We talk a lot around these boards about having safe sex. I want to propose that if sex is with someone you do not already know and trust, then it's by definition seriously un-safe. FWB is one thing: you have an arrangement with a person that, presumably, you trust.
But picking up randomers and having sex with them, even while using precautions, seems to me to be taking a very serious risk, at least for heterosexual women. I would feel more trusting of lesbians - is this misguided?
I can't fathom having sex with a man I did not know and trust. The risks of assault, or just ending up somewhere you really do not want to be, just do not seem worth it for a shag. It seems to me that one night stands with strangers really ought to be avoided.
Of course, many, many assaults take place involving perpetrators known to victims, carried out by people who ought to be trustworthy, such as family members. There is no denying this. I also would not accept that a woman is responsible for an assault committed by a stranger, even if she had initially consented to sex - responsibility lies solely with perpetrators. I wish to discuss risk, not responsibility.
I noticed that a lot of you commented in the recent thread about carrying condoms (a sensible practice imo) that you do not have one night stands. Why is this?
Am interested in your views.
Also to women who enjoy one night stands with people previously unknown to you, do you ever feel fearful, or have you ever regretted the experience?