Didn't want to derail the 'broody monster' thread, but thought I'd put this up there because it's on my mind lately.
Am 35, no kids, no plans (married eight years). OH also has no desire for kids. However we're surrounded by people with small children and while they have more sense than to pressure us, I'm starting to feel like I need something else in my life because somehow I'm not taking sufficient advantage of the free time and the good money I have to myself.
I have a plethora of pets, I give money to charity and I work full time in a career job, but what else?
See, OH joined the army in his mid thirties. He left his day job (which he hated) and decided to finally do something he felt was extremely fulfilling. He still loves it and he's in nearly two years. He loves the camaraderie, the career path, the structure and the exercise. Other friends of mine who are child free and have booming and social careers have found Jesus. (Honestly. I dunno if he was down the back of the couch with the carkeys or what.) So their free time is often spent socialising in Christian groups.
Still more friends of mine who are willingly child free spend their free time in a combination of nerdy and creative pursuits - D&D games, role playing groups, writing, editing, so on.
The point is that if you hit your mid thirties with no kids and you're lucky, you have a good job, plenty of money and nobody to spend it on, and all the free time you could possibly want. However, if you still managed to grow up in that time, you're also past the wild partying days of your 20s and now you're looking for some more meaning in your life, but what do you fill it with?
So there you go, here's the question. If you don't want kids (and there seem to be a lot of loungers on here who are child free), what are you going to fill your life with instead? (And this is open to people who have kids too, because I'm sure there are occasional wistful moments amidst the chaos where you think 'if I didn't have my little darlings I'd be off doing xyz right now...')