AARRRGH Banned
#1

As we all know, there are a lot of passive aggressive people out there. They smile and say "no problem" but inside they're thinking **** you, and like clockwork they'll do some sort of passive aggressive action as revenge.

Personally, I don't trust passive aggressive people. I have some friends who I would consider to be ****ed -- for example, I have an exceptionally racist friend who used to buy Al Qaeda DVD's before 9/11 -- but at least he's honest; I know where I stand.

But passive aggressive people are liars - they pretend they're nice and gentle when in fact they're just too weak to say how they really feel.

As a result of this, I don't trust passive aggressive people. Luckily they're easy to spot (they're oh so nice).

Am I right? Are the oh so nice passive aggressive people liars who can't be trusted?

#2

Come again?

pseudonym1 Registered User
#3

stovelid said:
Come again?




I dont think so - I am probably " oh so nice " actually thats a lie but I know people that just dont want to upset anyone including themselves due to others actions. Non confrontational folk that are not vocal about their emotions are in my opinion less threatening then al quada followers!

brianthebard Registered User
#4

Apparently I'm passive aggressive but I'm not nice, so that's that theory out.

Crumble Froo Registered User
#5

what about the genuinely nice people?

GirlInterrupted Registered User
#6

Crumble Froo said:
what about the genuinely nice people?


I was told I was nice last night.

I guess that means I'm horrible.

AARRRGH Banned
#7

Crumble Froo said:
what about the genuinely nice people?


I'm not talking about genuinely nice people, I'm talking about passive aggressive people.

Why would I have a problem with genuinely nice people?

Mena Registered User
#8

AARRRGH said:
I'm not talking about genuinely nice people, I'm talking about passive aggressive people.

Why would I have a problem with genuinely nice people?


Ah but ARE they genuinely nice or are they just passive aggressive people you've not weeded out yet?

AARRRGH Banned
#9

Mena said:
Ah but ARE they genuinely nice or are they just passive aggressive people you've not weeded out yet?




They might be nice. I know there are some genuinely nice/chilled people out there.

I think in general though, if someone is "too nice" there is something odd going on there, for example, they had violent parents and have reacted by becoming the opposite of them, e.g. no negative emotions.

You can generally tell passive aggressive people as their mouth is saying one thing while their eyes say something else...

anonymous_joe Registered User
#10

If someone's actually passive aggressive then it can be very dangerous.

I've seen people have huge arguments because someone suddenly goes mad, seemingly from nowhere. It's troublesome.

bigstar Registered User
#11

AARRRGH said:


You can generally tell passive aggressive people as their mouth is saying one thing while their eyes say something else...


id be more afraid of you then!

irish_bob Registered User
#12

AARRRGH said:
As we all know, there are a lot of passive aggressive people out there. They smile and say "no problem" but inside they're thinking **** you, and like clockwork they'll do some sort of passive aggressive action as revenge.

Personally, I don't trust passive aggressive people. I have some friends who I would consider to be ****ed -- for example, I have an exceptionally racist friend who used to buy Al Qaeda DVD's before 9/11 -- but at least he's honest; I know where I stand.

But passive aggressive people are liars - they pretend they're nice and gentle when in fact they're just too weak to say how they really feel.

As a result of this, I don't trust passive aggressive people. Luckily they're easy to spot (they're oh so nice).

Am I right? Are the oh so nice passive aggressive people liars who can't be trusted?



not sure the people you are describing are passive agressives , i would class a passive agressive as someone who was arrogant yet easily humbled who after showing assertiveness , 2 seconds later comes over all appeasing , passive agressive people are fickle , in my opinion , half the population of this country are passive agressive

the people you describe are just underhanded and sneaky

#13

I am passive - aggressive - assertive. A walking contradiction, but I am one of those nicey nice people in general, sometimes I am genuine, othertimes I bitch behind backs while I am smiling or else there are times when I say straight out what I think and people tell me I am very harsh.

#14

Many passive-aggressive people don't necessarily understand and analyse their actions - they just act that way because it works for them as a coping strategy in life. Can you take that sort of stuff personally?

Wiki (o wise one) defines passive agressivity thus:

wiki
Passive-aggressive behavior refers to passive, sometimes obstructionist resistance to following authoritative instructions in interpersonal or occupational situations. It can manifest itself as learned helplessness, procrastination, stubbornness, resentment, sullenness, or deliberate/repeated failure to accomplish requested tasks for which one is (often explicitly) responsible. It is a defense mechanism, and (more often than not) only partly conscious. For example, suppose someone does not wish to attend a party. A passive-aggressive response in that situation might involve taking so long to get ready that the party is nearly over by the time they arrive.


It's not quite the same as being two-faced (which nearly everyone is, to some degree)

J.S. Pill Registered User
#15

AARRRGH said:
They smile and say "no problem" but inside they're thinking **** you,


i.e. anyone who has a boss??

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