Just wondering how long you let a situation continue before you listen to your child, and make the changes they want?
Briefly, I've a 9yr old who has been minded by a neighbour (registered childminder, but not working in a creche anymore - only minds my child). There are 2 kids there, and a new baby.
I knew all during the minders pregnancy, that once the baby came along things would be difficult for my little fella. He regularly says that they (the minder and her husband) spend their days shouting at their own kids. I always ask if they say anything to him, and he says they never shout at him, just at their own kids. It's normal day-to-day stuff that goes on in most houses - put your coat on, no, not THAT coat, this coat...go out to play, come in for your dinner and so on. But the hubby is out of work and so is at home all day - so while they wouldn't really be 'arguing', my son sees this as adults shouting and he hates it.
I regularly tell him to just get on with it - that normal mams & dads do this every day (there's just me and him in our house) and overall, he is well looked after at their house. And the fact that they never shout at him means he's doing nothing wrong.
Anyway...last week things seem to have gotten worse for him and every evening he is begging me to find him somewhere else to go after school.. I know the minder is under stress with the new baby, and with the hubby out of work..but I also know that my lad isn't happy there at all these days...
So do I go and look for an alternative (which might be difficult) that he might also hate in a few months...or what do I do??
I obviously want my son to be happy and my gut is telling me to find an alternative for him. But what if that is an even worse set-up for him??? He is going into 5th class this year though and i'm also aware that he won't need a minder in another few years...
Any advice very much appreciated from ye, thanks alot.