Originally Posted by Val444
I definitely think that the more open about MS people are, the less terrifying it would be to be faced with it. I am not ashamed of it, and I am under enough stress as it is, without the extra tension caused by keeping secrets. I am gonna wait until my neurologist appointment next week, but after that, I think I will just be open about it.
My mammy also cried when I told her it was a possibility. And so I ended up comforting her, when it should have been the other way around. I think one of the emotions I am finding difficult is guilt. I know it is nonsensical, but I feel guilty for stressing Mammy out, guilty because this isn't what my fiance signed up for, guilty because I am going to be worrying a lot of people...
I am young, my symptoms are slight, I am reasonably healthy in every other regard, I work for a company who I know will do their best to accomodate me in the future, and as already mentioned, I am surrounded by amazing people in my life, and I am so grateful. It is not that I would wish it on anyone else, but I kinda don't get why it has to be me!
I might just need a bit of a slap, to be honest. I am making myself out to be an awful whinge on this thread, but I am really a very positive person, I swear!
As for telling the company or not, there is nothing to gain if you dont need to go into hospital for treatments and things like that. Obviously if the need arises then its better to be straight with them and fill them in, "I was in hospital because I have ms"
"we understand val..." ect
why tell them now??