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JohnnieK · 23-12-2011, 15:11

On the advice of tbh I have decided to start this thread on my wifes ordeal with her recently discovered breast cancer.

I originally posted this in the "worried about lump" thread and I think if would be unfair to continue on that thread because not all lumps are cancerous.

We were in the hospital yesterday for two scans, a bone scan and a CAT scan. We also seen the social worker asigned to her and to be honest I was glad we talked with her.

We got the bone scan results yesterday and it was all clear

. They did not have the CAT scan results and sent us home.

After an anxious night they called her this morning with the best Christmas present that we could hope for under the circumstances ALL CLEAR on the CAT scan. We hugged and cryed for about an hour after the call and told all our family. At least we can enjoy Christmas with our babies who for the first time this year are very much into Santa.

The road ahead is very much clear now and we know what's ahead. She will get her surgery on the 5th of Jan and 5 months (at least) of Chemo 3 weeks later. Followed by radiation theropy and hormone treatment thrown in there aswel.

I would like to thank all the posters from the "worried about lump" thread for all there kind words.

I will post udates as time goes by on her condition and ordeal, It has been the longest and most stressfull 2 weeks in my life so far and I encourage others in the same situation to come on and let us know your ordeal.

Merry Christmas to one and all.

skippy2 · 23-12-2011, 18:47

Great to hear your wifes good news hope you have a lovely christmas

cynder · 24-12-2011, 15:44

Great news, hope you have a good christmas.

Carpenter · 24-12-2011, 16:43

Have a read of my wife's blog (Man I know how you feel) I thought the worst but after you read it all will be explained also get your wife to read it after yourself if you feel it might help.
Best of luck and a happy Christmas to you all

JohnnieK · 24-12-2011, 17:47

Quote:

Originally Posted by Carpenter

Have a read of my wife's blog (Man I know how you feel) I thought the worst but after you read it all will be explained also get your wife to read it after yourself if you feel it might help.
Best of luck and a happy Christmas to you all

Hi Carpenter

Where will I find your wifes blog?

Merry Christmas to you and yours too.

Carpenter · 24-12-2011, 17:52

Quote:

Originally Posted by JohnnieK

Hi Carpenter

Where will I find your wifes blog?

Merry Christmas to you and yours too.

http://thestoryofmybreast.blogspot.com/

Here you go chap

**CathyMoran** · 24-12-2011, 22:49

As the 5 year survivor of another cancer (oesophageal) I know how scary it is - am delighted that you got good results

jimmydec · 26-12-2011, 18:26

Courage,strength and believe or not a sense of humour are important- sound like you have a strong relationship which gives you a great base to start with

msthe80s · 05-01-2012, 12:53

Hope all goes well for you both today,Johnnie.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.

JohnnieK · 05-01-2012, 14:01

Thanks msthe80s.
Brought her in at 7am this morning. She was very upset this morning, I think it has finally sunk in with her that she has what she has and the fact she will be loosing 1 of her breasts. I have just rang the hospital and she has not come back up to ward yet so I'm paceing my mothers living room.

As jimmydec said we also need a sens of humor and we definatly have that, it's regarded within the close family circles as the bold boob and it always gets a laugh.

My wife has always found it hard to express her inner feelings. Her mother walked out when she was only 12 years old and it has adversley affected her and it's this i'm worried about. She would always bottle it up and would be strong for her two sisters and never think about her self. She will definatly need some councelling after this.

She reared her little sister since she was 12 and for this to happen to her is so unfair in light of what she has been through in her life.

I'll keep you posted.

JohnnieK · 05-01-2012, 23:02

Post op and my wife is doing great. I am so proud of her. After I left her in the morning she was still crying and upset. In theatre prep the consultant sat with her and reassured her that everything was going to be ok. He said "when you wake up the desies will be gone" I think this was a lovely thing to say to her.

Have to admit the TLC we have got from Beaumont has been second to none so far.

jimmydec · 05-01-2012, 23:06

Hang in there. Your doing great so far in a difficult situation.

Jake1 · 07-01-2012, 17:32

Hi, just came across your post. Delighted all seems to be going well. Best of luck to your wife, and indeed yourself. She is very lucky to have you with her

have a great New year.

Kevster · 07-01-2012, 23:59

Hi Johnnie, lovely to hear about your successful story. I'm in the UK (originally from Kildare) just finishing my PhD on breast cancer, and will be starting a 5-year postdoctoral scientist role on March 1st. Research in breast cancer moves so quickly - and is so well-funded - that if you miss even a single day you are already out of date.

Good luck to you, your wife, and family.
Kevin

purrrfect1 · 08-01-2012, 17:20

Glad to hear all going well after surgery.
I had mastectomy on the 5th Dec last - so I know exactly all the emotions that your wife is experiencing.
Everyday is am improvement. Chin up and find something to chuckle at everyday!!

