Originally Posted by Paddy C
As a fellow 27 year old I can empathise, I feel the same quite a lot. I too was wondering if bars were the best places to meet guys, seeing as the majority are probably there for some fun or even if they aren't, with alcohol in their system they'll go for it anyway. I'm not like hat, the whole one night thing doesn't apply to me and never has. The thought of it actually repulses me. I'd like to do the whole proper dating thing, meet up a few times, go for a meal, drinks, walks, chat and get to know one another and really form a connection. Anyone can have a quick fumble and feel good for 20 minutes, but I'd rather have a lifetime than a quickie. It does depress me sometimes when I sit and think that I have done so little at 27 when I know 16 year olds who have done a hell of a lot more, but I'm a quality over quantity person too, so I'd rather not do much and do it with the right guy than just go out and whore myself around with anyone that'll have me. So, chin up, there are worse places and positions you could be in, just keep trying and eventually you will find your man. Sounds like such a bullshít cliché but it is true. As Aurongroove said, if it was that easy, surely everyone would be in one and no-one would be single. You feel the same as a lot of us out there do, and the only thing we can do is to keep trying. Have you tried internet dating to chat to and get to know guys first before meeting them? You may have some success there if you'd rather have the dating and getting to know someone instead of the jumping into bed with them.
Once again, Paddy C talks a lot of sense.
I came to the scene around the same age as you lads are now - 27 or so and was caught up in pretty much the same emotions as you describe. In the end I figured that perhaps the 'online' route was probably an option that initially appealed to me as I'm a bit shy with people I don't know too well. Despite all of the negative feedback that Gaydar gets, I met a lad on it and as we chatted over the course of a few days and, I guess weeks, we eventually met up and have been together since. I think I had the good fortune to meet someone who was on that site for the same reasons as I was. I could not be happier now. So don't discount it - the online avenue is always an option.