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OddOneOut · 05-03-2012, 20:04

Hello,

This is my first post (nervous cough

).

Anyway, I'm am just putting the feelers out as have been thinking of starting a social group in Cork for other child free people in thier 30's.

A bit about me:
I am 33, female and although I have a great group of friends I have slowly over the past few years become the 'Odd one out' as I seem to be the only one without children. (This is by choice).

As much as I love my friends, it has come to the stage where it is almost impossible to have an uninterupted cup of coffee / chat with any of them. Worse, if there is a group of us together I find myself having to sit listening to conversations about nappy rash / breastfeeding / childminders etc.

Now before anyone jumps down my throat - I am not holding any of this against my friends. I fully understand that obviously when you have a baby this takes over your whole life, at least for the first few years and it is important to talk to other mothers about different issues.
I just miss the old days when we could hang out and talk about a range of subjects or do anything remotely spontaneeous without them having to arrange babysitters at least a week in advance.

I'm just wondering if there are any other women out there who feel the same and would be interested in maybe getting together as a social group?
Men - more than welcome also. Is it the same for child free men or do you even notice a difference among your friends???

Anyone interested in a meet up in Cork city please let me know - if nothing else perhaps it will start an interesting discussion here!

Thanks.

Owen · 05-03-2012, 20:23

Yup, 30 odd here, little or no interest in having kids. I'm just not the paternal type!

*Sarky* · 05-03-2012, 21:21

Me, with kids?

Bahahahahaa.

eth0 · 05-03-2012, 21:41

Nope.

Great idea though, hope it works out

lukin · 05-03-2012, 22:09

Me?Children?Sure I've hardly been born myself!

RoverJames · 05-03-2012, 22:48

I'd love to have kids when I grow up, not ready at the moment, I struggle to look after myself tbh, not a great way to be but such is life............ I'm 31

sok2005 · 06-03-2012, 09:22

What if you meet up and end up hooking up with each other, by chance, one gets pregnant, are you then removed from the group?!?

MrFrisp · 06-03-2012, 09:42

I'm in My mid-40's.....Have 4 kids...

Banned from the Group even before it forms..

.

Malari · 06-03-2012, 11:27

By chance all my friends are also childfree. I'm not friends with them because they are childfree

Is that enough to have something in common?

sok2005 · 06-03-2012, 11:42

You find yourself having to sit listening to conversations about nappy rash / breastfeeding / childminders etc.

I find myself having to sit listening to conversations about ridiculous nights out / men not calling women back after a date / wasting money on completely useless stuff etc but I still wouldn't turn my back on my friends just because they are at a different life stage.

The childless and the childrearing can unite! There's enough segregation in the world!

Any chance of getting a spot of babysitting from ya?

MrFrisp · 06-03-2012, 16:52

Quote:

Originally Posted by sok2005

You find yourself having to sit listening to conversations about nappy rash / breastfeeding / childminders etc.

I find myself having to sit listening to conversations about ridiculous nights out / men not calling women back after a date / wasting money on completely useless stuff etc but I still wouldn't turn my back on my friends just because they are at a different life stage.

The childless and the childrearing can unite! There's enough segregation in the world!

Any chance of getting a spot of babysitting from ya?

Babysitting?

From Moi?

.

OddOneOut · 06-03-2012, 17:47

Quote:

Originally Posted by sok2005

I find myself having to sit listening to conversations about ridiculous nights out / men not calling women back after a date / wasting money on completely useless stuff etc but I still wouldn't turn my back on my friends just because they are at a different life stage.

The childless and the childrearing can unite! There's enough segregation in the world!

I'm not turning my back on my friends either - expanding your social group does not mean disregarding your existing friends. Having peers is an important aspect of any society, hence the formation of social groups who share common interests / lifestyles.

Also, the childrearing and the childfree (I hate the term 'childless' - it suggest something is missing from your life that should be there) can certainly unite - they do so everyday. No one calls it segregation when parents groups are formed.

As I said, I'm just putting the feelers out to see if there are people out there interested in something like this - if not it's no big deal. I won't be forcing anyone into anything or declaring war on parents or anything

!

Knasher · 08-03-2012, 13:48

Quote:

Originally Posted by SexyGuy

Banned from the Group even before it forms..

I was going to make a Simpsons reference to the No Homers Club, but I have a feeling it would backfire on me with your username.

MrFrisp · 08-03-2012, 16:36

Quote:

Originally Posted by Knasher

I was going to make a Simpsons reference to the No Homers Club, but I have a feeling it would backfire on me with your username.

