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Ankhyu · 23-05-2012, 01:18

It's a feast or a famine with me. No dates for the last couple of months, had one tonight, and looks like there could be another 2 soon at least.
Tonights guy was nice, but it doesn't seem like we have much in common, and I was doing most of the talking, which isn't really like me.

Also, yay the thread is back!

Napper Hawkins · 23-05-2012, 01:45

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Originally Posted by Owen

So yeah, I'm home from my date. And it was awesome. Sitting here smiling like a moron. And she's agreed to a second date, which is even more awesome again.

Good man.

Mental Mickey · 23-05-2012, 12:22

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Originally Posted by 18AD

AD's top tips.

Don't mention psychoanalysis.
Don't mention emotional blackmail.

On the plus side. One compliment is usually well received. Ask about something on their profile and mention something about yourself that might have to do with that.

Have tried that each time. Not a sausage. I do think it has something to do with having a disability. If they're not prepared to look past that(which they don't seem to be), then **** 'em.

tatumkelly · 23-05-2012, 13:01

I'm not posting in this thread anymore, since I've been out with a very lovely guy a a lot lately. We both closed profiles, and we're longer online dating... we're just dating

LoTwan · 23-05-2012, 21:21

It has come to my attention that the average 40 year old man (give or take 4 or 5 years) has forgotten what the concept of dating is. It seems that most of them think that I want to move in with them once I say that I am not interested in ONS/NSA. There needs to be an advertising or education thingie to remind them what dating is.

KamiKazeKitten · 23-05-2012, 23:00

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Originally Posted by MarkyTheLips

Are many people still on that?? Never had one date out of that site and my profile was WAY better than my POF one! Not that my POF one is bad ... Ahem

I still have an active okc but it's a skeleton profile.. Would you recommend going back?

Nah not really, I just log in and out cos I likes the questions on it tbh.

The graph is fecked though - it told me I'm more mathematical. Ffs, I couldn't do my sisters 6th class homework the other day!

It's got better quality than POF (ie folks can usually type a little more than "livin 4 da weeknd nd getin smashd wiv da bois"!), but there's waaay less people.

LoTwan · 23-05-2012, 23:12

Stellar month for me... I have been lied to, invited to a 3some, asked if I want a servant/slave (I'm not completely anti that idea, especially if it gets my house sorted out

), met my first bad kisser and have been offered casual s3x on a daily basis (sometimes more than once a day)

you wha? · 24-05-2012, 09:16

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Originally Posted by LoTwan

Stellar month for me... I have been lied to, invited to a 3some, asked if I want a servant/slave (I'm not completely anti that idea, especially if it gets my house sorted out

), met my first bad kisser and have been offered casual s3x on a daily basis (sometimes more than once a day)

What a month for you.lucky lady

men,such charmers haha

I've been quite lucky oddly enough(a change from my norm!)
met one guy, he didnt want anything serious so the "lets be friends" thing came up, which i meant cuz hes very funny and sound and we still are mates.met up for a cuppa and a chat yesterday! him aside, I met an AMAZING guy a few weeks back. we are taking it slow but its going pretty well at the mo...happy face

That_Guy · 24-05-2012, 10:31

So...

Date went well last night. We're having a picnic date this weekend... Having organised that, I know the weather is gonna turn out like this:

LoTwan · 24-05-2012, 12:54

The fine weather seems to be bringing out the best in the 40ish male dater

I have a few interested bodies which is nice and it looks like I have a busy weekend ahead

wobblyknees · 24-05-2012, 13:06

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Originally Posted by LoTwan

Stellar month for me... I have been lied to, invited to a 3some, asked if I want a servant/slave (I'm not completely anti that idea, especially if it gets my house sorted out

), met my first bad kisser and have been offered casual s3x on a daily basis (sometimes more than once a day)

I'm really really sorry about all of that. I'm working through my issues with my counsellor.

blacklilly · 24-05-2012, 15:27

Whoo I'm back but no more chit chat from me.

Anyway, My OD experience is going downhill fast! I am still receiving a number of e-mails a day but most of them don't interest me.

I'm hoping some guy will just approach me in a sober setting one day and sweep me off my feet.

So much effort and time goes into OD and so far for me it hasn't been worth it.

I'm still getting the sleezy messages and messages from older married men. I actually like older men just wish some single ones would contact me.

G-Money · 24-05-2012, 16:13

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Originally Posted by Mental Mickey

I honestly don't have a clue what to say in a message when/if I find someone who I'm attracted to on POF

I just pick stuff from their profile and go with that. Unfortunately some girls put so little information on their profile it's a bit like trying to play pin the tail on the donkey. You simply have no clue. I'm guessing these are the one's complaining that they get the wrong types of messages too

G-Money · 24-05-2012, 16:19

Things are going ok for me. I haven't heard anything from the girl I went out with last Sunday other than her replies to my few texts at the end of the night. Not massively surprised and not disappointed either. There's actually another girl I got talking to on OC a few weeks back and got her number but hadn't got around to actually meeting up, but she's sort of been at the back of my mind all along. Was talking to her again yesterday so we're going to meet up next week probably.

Strangely enough another girl on OC mailed me last night and seems quite chatty and interested. However I'm probably not going to pursue anyone else for the time being and see how things go next week.

The girl who was sending me the slightly weird texts, text me again last night in the wee small hours. However it was a rather normal text saying it was obvious things weren't working and it was better to leave it and wished me all the best. That seemed nice and normal but it had me thinking, could you not have acted like that all along!

