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phi3 · 15-02-2010, 17:30

Hi guys.
I've been feeling anxious and depressed for as long as I can remember and I'm sure there's a lot more of you out there feeling the same.
A lot of the time when i try to talk to my friends about it, they don't understand and they say I'm just a pessimistic and that I should just start being happier. (if only it was so simple right!)
But i thought it would be nice for people to have somewhere (here) to talk to people who do understand what you're going through.

Friends · 15-02-2010, 19:33

heya,

i completly understand what you mean about friends not really understanding how you're feeling.
Ive been suffering from depression for the past 5 yrs (prob longer but just didnt know/accept it) and although my friends have been great in many ways (and one of the reasons why im still around) when i try to talk to them they just tell me to stop being "silly" and that i've "everything going for me and theres people out there with terrible problems".

That just makes me feel worse, tbh, cos i know that there is nothin fundamentally wrong in my life and i know others have terrible problems, but my problems are mine and they are just as relevant!

I know my friends feel awkward (which is why i dont talk about my depression with them much) so i agree that this thread is a great idea!

its funny, i can go for weeks where everything is ok and im coping with things and i feel like a 'normal' person and then suddenly im a tearful mess and just want to hide away from the world. Have just recently started counselling and can see improvements already but god, its hard and draining work!

Kevster · 15-02-2010, 22:37

I've been in this 'game' of mental illness for many years now. I'd argue that I've always been a bit depressed, in fact, but it was just that when I was younger I didn't really know any different. At this stage, I can't say that I honestly know what it's like to be happy for longer than a few weeks. i'm so used to feeling bad now that I feel 'not me' when I smile and laugh.

Kevin

alias141282 · 16-02-2010, 08:13

I've suffered from mild - moderate depression and anxiety for 10 years but have been making good progress in the past two years with mindfulness and CBT.

phi3 · 16-02-2010, 08:59

I think for me it started when i was around 11. I've been desperately trying to think what might have happened then but i can't think of anything major.
Thats great that it's getting better alias

bob50 · 16-02-2010, 22:33

Good Start thread Phi3 Ive been suffering this anixety / mild depression my self for the last 10 years and i fully agree with you when you talk about this to your friends they just think your negative on everything

a lot of the time its not to bad, but as you think your going away from it it hits you hard Dont know how i first got depression or remember all i know is on holiday in spain 10 years ago i got my first major panic attack and was in bits for a year after not going on hols etc for the fear of it

Im on anti Ds for the last 7 years and they do help but not all the time

phi3 · 16-02-2010, 23:26

Hi Bob.
Totally agree about just when you think you're better it hits again. That is so hard. It's happened to me a few times. I cried so much coz i knew it was back.

Shazanne · 16-02-2010, 23:51

I am really relieved to hear that others feel like I do. I often feel totally miserable for no apparent reason and, by doing so, I feel ungrateful for all the good things in my life. It's like I just cant help feeling down and the fear and misery of having a down day makes it worse. I have been on Seroxat for over twenty years and wonder if I have become immune to it.

phi3 · 17-02-2010, 08:03

You could be immune to em. Maybe you should go back to the doctor. I'm no-one to preach. I haven't even been able to tell a doctor how i feel yet. I know i should but the severe anxiety i feel just thinking about going to the doctor is too much

zimovain · 17-02-2010, 10:47

Severe anxiety and depression here also, very hard to get through the day but it's good to see there's a thread for people to talk in!! How does everyone get through the day? Struggling atm.

phi3 · 17-02-2010, 13:55

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Originally Posted by zimovain

Severe anxiety and depression here also, very hard to get through the day but it's good to see there's a thread for people to talk in!! How does everyone get through the day? Struggling atm.

Hi sorry to hear you're not feeling good atm. You just have to do the best you can. I find going for a walk of listening to and singing along to my fave music helps. But sometimes getting the motovation to do anything can be very hard.

Shazanne · 17-02-2010, 15:17

Some people say that having a pet is very helpful and I love spending time with my dog. What really worries me tho is why I feel like this so much of the time and why I cant motivate myself to feel better. Its often an effort to to have a basic conversation with the people I love - that cant be right or normal.

Novella · 19-02-2010, 03:42

Nice idea for a thread.

As my counsellor said to me lately, being depressed just means that I "feel harder" than many other people. Feeling harder isn't so bad, imo. I like to think of it as a heightened sense now!
Currently on Zispin, and a short-term dose of Stilnoct to help me get some sleep, but look at the time I'm posting - 3:40am... Yeah, not really working.

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Originally Posted by zimovain

Severe anxiety and depression here also, very hard to get through the day but it's good to see there's a thread for people to talk in!! How does everyone get through the day? Struggling atm.

How do I get through the day? Well, I haven't been to work in about a month, so not very well, I guess.
So many people say, "Oh, you just have to get up and keep on going.". Yeah, the whole problem is that I can't because I just don't care enough.
Have you seen your GP or anyone about you're feeling atm?

WalterMitty · 19-02-2010, 04:26

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Originally Posted by Novella

Nice idea for a thread.

As my counsellor said to me lately, being depressed just means that I "feel harder" than many other people. Feeling harder isn't so bad, imo. I like to think of it as a heightened sense now!
Currently on Zispin, and a short-term dose of Stilnoct to help me get some sleep, but look at the time I'm posting - 3:40am... Yeah, not really working.

How do I get through the day? Well, I haven't been to work in about a month, so not very well, I guess.
So many people say, "Oh, you just have to get up and keep on going.". Yeah, the whole problem is that I can't because I just don't care enough.
Have you seen your GP or anyone about you're feeling atm?

