The reason i put this in this forum is because i think its more of a female thing. Well it was in my house anyway. My three brothers were all fine, helped each other out and besides the massive age differeence between the first two brothers and the youngest, 10 years, they even went out together.
My sister on the other hand, i always got the feeling she was jealous of me for some reason. For years if we were talking, if i said anything, i would get a huff or a puff. It was like walking on eggshells.
Things got worse when i started to drive, going places and driving myself to a gym. I lost weight. She was putting on weight. Failed her driving test a few times. Thats when it all came out in her.
She used any excuse to turn on me. I ordered her stuff of the internet, it was late, it was my fault it was late. She wanted a driving lesson of me, my only free day was on sunday. She asked me early on sunday morning, i said later, she took it as if i just didn't want to and didn't want her doing well. She lost a book, it was my fault, she was paranoid in that i apparently purposely hid the book on her. It was the rules of the road book. She thought i didnt want her do well. She crashed her car twice, asked for advice on a new car, i said something small=apparently i just didn't want her having a better car than me. I was thinking about going to a gym one week when i had a cold and she wanted to come with me. I used to go reliously three times a week. I was already there twice and since i had a cold and was doing so well, i thought i would relax and take it easy. Apparently i just didn't want to take her fat ass to the gym, so she couldn't lose weight. There was a christmas party we both wanted to go to. The same week, i had a rash all myself. I was covered in it. The doctor said it may have been psoriasis. My granny had that, so it made since but i didn't want to go anywhere with it. So i didn't go but because i wasn't going, my sister wouldn't and blamed me for getting her hopes up cause she wanted to hop on a guy that once smiled at her. I wasn't stopping her going. I was covered in that rash for weeks afterwards.
Along with all this, i was at a party before with her, some guy came up to
me, she saw this, ran over and tried to drag him off me. I remember her saying, it shouldn't be with me, it should be her. If i was going anywhere, she would always get into the bathroom before me to slow me down. One night, i was going out, she wasn't and she took a bath. She couldn't wait until i was gone, god forbid i might look good.
This crap went on for over a year and a half. And after every single childish tantrum, she never saw where she went wrong, never believed in apologising to me. Ok, i can feed an agrument at times but im not apologising for something i have never started. She was so manipulative, in that she turned everything around on me. She started the crap, i got angry, i was jealous of her, didn't want her doing well, apparently i was jealous of her job. I was in a job i hated which she knew and she used that as an excuse.
She started on me another time, and i just couldn't take it, this was after a year and a half of putting up with crap, i cupped my breasts and asked her was she jealous of them. One of hers hardly grew. Well that must be one reason cause what she did after was 100 times worse, she used her 20 stone weight to get on top of me and she lashed out at me, splitting my head open. I was sick after that, was throwing up all night and she threw me 50 euros for the price of doctor. Thats how much i was worth. I never spoke to her after that.
She was 27 at the time. Her crap started at 25. For years before that, huffing at the smallest thing. She was never going to change. And im not going through life having someone jealous of everything i do.
She has real anger issues and to this day, because i used get angry after her episodes, she wants me to apologise. I read a very nasty post of her a couple of months ago, where she went on about: where both parties are wrong, she was able to accept her doings and where one party couldn't refering to me, and not apologising. Now why should i apologise for something i have never started, im not jealous of her. She never apologised after her tantrums even though i was able to prove her wrong every single time. She swore blind over my granny's grave, as she was being buried that she apologised.
I asked her a few months ago, not to write crap on the internet about me, she turned around and said i was jealous of her. This time i was apparently jealous because she gets her hole filled by men on internet dating sites.
Just before christmas, i sent her a message, telling her, this was stupid, i was apologising for crap i have never started...... it was ignored. She was and is still 100% jealous of me.
I will be 30 in a few months. I suppose it will be the decade for getting married, having kids, buying a house. Im not having someone being jealous of all that. We're going to have different things in life, why have someone being jealous too?
How do others put up with jealousy? Have you any jealousy stories as bad as mine? How do you get over it?