I met a guy who may be turning into a bit of a crush. he's really ****ing charming and I think I love him to bits.
before I realized how much I loved him to bits and I just sort of knew him as an acquaintance I willy-nilly invited him on a date which he said no to.
The question is I don't know wither the message was a tactful "sorry I'm not interested" or wither the reason was genuine (I was moving away for a while and I wouldn't be around for days on end, he said he didn't want to start anything up because providing we'd hit it off he'd hate then not being able to socialize with or without me). At the time it was six of one and half a dozen of the other and I just got on with my day and thought "fair enough".
But now I've been given breathing space (and met the guy a few more times, social encounters) my feelings keep getting stronger and I'm in a position where I need to find out for sure if it was a tactful "not interested", or wither it was a true reason for not wanting to see if there was anything there.
Should I just ask him straight, remember before? well... was that a "no, not interested" or a "come back and have another go in a month or so when your finished your moving"?
the worst that'll happen is he'll say "yes that was me saying I'm not interested in you, nice and all a chap you are"
why is that so terrifying?