Originally Posted by Daveysil15
I don't know why some people are afraid to put pics up. In POF you can hide your profile, and on OKC only members can view your profile. So where's the problem?
There seems to be a bit of a double standard with online dating. I had to laugh at the woman who had no photos up, yet still requested other users to have photos in order to contact her. She probably still gets messages all the same.
I've only recently starting using OKC. Nice interface but not nearly as many women on it as POF.
I got a new message from a girl over the weekend, she had no pic up, (I have loads of pics up), the conversation went something like this:
Her: Hiya, blah blah blah...
Me: Hiya, blah blah blah...
.... ( this went on for a few minutes, small talk)...
Me: Have you got a pic?
Her: I do, but it's on my phone, it's an old phone and I can't upload my pic onto POF with it, I can text it to you though, here's my number: 08x-xxxxxxx...
Me: (feeling a tiny bit cynical at this stage but sure I've given my num out loads of times on POF and what's the worst that could happen?), "ok, here's mine, sure text me a pic if you want".
... Text then lands in of a cute enough girl, holding a Samsung Galaxy, a phone that as far as I know, can upload a pic to POF or the internet without any hassle at all!
Her: Will you send me one back, fairs fair, I sent you one...
Me: But I have 8 pics of myself up on my profile, 3 of which were taken within the last fortnight, I'm sure I haven't changed THAT much over the last few days...
Her: But you could be using someone else's pics, guys are known to do that on this site apparently.
Me: Look, I'm cute enough but I'm not Brad Pitt, why would I put up those pics if they were not my own pics?!?
Her: I just would like a pic back!
Me: It's half 2 in the morning, I'm not going to start taking pics of myself, not when I have a profile full of recent pics that are up there.
Her: Right so, do it tomorrow then, will you?
Me: No, I won't, if you have this cynical/suspicious attitude towards people that you initiate a conversation with, maybe it's better not to bother starting a conversation at all. I am who & what I say I am as per my profile, take me as you find me or simply don't bother at all.
Her: You are being aggressive now, you sound like a complete weirdo.
Me: I'm not being the slightest bit aggressive, I just take exception to the suggestion that I am someone other than who I have presented myself as being, look, we clearly are not compatible, good look with your internet dating, take care.