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Friends · 22-10-2011, 01:16

The reason I'm going unreg for this is because I think it will come off like I'm emotionally unstable or that I like to make a personal drama out of everything. This genuinely isn't the case, however, I'm seriously very upset by what happened to the poor little girl in China.
I was always very aware of the world around me but for some reason I've found myself thinking of nothing but this child and crying on and off all day about it.
I am a fully grown woman with children of my own and as selfish as this sounds I would swap places with that poor little mite in an instant to prevent her going through that, despite if she knew or not, as I know my own kids will be well cared for and always know I loved them. This poor child lay alone in the middle of a street ignored. I lost someone very close to me not too long ago and I feel like this is affecting me almost as much.
I'm not really sure how to "get over" it, the feeling of extreme grief I feel about it.
I'm aware that it's a slightly beyond normal reaction so I don't need that pointed out to me.

**Taltos** · 22-10-2011, 06:53

OP - I am moving this thread to Bereavement.
As you have called out yourself this tragey has awoken your feelings around your own loss.

Taltos

Frowzy · 22-10-2011, 07:53

Actually OP I think your reaction is perfectly normal especially as you are a mother.

This was a tragic thing that happened and has received huge media coverage, however I can't bring myself to watch it as I think it's horrific! We live in a cruel world where these things unfortunately happen, but that doesn't mean that we stop feeling the injustice or abhorration of it.

It is possible however that the sadness you are feeling has triggered emotions you have not dealt with over your recent bereavement. I am sorry for your loss. As a mother I know that we rarely stop to think about ourselves, we worry about everyone else, worry about making sure everyone is fed, that the clothes are clean etc etc.... Did you take time out to deal with your loss and what it means for you?

Another thing of course is that we worry about our children and the world we have introduced them to, a world where things like this happen.

Have you tried talking to your parner about how this has made you feel? Actually voicing your fears/concerns/worries can actually be therapeutic. Have you considered bereavement counselling?

Take some time out for yourself. Put on your favourite CD, light some candles and have a hot bath. Or get out of the house a spend a few euro on a wash and blow dry to perk yourself up. There are a lot of pressures on households at the moment with the recession, on top of this you have suffered a bereavement, and now to think that we are living in such an unfeeling world, for you, may just have been the straw that broke the camels back, so to speak.

Take care of yourself Hun, our mental health is so important yet we give it so little.

Lastly, please try not to watch Sky News, it has a lot to answer for IMO.

gypsy_rose · 22-10-2011, 10:11

OP, thankfully I haven't lost anyone very close to me yet, but I know what you're talking about. A few years ago I came home drunk and read a news article about an honour killing in Turkey and I literally cried all night, sometimes something you read just really strikes a chord with you and you feel extra empathy towards them than for something else upsetting you read that day. It's normal, but like the other poster said it could be your subconcious way of dealing with your grief.

Talking to a friend or family member would be a good idea to help you understand your feelings.

22-10-2011, 01:16	#1
Seriouslyshaken Guest Posts: n/a Adverts \| Friends	Seriously shaken The reason I'm going unreg for this is because I think it will come off like I'm emotionally unstable or that I like to make a personal drama out of everything. This genuinely isn't the case, however, I'm seriously very upset by what happened to the poor little girl in China. I was always very aware of the world around me but for some reason I've found myself thinking of nothing but this child and crying on and off all day about it. I am a fully grown woman with children of my own and as selfish as this sounds I would swap places with that poor little mite in an instant to prevent her going through that, despite if she knew or not, as I know my own kids will be well cared for and always know I loved them. This poor child lay alone in the middle of a street ignored. I lost someone very close to me not too long ago and I feel like this is affecting me almost as much. I'm not really sure how to "get over" it, the feeling of extreme grief I feel about it. I'm aware that it's a slightly beyond normal reaction so I don't need that pointed out to me.

22-10-2011, 06:53	#2
Taltos Moderator Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: In my head Posts: 5,862 Adverts \| Friends Mod: Personal Issues, PI Mods, Separation and Divorce	OP - I am moving this thread to Bereavement. As you have called out yourself this tragey has awoken your feelings around your own loss. Taltos

22-10-2011, 07:53	#3
Frowzy Registered User Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 416 Adverts \| Friends	Actually OP I think your reaction is perfectly normal especially as you are a mother. This was a tragic thing that happened and has received huge media coverage, however I can't bring myself to watch it as I think it's horrific! We live in a cruel world where these things unfortunately happen, but that doesn't mean that we stop feeling the injustice or abhorration of it. It is possible however that the sadness you are feeling has triggered emotions you have not dealt with over your recent bereavement. I am sorry for your loss. As a mother I know that we rarely stop to think about ourselves, we worry about everyone else, worry about making sure everyone is fed, that the clothes are clean etc etc.... Did you take time out to deal with your loss and what it means for you? Another thing of course is that we worry about our children and the world we have introduced them to, a world where things like this happen. Have you tried talking to your parner about how this has made you feel? Actually voicing your fears/concerns/worries can actually be therapeutic. Have you considered bereavement counselling? Take some time out for yourself. Put on your favourite CD, light some candles and have a hot bath. Or get out of the house a spend a few euro on a wash and blow dry to perk yourself up. There are a lot of pressures on households at the moment with the recession, on top of this you have suffered a bereavement, and now to think that we are living in such an unfeeling world, for you, may just have been the straw that broke the camels back, so to speak. Take care of yourself Hun, our mental health is so important yet we give it so little. Lastly, please try not to watch Sky News, it has a lot to answer for IMO.

22-10-2011, 10:11	#4
gypsy_rose Registered User Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 446 Adverts \| Friends	OP, thankfully I haven't lost anyone very close to me yet, but I know what you're talking about. A few years ago I came home drunk and read a news article about an honour killing in Turkey and I literally cried all night, sometimes something you read just really strikes a chord with you and you feel extra empathy towards them than for something else upsetting you read that day. It's normal, but like the other poster said it could be your subconcious way of dealing with your grief. Talking to a friend or family member would be a good idea to help you understand your feelings.