I like DifferentOpinion had an abortion.
I had been to the family dr to ask about going on the pill, I was sexually active and using condoms, he told me to think about it and come back to him in a month.
During that month I got pregnant.
I have no regrets about having an abortion what so ever.
I do have regrets about having to travel.
I had to make an appointment with the well woman center and see them and then they made a referral for me to a clinic in the uk.
It tripled the cost and it was the first time I had ever been flown anywhere.
It was a Tuesday morning flight and there were too other worried looking young couples on it. The air hostesses can tell by what flights and when and can spot women traveling.
We saw the same people on the train and then in the clinic waiting rooms.
I had to see a dr and a counselor and get a scan and then go back to a B&B.
It was a horrid place but close to the clinic. I was very upset and in a strange country and far away from the comforts of home. The next day I had to go back and see another counselor and then dr who would preform my abortion. I had to spend the night in the clinic as I had a general anesthetic. The next day I was still emotional, sore, tired and groggy from the anesthetic and pain killers and I had to try and then travel all the way home.
The flight got delayed and we were stuck for another 5 hours in the airport, they still are some of the most miserable hours of my life and I won't ever travel to that airport again.
All I wanted was to be back home in my own bed.
All my immediate family know, my partner knows, most of my friends know and someday I will even tell my kids.
Some times I think I am a coward for not saying publicly that I have an abortion, that I am one of the thousands of women a year who travel and have one. Going on the numbers which BPAS release I am one of at least 100,000 Irish women who have had an abortion in a Uk clinic.
There are people who don't want us to speak up, want us to remain ashamed and to keep it taboo as it is easy to then vilify women who choose to have an abortion and to say all the hateful things they do.
I had an abortion, I don't regret it.
I regret having to travel and I resent being told I should be ashamed.
And youre very brave, and lucky to have people who will stand by you.