hi all, going anon for this one. ok my partner of 3 years is polish we have a 1 year old son together, living together about 2 years. So his family (parents and younger brother) have decided to come for a visit next month...they have been over to stay a few times since the baby was born, which is great that they want to spend time with their grandson.
The only problem is they have no English (which i don't expect them to, they're in their 70's and never needed it) and I have extremely basic Polish. (Again I am at fault here i should be taking classes or something)
But, when they come to stay it's usually for 1 whole month.. in our house. This is where my big problem is, the last few times they've stayed I was working and even then I found it extremely tiring having to plaster a polite smile on my face after getting home from work when all i want to do is relax and spend some time with my son. Now tho, I have no job, I was made redundant a few weeks ago and I am absolutely dreading their arrival.
Firstly my partner will be at work for 5 days every week so I'm the one that has to sit at home with them all day.. bearing in mind i can't have a conversation with them at all.. Also, they seem to want to know what I'm doing at all times when they are here...Last time everytime i left the house they were asking my partner where i was going "at this hour of the night"... (9pm)
Anyway I tried to talk to my partner about it this evening, i gave out to him because he asked them to come before talking to me, and i told him 1 month was too long as he is bringing our son in September to Poland for a visit anyway.
I am now being accused of not liking his parents and that I'm the selfish one as i haven't bothered to learn his language...
How do i get him to see my point of view on this? I'm pretty sure he wouldn't like me landing my family in our house for a month and sodding off to work everyday leaving him with people he couldn't communicate with!!
Or, to my original question, am i being too selfish??