Ah here, that's a cop out and you know it. I've said very little on anything heterosexual related so it's a bit rich to start attributing patterns of "how I say things". I openly admit I found a lot of comments by that person very distressing and I didn't feel I could bring myself to reply without attacking her for all the things I'd encountered myself. I recognised that limitation and stated away. I viewed the other posts by Aard and Dubark as being very fair and marvelled at how readily they were able to engage with the OP despite their background. The moderator came in with both feet and a complete disreguard for the sensitivity of the situation. By all means allow threads like that, but please please please recognise that they are on a knife edge and you shouldn't trample on the LGBT people in how they are handle.
A bit more caring and thought would be great.