Give it a lash..

We're here for the fun..

.

quietsailor · 12-03-2012, 13:15

35 and childless. All my friends keep telling me I don't know what I'm missing - I wonder have they looked in a mirror lately at the bags under their eyes

I'd be game to meet up, it'd be like a motors meet or a Cork city meet (Still haven't gotten to one of those though

) so nothing new for boards - introducing random groups of strangers.

What do you think OP/folks, anyone up for meeting some day/night?

05-03-2012, 20:04	#1
OddOneOut Registered User Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 8 Adverts \| Friends	Are you in your 30's and child-free by choice? Hello, This is my first post (nervous cough ). Anyway, I'm am just putting the feelers out as have been thinking of starting a social group in Cork for other child free people in thier 30's. A bit about me: I am 33, female and although I have a great group of friends I have slowly over the past few years become the 'Odd one out' as I seem to be the only one without children. (This is by choice). As much as I love my friends, it has come to the stage where it is almost impossible to have an uninterupted cup of coffee / chat with any of them. Worse, if there is a group of us together I find myself having to sit listening to conversations about nappy rash / breastfeeding / childminders etc. Now before anyone jumps down my throat - I am not holding any of this against my friends. I fully understand that obviously when you have a baby this takes over your whole life, at least for the first few years and it is important to talk to other mothers about different issues. I just miss the old days when we could hang out and talk about a range of subjects or do anything remotely spontaneeous without them having to arrange babysitters at least a week in advance. I'm just wondering if there are any other women out there who feel the same and would be interested in maybe getting together as a social group? Men - more than welcome also. Is it the same for child free men or do you even notice a difference among your friends??? Anyone interested in a meet up in Cork city please let me know - if nothing else perhaps it will start an interesting discussion here! Thanks.

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05-03-2012, 20:23	#2
Owen Registered User Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 12,198 Adverts \| Friends	Yup, 30 odd here, little or no interest in having kids. I'm just not the paternal type!

05-03-2012, 21:21	#3
Sarky Herpivore Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Fort Kickass Posts: 19,144 Adverts \| Friends Mod: Ask Doctor Demento, Esoteric Order of Dagon, Legends of the Boards, The Cuckoo's Nest	Me, with kids? Bahahahahaa.

05-03-2012, 21:41	#4
eth0 Banned Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 2,602 Adverts \| Friends	Nope. Great idea though, hope it works out

05-03-2012, 22:09	#5
lukin Registered User Join Date: Feb 2002 Posts: 2,093 Adverts \| Friends	Me?Children?Sure I've hardly been born myself!

05-03-2012, 22:48	#6
RoverJames Banned Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 23,199 Adverts \| Friends	I'd love to have kids when I grow up, not ready at the moment, I struggle to look after myself tbh, not a great way to be but such is life............ I'm 31

06-03-2012, 09:22	#7
sok2005 Registered User Join Date: May 2009 Location: Cork Posts: 333 Adverts \| Friends	What if you meet up and end up hooking up with each other, by chance, one gets pregnant, are you then removed from the group?!?

06-03-2012, 09:42	#8
MrFrisp Registered User Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Overlooking Cork City! Posts: 1,474 Adverts \| Friends	I'm in My mid-40's.....Have 4 kids... Banned from the Group even before it forms.. .

06-03-2012, 11:27	#9
Malari Registered User Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 7,810 Adverts \| Friends	By chance all my friends are also childfree. I'm not friends with them because they are childfree Is that enough to have something in common?

06-03-2012, 11:42	#10
sok2005 Registered User Join Date: May 2009 Location: Cork Posts: 333 Adverts \| Friends	You find yourself having to sit listening to conversations about nappy rash / breastfeeding / childminders etc. I find myself having to sit listening to conversations about ridiculous nights out / men not calling women back after a date / wasting money on completely useless stuff etc but I still wouldn't turn my back on my friends just because they are at a different life stage. The childless and the childrearing can unite! There's enough segregation in the world! Any chance of getting a spot of babysitting from ya?

12-03-2012, 13:15	#15
quietsailor Registered User Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 634 Adverts \| Friends	35 and childless. All my friends keep telling me I don't know what I'm missing - I wonder have they looked in a mirror lately at the bags under their eyes I'd be game to meet up, it'd be like a motors meet or a Cork city meet (Still haven't gotten to one of those though ) so nothing new for boards - introducing random groups of strangers. What do you think OP/folks, anyone up for meeting some day/night?