thank you all for your replies. i have been holding this issue in for so long, and have been going almost mad myself with the worry about my nephew, and the possible fall-out for me if I say anything. The milestones, that someone mentioned only happen up to the 18 months period. Up to that point, he was hitting most milestones - he walks and talks and as i said, there is nothing 'obvious' to an outsider (other than he looks like a 2yr old) and he's not in a creche, so nothing has been spotted by neighbours.
dont start me on her use of FB to update her status about her 'wonderful son' - he is the most beautiful child and i am so sad about this issue.
to answer another question, i love my nephew more than my sister. My mother and her are as thick as two short planks - im sorry if that sounds harsh, speaking like that about my own family - but it's the truth. it drives me insane the way they behave. my sister has my mum told to mash up his food (sometimes, she still feeds him babyfood for convenience) so that's why she doesn't hand him a crust of bread in the mornings.
i have a child myself and i know how wrong this all is.
zulu, your post hit home the most, thanks. but thanks to all of you.
sometimes, when you hold things inside, you almost have yourself convinced that YOU are the one in the wrong and that they are all right (particularly when 'they' continuously try to convince you of it!). Im glad i wrote this post now.
This situation is going on in a beautiful home in a nice estate in northside dublin. my sister is well-liked and has a decent job and a decent enough salary (enough that she's not eligible for social welfare payments anyway), and NO-ONE would guess that this madness is taking place.