23-12-2011, 15:11	#1
JohnnieK Registered User Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Balbriggan, Co. Dublin Posts: 1,840 Adverts \| Friends	My wife's breast cancer ordeal. On the advice of tbh I have decided to start this thread on my wifes ordeal with her recently discovered breast cancer. I originally posted this in the "worried about lump" thread and I think if would be unfair to continue on that thread because not all lumps are cancerous. We were in the hospital yesterday for two scans, a bone scan and a CAT scan. We also seen the social worker asigned to her and to be honest I was glad we talked with her. We got the bone scan results yesterday and it was all clear . They did not have the CAT scan results and sent us home. After an anxious night they called her this morning with the best Christmas present that we could hope for under the circumstances ALL CLEAR on the CAT scan. We hugged and cryed for about an hour after the call and told all our family. At least we can enjoy Christmas with our babies who for the first time this year are very much into Santa. The road ahead is very much clear now and we know what's ahead. She will get her surgery on the 5th of Jan and 5 months (at least) of Chemo 3 weeks later. Followed by radiation theropy and hormone treatment thrown in there aswel. I would like to thank all the posters from the "worried about lump" thread for all there kind words. I will post udates as time goes by on her condition and ordeal, It has been the longest and most stressfull 2 weeks in my life so far and I encourage others in the same situation to come on and let us know your ordeal. Merry Christmas to one and all.

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Carpenter Registered User Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Dublin/Kusadasi Posts: 1,870 Adverts \| Friends	Have a read of my wife's blog (Man I know how you feel) I thought the worst but after you read it all will be explained also get your wife to read it after yourself if you feel it might help. Best of luck and a happy Christmas to you all Last edited by Carpenter; 24-12-2011 at 17:29.

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23-12-2011, 18:47	#2
skippy2 Registered User Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 171 Adverts \| Friends	Great to hear your wifes good news hope you have a lovely christmas

24-12-2011, 15:44	#3
cynder Registered User Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Home Sweet Home Posts: 4,131 Adverts \| Friends	Great news, hope you have a good christmas.

24-12-2011, 22:49	#7
CathyMoran Moderator Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: In hospital, work or at home Posts: 7,246 Adverts \| Friends Mod: Adoption	As the 5 year survivor of another cancer (oesophageal) I know how scary it is - am delighted that you got good results

26-12-2011, 18:26	#8
jimmydec Registered User Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 22 Adverts \| Friends	Courage,strength and believe or not a sense of humour are important- sound like you have a strong relationship which gives you a great base to start with

05-01-2012, 12:53	#9
msthe80s Registered User Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: on the magic roundabout Posts: 998 Adverts \| Friends	Hope all goes well for you both today,Johnnie. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

05-01-2012, 14:01	#10
JohnnieK Registered User Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Balbriggan, Co. Dublin Posts: 1,840 Adverts \| Friends	Thanks msthe80s. Brought her in at 7am this morning. She was very upset this morning, I think it has finally sunk in with her that she has what she has and the fact she will be loosing 1 of her breasts. I have just rang the hospital and she has not come back up to ward yet so I'm paceing my mothers living room. As jimmydec said we also need a sens of humor and we definatly have that, it's regarded within the close family circles as the bold boob and it always gets a laugh. My wife has always found it hard to express her inner feelings. Her mother walked out when she was only 12 years old and it has adversley affected her and it's this i'm worried about. She would always bottle it up and would be strong for her two sisters and never think about her self. She will definatly need some councelling after this. She reared her little sister since she was 12 and for this to happen to her is so unfair in light of what she has been through in her life. I'll keep you posted.

05-01-2012, 23:02	#11
JohnnieK Registered User Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Balbriggan, Co. Dublin Posts: 1,840 Adverts \| Friends	Post op and my wife is doing great. I am so proud of her. After I left her in the morning she was still crying and upset. In theatre prep the consultant sat with her and reassured her that everything was going to be ok. He said "when you wake up the desies will be gone" I think this was a lovely thing to say to her. Have to admit the TLC we have got from Beaumont has been second to none so far.

05-01-2012, 23:06	#12
jimmydec Registered User Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 22 Adverts \| Friends	Hang in there. Your doing great so far in a difficult situation.

07-01-2012, 17:32	#13
Jake1 Registered User Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Lovely Lucan, Posts: 3,460 Adverts \| Friends	Hi, just came across your post. Delighted all seems to be going well. Best of luck to your wife, and indeed yourself. She is very lucky to have you with her have a great New year.

07-01-2012, 23:59	#14
Kevster Registered User Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: New York, USA Posts: 2,909 Adverts \| Friends	Hi Johnnie, lovely to hear about your successful story. I'm in the UK (originally from Kildare) just finishing my PhD on breast cancer, and will be starting a 5-year postdoctoral scientist role on March 1st. Research in breast cancer moves so quickly - and is so well-funded - that if you miss even a single day you are already out of date. Good luck to you, your wife, and family. Kevin

08-01-2012, 17:20	#15
purrrfect1 Registered User Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Donegal Posts: 45 Adverts \| Friends	Glad to hear all going well after surgery. I had mastectomy on the 5th Dec last - so I know exactly all the emotions that your wife is experiencing. Everyday is am improvement. Chin up and find something to chuckle at everyday!!