PerrDub · 24-05-2012, 16:29

Have hidden my POF profile now, time to take a break! Same sorta mails all the time, and then the arranging of dates, which fall into a couple of different categories.

Coffee Date: Quick and simple, only have to last as long as it takes to drink the coffee, car or bike can be waiting outside for a quick escape.
Problem with it is, if you want to stay, how many cups of coffee can you drink in an hour!? Though in my expierience coffee dates are like 1st interviews, i.e. nerves and you can't wait to escape!

Dinner date: a lot less casual than coffee dates, at least you have to make an extra effort to dress more smartly than for the above. Problem being is that if the person you are meeting does not take your fancy when face to face or the conversation goes flat, then you are stuck there until dessert!

Drinks: the old favorite! Meet up, try and look well for the pub, esp. on a Friday or Saturday night. A few drinks can ease the 1st date nerves. Only thing is i have found that people i have dated who were not into me would not say so as they had made the effort to get done up and go out, so usually lead to a handshake and "it was nice meeting you" at 1am!

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23-05-2012, 01:18	#61
Ankhyu Registered User Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 399 Adverts \| Friends	It's a feast or a famine with me. No dates for the last couple of months, had one tonight, and looks like there could be another 2 soon at least. Tonights guy was nice, but it doesn't seem like we have much in common, and I was doing most of the talking, which isn't really like me. Also, yay the thread is back!

23-05-2012, 13:01	#64
tatumkelly Registered User Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Dublin, Ireland Posts: 591 Adverts \| Friends	I'm not posting in this thread anymore, since I've been out with a very lovely guy a a lot lately. We both closed profiles, and we're longer online dating... we're just dating

23-05-2012, 21:21	#65
LoTwan Registered User Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 606 Adverts \| Friends	It has come to my attention that the average 40 year old man (give or take 4 or 5 years) has forgotten what the concept of dating is. It seems that most of them think that I want to move in with them once I say that I am not interested in ONS/NSA. There needs to be an advertising or education thingie to remind them what dating is.

23-05-2012, 23:12	#67
LoTwan Registered User Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 606 Adverts \| Friends	Stellar month for me... I have been lied to, invited to a 3some, asked if I want a servant/slave (I'm not completely anti that idea, especially if it gets my house sorted out ), met my first bad kisser and have been offered casual s3x on a daily basis (sometimes more than once a day)

24-05-2012, 10:31	#69
That_Guy Registered User Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Ashbourne, Dublin (Urban Sprawl... Deal with it) Posts: 40,556 Adverts \| Friends	So... Date went well last night. We're having a picnic date this weekend... Having organised that, I know the weather is gonna turn out like this:

24-05-2012, 12:54	#70
LoTwan Registered User Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 606 Adverts \| Friends	The fine weather seems to be bringing out the best in the 40ish male dater I have a few interested bodies which is nice and it looks like I have a busy weekend ahead

24-05-2012, 15:27	#72
blacklilly Registered User Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Dublin Posts: 897 Adverts \| Friends	Whoo I'm back but no more chit chat from me. Anyway, My OD experience is going downhill fast! I am still receiving a number of e-mails a day but most of them don't interest me. I'm hoping some guy will just approach me in a sober setting one day and sweep me off my feet. So much effort and time goes into OD and so far for me it hasn't been worth it. I'm still getting the sleezy messages and messages from older married men. I actually like older men just wish some single ones would contact me.

24-05-2012, 16:19	#74
G-Money Closed Account Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 8,379 Adverts \| Friends	Things are going ok for me. I haven't heard anything from the girl I went out with last Sunday other than her replies to my few texts at the end of the night. Not massively surprised and not disappointed either. There's actually another girl I got talking to on OC a few weeks back and got her number but hadn't got around to actually meeting up, but she's sort of been at the back of my mind all along. Was talking to her again yesterday so we're going to meet up next week probably. Strangely enough another girl on OC mailed me last night and seems quite chatty and interested. However I'm probably not going to pursue anyone else for the time being and see how things go next week. The girl who was sending me the slightly weird texts, text me again last night in the wee small hours. However it was a rather normal text saying it was obvious things weren't working and it was better to leave it and wished me all the best. That seemed nice and normal but it had me thinking, could you not have acted like that all along!

24-05-2012, 16:29	#75
PerrDub Registered User Join Date: May 2012 Posts: 37 Adverts \| Friends	Have hidden my POF profile now, time to take a break! Same sorta mails all the time, and then the arranging of dates, which fall into a couple of different categories. Coffee Date: Quick and simple, only have to last as long as it takes to drink the coffee, car or bike can be waiting outside for a quick escape. Problem with it is, if you want to stay, how many cups of coffee can you drink in an hour!? Though in my expierience coffee dates are like 1st interviews, i.e. nerves and you can't wait to escape! Dinner date: a lot less casual than coffee dates, at least you have to make an extra effort to dress more smartly than for the above. Problem being is that if the person you are meeting does not take your fancy when face to face or the conversation goes flat, then you are stuck there until dessert! Drinks: the old favorite! Meet up, try and look well for the pub, esp. on a Friday or Saturday night. A few drinks can ease the 1st date nerves. Only thing is i have found that people i have dated who were not into me would not say so as they had made the effort to get done up and go out, so usually lead to a handshake and "it was nice meeting you" at 1am!