As we all know, there are a lot of passive aggressive people out there. They smile and say "no problem" but inside they're thinking **** you, and like clockwork they'll do some sort of passive aggressive action as revenge.
Personally, I don't trust passive aggressive people. I have some friends who I would consider to be ****ed -- for example, I have an exceptionally racist friend who used to buy Al Qaeda DVD's before 9/11 -- but at least he's honest; I know where I stand.
But passive aggressive people are liars - they pretend they're nice and gentle when in fact they're just too weak to say how they really feel.
As a result of this, I don't trust passive aggressive people. Luckily they're easy to spot (they're oh so nice).
Am I right? Are the oh so nice passive aggressive people liars who can't be trusted?
I dont think so - I am probably " oh so nice " actually thats a lie but I know people that just dont want to upset anyone including themselves due to others actions. Non confrontational folk that are not vocal about their emotions are in my opinion less threatening then al quada followers!
Apparently I'm passive aggressive but I'm not nice, so that's that theory out.
what about the genuinely nice people?
I was told I was nice last night.
I guess that means I'm horrible.
I'm not talking about genuinely nice people, I'm talking about passive aggressive people.
Why would I have a problem with genuinely nice people?
Ah but ARE they genuinely nice or are they just passive aggressive people you've not weeded out yet?
They might be nice. I know there are some genuinely nice/chilled people out there.
I think in general though, if someone is "too nice" there is something odd going on there, for example, they had violent parents and have reacted by becoming the opposite of them, e.g. no negative emotions.
You can generally tell passive aggressive people as their mouth is saying one thing while their eyes say something else...
If someone's actually passive aggressive then it can be very dangerous.
I've seen people have huge arguments because someone suddenly goes mad, seemingly from nowhere. It's troublesome.
id be more afraid of you then!
not sure the people you are describing are passive agressives , i would class a passive agressive as someone who was arrogant yet easily humbled who after showing assertiveness , 2 seconds later comes over all appeasing , passive agressive people are fickle , in my opinion , half the population of this country are passive agressive
the people you describe are just underhanded and sneaky
I am passive - aggressive - assertive. A walking contradiction, but I am one of those nicey nice people in general, sometimes I am genuine, othertimes I bitch behind backs while I am smiling or else there are times when I say straight out what I think and people tell me I am very harsh.
Many passive-aggressive people don't necessarily understand and analyse their actions - they just act that way because it works for them as a coping strategy in life. Can you take that sort of stuff personally?
Wiki (o wise one) defines passive agressivity thus:
It's not quite the same as being two-faced (which nearly everyone is, to some degree)
i.e. anyone who has a boss??