I recently lost my wonderful husband to cancer. He was sick for a very short time and my three children and I are beyond devastated. I know that anger is part of grief so perhaps the anger I'm feeling towards his family right now is simply a grieving stage or perhaps I actually have a valid point. Let me know what you think please.
I am dealing with a funeral bill of 8500 euro. I paid 500 off already. Nobody in his family (his mom, brothers and sisters (all adults and all in employment except his Mom)) has offered a single cent towards the funeral bill. I am his wife and the bill is of course my responsibility legally. But with three young children and no life insurance I guess I expected them to at least chip in a couple of hundred euro each. But no, nada, zilch. Nothing towards the funeral, nothing even towards the after-funeral food & drinks (and believe me they ate and drank their fill). My own family and I paid that pub bill. Nothing towards anything. Not even a measly 20 quid to get our youngest a toy.
There is a bereavement grant of 850 and then there is also a Widowed Parent grant of 6000 euro. His family have said "sure that 6000 grant along with the bereavement grant will cover the bulk of it". True. But the 6000 is actually designed to help a widowed parent with the cost of parenting, it's not necessarily for the funeral and I certainly could do with some of that money towards day to day parenting costs. Also, it's the principle of the thing. I know that I would *want* to contribute to my brother's funeral if I was the bereaved sibling or to my child's funeral if I was his Mom.
What do you guys think?