleasure, they're there to do the job, so hopefully there are elements to it that would be easier. It's a bit sad that the word clinical is mentioned, sex is supposed to be about a connection between two people, abd they make it sound like a procedure in a hospital.
It wouldn't be my style, the only thing I would be able to think about would be how many people has this man put his thing in before me. I didn't lose mine until I was with someone I trusted and cared for and I certainly would never pay to be deflowered if the right person had not come along.
Maybe its just like the guys who go to Amtserdam to do the same.
I'd pay to have mine back.
Early 20s - and yes, plenty of girls that age are virgins. No offence but it's views like yours (they "should" be experienced at their age) that puts them under enough pressure to resort to drastic action like this in the first place.
Where's the guarantee you'll meet "the right person" though? I agree people shouldn't feel under so much pressure sexually, but I can understand the mindset of someone who's sick of waiting and just wants to experience it - if that's with a "professional lover", all the better.
Fair play to you. It took me seven months of moderating the place to realise that...
The article seemed to suggest some girls didnt know excactly what was going to happen. As in, chap wipes it out and the girl is like "ehm, where does he expect me to put that? " kind of way.
I think that's what curly was getting at, they dont have to be Jenna jamesison but atleast know where the bloody thing goes...
I'm not saying they should not be virgins. I was surprised by the statement they didn't know what s€xual intercourse was about. Unless you're living without any connection to the media (I'm thinking Amish here) there is no way a girl in her early 20ies wouldn't know the basics about birds and bees.
Chucky the Tree beat me to it
I agree with that bit but I can also see why some women would like to have their first experience to be from someone who is experienced as well though. They might want to just get it out of the way and not want to have to accost a random stranger in a club or whatever.
Ah I see - sorry. The way I read it was: not that they don't know what sexual intercourse involves but that they're unprepared for stuff like the need for lube/foreplay, the fact that "tightening up" due to nervousness is gonna prevent penetration from being accommodated, the soreness/discomfort that often accompanies the first time etc...