You need stilnoct on top of zispin? I was on Zispin for a few months before and it knocked me out within an hour of taking it. Everyones different i suppose. I have had this low level depression or dysthymia for over ten years and generalised anxiety for around that too. On prozac now which helps mood but makes me very apathetic. Binge drinking too every few weeks which makes me ten times worse. I find exercise very good for anxiety and mild-moderate depression as well as regular sleep/wake times, too much sleep makes me more depressed. It's become like a chronic condition for me now that has seen me waste much of my twenties trying different anti depressants(most of them made me worse) , waiting for years to get psychological treatment. become addicted to sleeping tablets etc etc. Bit more hopefull at present so hopefully i can keep improving in my thirties.

zimovain · 19-02-2010, 08:59

On lustral and zyprexa so I get very sedated, zyprexa would knock a horse out. Believe it or not I find it hard to sleep on the stuff. I get so sedated I just can't sleep, just sit there more or less stoned.

Valerian tea does help me nod off eventually and if you have trouble sleeping you should try it.

15-02-2010, 17:30	#1
phi3 Registered User Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 1,170 Adverts \| Friends	Lets all be anxious/depressed together. Hi guys. I've been feeling anxious and depressed for as long as I can remember and I'm sure there's a lot more of you out there feeling the same. A lot of the time when i try to talk to my friends about it, they don't understand and they say I'm just a pessimistic and that I should just start being happier. (if only it was so simple right!) But i thought it would be nice for people to have somewhere (here) to talk to people who do understand what you're going through.

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15-02-2010, 19:33	#2
downdowndown Guest Posts: n/a Adverts \| Friends	heya, i completly understand what you mean about friends not really understanding how you're feeling. Ive been suffering from depression for the past 5 yrs (prob longer but just didnt know/accept it) and although my friends have been great in many ways (and one of the reasons why im still around) when i try to talk to them they just tell me to stop being "silly" and that i've "everything going for me and theres people out there with terrible problems". That just makes me feel worse, tbh, cos i know that there is nothin fundamentally wrong in my life and i know others have terrible problems, but my problems are mine and they are just as relevant! I know my friends feel awkward (which is why i dont talk about my depression with them much) so i agree that this thread is a great idea! its funny, i can go for weeks where everything is ok and im coping with things and i feel like a 'normal' person and then suddenly im a tearful mess and just want to hide away from the world. Have just recently started counselling and can see improvements already but god, its hard and draining work!

15-02-2010, 22:37	#3
Kevster Registered User Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: New York, USA Posts: 2,909 Adverts \| Friends	I've been in this 'game' of mental illness for many years now. I'd argue that I've always been a bit depressed, in fact, but it was just that when I was younger I didn't really know any different. At this stage, I can't say that I honestly know what it's like to be happy for longer than a few weeks. i'm so used to feeling bad now that I feel 'not me' when I smile and laugh. Kevin

16-02-2010, 08:13	#4
alias141282 Registered User Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 289 Adverts \| Friends	I've suffered from mild - moderate depression and anxiety for 10 years but have been making good progress in the past two years with mindfulness and CBT.

16-02-2010, 08:59	#5
phi3 Registered User Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 1,170 Adverts \| Friends	I think for me it started when i was around 11. I've been desperately trying to think what might have happened then but i can't think of anything major. Thats great that it's getting better alias

16-02-2010, 22:33	#6
bob50 Registered User Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: 1 dublin rd Crumlin Dublin Posts: 421 Adverts \| Friends	Good Start thread Phi3 Ive been suffering this anixety / mild depression my self for the last 10 years and i fully agree with you when you talk about this to your friends they just think your negative on everything a lot of the time its not to bad, but as you think your going away from it it hits you hard Dont know how i first got depression or remember all i know is on holiday in spain 10 years ago i got my first major panic attack and was in bits for a year after not going on hols etc for the fear of it Im on anti Ds for the last 7 years and they do help but not all the time

16-02-2010, 23:26	#7
phi3 Registered User Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 1,170 Adverts \| Friends	Hi Bob. Totally agree about just when you think you're better it hits again. That is so hard. It's happened to me a few times. I cried so much coz i knew it was back.

16-02-2010, 23:51	#8
Shazanne Registered User Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 1,079 Adverts \| Friends	I am really relieved to hear that others feel like I do. I often feel totally miserable for no apparent reason and, by doing so, I feel ungrateful for all the good things in my life. It's like I just cant help feeling down and the fear and misery of having a down day makes it worse. I have been on Seroxat for over twenty years and wonder if I have become immune to it.

17-02-2010, 08:03	#9
phi3 Registered User Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 1,170 Adverts \| Friends	You could be immune to em. Maybe you should go back to the doctor. I'm no-one to preach. I haven't even been able to tell a doctor how i feel yet. I know i should but the severe anxiety i feel just thinking about going to the doctor is too much

17-02-2010, 10:47	#10
zimovain Registered User Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: a place of settlement, activity, or residence Posts: 706 Adverts \| Friends	Severe anxiety and depression here also, very hard to get through the day but it's good to see there's a thread for people to talk in!! How does everyone get through the day? Struggling atm.

17-02-2010, 15:17	#12
Shazanne Registered User Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 1,079 Adverts \| Friends	Some people say that having a pet is very helpful and I love spending time with my dog. What really worries me tho is why I feel like this so much of the time and why I cant motivate myself to feel better. Its often an effort to to have a basic conversation with the people I love - that cant be right or normal.

19-02-2010, 08:59	#15
zimovain Registered User Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: a place of settlement, activity, or residence Posts: 706 Adverts \| Friends	On lustral and zyprexa so I get very sedated, zyprexa would knock a horse out. Believe it or not I find it hard to sleep on the stuff. I get so sedated I just can't sleep, just sit there more or less stoned. Valerian tea does help me nod off eventually and if you have trouble sleeping you should try it.