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**Captain Havoc** · 22-08-2011, 10:32

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Originally Posted by Malari

Well, if you feel like that about being in a relationship, maybe you should broaden your horizons. My boyfriend has just been on a 2 week cycling holiday...without me

Girlfriends are not all leash-holding dragons, you know.

What did he have to do to earn his holiday though?

**Wibbs** · 22-08-2011, 10:32

Single and prefer it the vast majority of the time so have no current interest in being in a relationship.

Malari · 22-08-2011, 10:37

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Originally Posted by Captain Havoc

What did he have to do to earn his holiday though? :pac:pac:pac

I guess it cost a couple of week's jobs. You are talking money, aren't you?

py2006 · 22-08-2011, 10:39

Thanks for all the post guys n gals!

As I said in my opening post, I am happy on my own! On occasion I meet a nice girl (as friends) and often think, 'wow, it would be great to have her as regular company' but invariably nothing comes of it. I think its because I am so used to being on my own that I don't have the body language of somebody who is available and/or looking (if that makes sense). I know one or two girls in the past were initially interested but because I didn't do cartwheels displaying my interest it fizzled out.

I am slightly immature for my age (34), I am a big kid and a cheeky chappie so I tend to go for younger women. Unfortunately I don't seem to attract the women I am interested in at all. Any woman that shows an interest, I am not interested in. That gets really depressing.

I think also, because the job situation hasn't been great for a few years the whole concept of mortgage, marriage and babies is a bit unrealistic for me. Even if I was secure financially I still feel far too young for all that and it scares the hell out of me.

py2006 · 22-08-2011, 10:40

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Originally Posted by Malari

Well, if you feel like that about being in a relationship, maybe you should broaden your horizons. My boyfriend has just been on a 2 week cycling holiday...without me

Girlfriends are not all leash-holding dragons, you know.

haha that is true! Although, two of my friends can't leave the house without asking permission from the wife/girlfriends! haha

Malari · 22-08-2011, 10:52

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Originally Posted by py2006

haha that is true! Although, two of my friends can't leave the house without asking permission from the wife/girlfriends! haha

Sure, I know guys who claim they needs a visa to go anywhere too, but it's just not an adult way to do things. And it certainly doesn't mean every relationship is like that.

RoverJames · 22-08-2011, 10:58

The only bit about being single I hate is folks trying to set me up, particularly girlfriends of the buddies, I'd love to tell them to get f**ked at times to be honest. Met a lovely girl last week, was all loved up for a few hours, haven't gotten in touch with her since, the following day I was back in my single world and I'm happy out there. I think it's simply not having met the right lady. I'm in no rush at all to do so either.

The difficult part of being single is staying single, most people can't relate to that at all I find.

I don't want to be single in my 50s and 60s though, I'd be fairly lonely then I reckon, aside from that I love it.

Jelly2 · 22-08-2011, 11:02

Quote:

Originally Posted by Malari

Well, if you feel like that about being in a relationship, maybe you should broaden your horizons. My boyfriend has just been on a 2 week cycling holiday...without me

Girlfriends are not all leash-holding dragons, you know.

Absolutely, I find this a really weird comment - sorry Captain Havoc! Surely there are women who cycle?? And might like a cycling holiday? My husband is a climber, and I climb too! A fortnight rockclimbing is most definitely not out of the question therefore! A woman with whom you click is not going to inhibit you, and if she does, she is not the right woman for you to be in a relationship with...

stateofflux · 22-08-2011, 11:04

yep, happy being single at the mo...walked away from a few relationships in the last year from people who were quite selfish & didnt have any regard for other people .. i never understood people who are unhappy in relationships but stick around being treated like dirt becuase of fear of being alone / never finding anyone 'better'...its quite sad

py2006 · 22-08-2011, 11:05

Yea, some people cannot seem to understand why somebody is happy and wants to be single. A couple of times I would be out with a group and a girl who I don't know would be there and the rest would blatently and obviously introduce us and everybody would be staring. Then for the rest of the night would consist of 'do you like her', 'did you ask her out', 'why won't you ask her out', 'no wonder you can't get a girlfriend', 'a why won't you', ' go on' etc etc

arghhhhhhhhhh!!!

FloatingVoter · 22-08-2011, 11:11

36 and lonely. I can survive on my own - but lets face it a meal in a restaurant is out of the question. Why bother without the company ?

It is a spiral - eventually you lose any self-esteem and assume it must all be down to yourself. Oh well - tomorrows another day as the old line goes.

Fauntleroy · 22-08-2011, 11:34

I just left a 3 year relationship, and before that I was with a different girl for 3 years too, and I'm enjoying being single. It's just nice being able to chat to any girl you want and not have any pressure or expectations, you're freer to do your own thing. I don't know if it's a case of being on the rebound or what but I do seem to be meeting girls who want to get into a relationship, which couldn't be further from what I want. You have to enjoy being single while you have it, you'll miss it when it's gone.

Will · 22-08-2011, 11:42

The setting up thing, friend in work was a demon for it. One woman was walking by and she straight out said "Hey *her name* wanna go on a date with Will?!". She would always pull things like that and was always probing as to what I got up to with myself. For a finish I'd just fed her full of lies

I do see a lot of couples connected at the hip too, that's fine if it's what you are into but wouldn't be for me.

sunflower27 · 22-08-2011, 11:53

Quote:

Originally Posted by Malari

Well, if you feel like that about being in a relationship, maybe you should broaden your horizons. My boyfriend has just been on a 2 week cycling holiday...without me

Girlfriends are not all leash-holding dragons, you know.

