Originally Posted by nedd
My son is 9 months and for the last 3 months has been fighting and fussing every meal time. For the first couple of weeks of solids he loved it. Then he start teething, got a cold, got more teeth and another cold. He is back to himself now but still wont eat.
He will eat OK most mornings. But come the afternoon or evening as soon as he sees the spoon he starts whining, clamps he lips shut and turns his head. We have tried everything with him jars, pouches, sweet potato, regular potato, our own meals.....
He will eat some things from his own hand (not much though)
Can anyone give me some reassurance that this is normal(ish)? We were at the Public Health Nurse yesterday and she said he will get it eventually. That's no good when he doesn't eat his dinner and is awake during the night.
Firstly, this is normal, totally normal. Is your lad being breast or formula fed? Either way, at 9 months old he is still getting almost everything he needs from those feeds. Food at this point is all about learning how to eat, so that when he really needs the nourishment from solid foods, he will be ready and able to eat it.
The fact that he will take stuff he's putting in his own mouth means that he is willing to eat, just that he objects to YOU putting stuff there. What you need to do is let him take control back. If you are still feeding him purees, then put some of the stuff on his high chair tray, strip him down to a vest and let him play with it. It will go everywhere, into his hair, down his neck, on the floor, everywhere, so be prepared for a mess, and don't get upset about it! Some of it might go in his mouth, but if it doesn't, don't stress, he doesn't NEED it right now, especially if he's getting solid food in the mornings, and he's getting his usual milk feeds. Resist the urge to put things in his mouth, even resist the urge to put things in his hands, put them on his tray, or on a plate in front of you, with him on your lap. If he feels in control he's more likely to start eating again. Putting stuff in his mouth for him will just cause more resistance.
What kind of stuff are you giving him in his hands? Have you looked into baby led weaning at all? It sounds like that could maybe take some of the stress out of mealtimes.
Both of you need to take a step back, and stop the stress, at 9 months old, they actually need very very little solid food, and most of the stuff they get from purees isn't all that full of nourishment anyway, even if you make it yourself. Pureeing foods causes them to lose a lot of nutrients.
When you gave him your own food, what were you doing at the time? What are you guys usually doing when he is being fed. Obviously one of you is feeding him, but what is the other one doing?