I couldn't agree more.

Why can't you take two weeks to go on a cycling holiday if you are in a relationship? That's a bit of a warped way of looking at relationships. You are obviously going out with the wrong women and are used to being a kept man

previous user · 22-08-2011, 11:54

Quote:

Originally Posted by py2006

Yea, some people cannot seem to understand why somebody is happy and wants to be single. A couple of times I would be out with a group and a girl who I don't know would be there and the rest would blatently and obviously introduce us and everybody would be staring. Then for the rest of the night would consist of 'do you like her', 'did you ask her out', 'why won't you ask her out', 'no wonder you can't get a girlfriend', 'a why won't you', ' go on' etc etc

arghhhhhhhhhh!!!

Ugh, that has to be patronising to you in the extreme op

22-08-2011, 10:39	#34
py2006 Registered User Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: I don't know where I am! :( Posts: 4,751 Adverts \| Friends	Thanks for all the post guys n gals! As I said in my opening post, I am happy on my own! On occasion I meet a nice girl (as friends) and often think, 'wow, it would be great to have her as regular company' but invariably nothing comes of it. I think its because I am so used to being on my own that I don't have the body language of somebody who is available and/or looking (if that makes sense). I know one or two girls in the past were initially interested but because I didn't do cartwheels displaying my interest it fizzled out. I am slightly immature for my age (34), I am a big kid and a cheeky chappie so I tend to go for younger women. Unfortunately I don't seem to attract the women I am interested in at all. Any woman that shows an interest, I am not interested in. That gets really depressing. I think also, because the job situation hasn't been great for a few years the whole concept of mortgage, marriage and babies is a bit unrealistic for me. Even if I was secure financially I still feel far too young for all that and it scares the hell out of me. Last edited by py2006; 22-08-2011 at 10:41.

22-08-2011, 11:05	#40
py2006 Registered User Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: I don't know where I am! :( Posts: 4,751 Adverts \| Friends	Yea, some people cannot seem to understand why somebody is happy and wants to be single. A couple of times I would be out with a group and a girl who I don't know would be there and the rest would blatently and obviously introduce us and everybody would be staring. Then for the rest of the night would consist of 'do you like her', 'did you ask her out', 'why won't you ask her out', 'no wonder you can't get a girlfriend', 'a why won't you', ' go on' etc etc arghhhhhhhhhh!!! Last edited by py2006; 22-08-2011 at 11:07.

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Wibbs Moderator Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Nothing in life has any business being perfect Posts: 26,548 Adverts \| Friends Mod: Ladies Lounge Mods, Ladies' Lounge Private, Sex & Sexuality, The Ladies' Lounge, Watches & Timepieces	Single and prefer it the vast majority of the time so have no current interest in being in a relationship.

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RoverJames Banned Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 23,199 Adverts \| Friends	The only bit about being single I hate is folks trying to set me up, particularly girlfriends of the buddies, I'd love to tell them to get f**ked at times to be honest. Met a lovely girl last week, was all loved up for a few hours, haven't gotten in touch with her since, the following day I was back in my single world and I'm happy out there. I think it's simply not having met the right lady. I'm in no rush at all to do so either. The difficult part of being single is staying single, most people can't relate to that at all I find. I don't want to be single in my 50s and 60s though, I'd be fairly lonely then I reckon, aside from that I love it.

22-08-2011, 11:04	#39
stateofflux Registered User Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 878 Adverts \| Friends	yep, happy being single at the mo...walked away from a few relationships in the last year from people who were quite selfish & didnt have any regard for other people .. i never understood people who are unhappy in relationships but stick around being treated like dirt becuase of fear of being alone / never finding anyone 'better'...its quite sad

22-08-2011, 11:11	#41
FloatingVoter Registered User Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Dublin Posts: 1,985 Adverts \| Friends	36 and lonely. I can survive on my own - but lets face it a meal in a restaurant is out of the question. Why bother without the company ? It is a spiral - eventually you lose any self-esteem and assume it must all be down to yourself. Oh well - tomorrows another day as the old line goes.

22-08-2011, 11:34	#42
Fauntleroy Registered User Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Dublin Posts: 21 Adverts \| Friends	I just left a 3 year relationship, and before that I was with a different girl for 3 years too, and I'm enjoying being single. It's just nice being able to chat to any girl you want and not have any pressure or expectations, you're freer to do your own thing. I don't know if it's a case of being on the rebound or what but I do seem to be meeting girls who want to get into a relationship, which couldn't be further from what I want. You have to enjoy being single while you have it, you'll miss it when it's gone.

22-08-2011, 11:42	#43
Will Closed Account Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 20,820 Adverts \| Friends	The setting up thing, friend in work was a demon for it. One woman was walking by and she straight out said "Hey her name wanna go on a date with Will?!". She would always pull things like that and was always probing as to what I got up to with myself. For a finish I'd just fed her full of lies I do see a lot of couples connected at the hip too, that's fine if it's what you are into but wouldn't be for me.