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bubbles747 · 10-06-2010, 15:27

ok im getting married next year and have 3 best friends id like to do bridesmaid, thats great but the hubby 2b only has one best man and pushing it one groomsman, i didnt think it mattered but am being told by everyone that you have to have the same numbers bridesmaids and groomsmen?? is this the case?

SeekUp · 10-06-2010, 15:32

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Originally Posted by bubbles747

ok im getting married next year and have 3 best friends id like to do bridesmaid, thats great but the hubby 2b only has one best man and pushing it one groomsman, i didnt think it mattered but am being told by everyone that you have to have the same numbers bridesmaids and groomsmen?? is this the case?

Nope, not at all. You can have as many or as few as you'd like on either side. I think a lot of people are used to having things a certain way, and never think about doing things differently. Doesn't really make sense to ask people to be in the wedding just to "fill in the ranks," so to speak, does it?!

You guys include whomever you want . . . you're absolutely right in thinking that it doesn't matter one bit.

bubbles747 · 10-06-2010, 15:35

thanks! i really didnt go asking people just to fill in a space! so one best man will do for himself and 3 bridesmaids for me.

seamus · 10-06-2010, 15:36

If you're going for a traditional wedding, you just have to think about a couple of extra things - such as the order of people walking back down the aisle, second dances and so forth, but it's not important and it's not something that anyone will even comment on, on the day.

*tinkerbell* · 10-06-2010, 18:09

Oh so you don't actually need to match up then? That's great actually!

H8GHOTI · 10-06-2010, 18:38

I'd actually never even thought about this before. Didn't even enter my mind until I read this thread. In saying that I am a male & never had any interest in weddings (besides my own) so that probably explains that.

Anyway, I was planning on just having a bestman & no groomsmen. What do they even do

I couldn't care less how many bridesmaids there will be. I think she's going to have 2 or 3. Don't see a problem with it tbh. Do whatever ye want yourselves.

bubbles747 · 10-06-2010, 21:30

i cant see any reason myself for there to be matching numbers, just apart from walking out of the church for somone to walk out with.

leap · 11-06-2010, 14:51

My brother had four groomsmen (incl best man) and his wife had two bridesmaids. Cause that was the number of brothers and sisters they had between them. It was lovely.

I remember one of the brides friends commented after, that she couldnt believe that anyone would even consider not matching the numbers, but she was the only one.

Do what you like and enjoy the day!

Heineken Helen · 11-06-2010, 20:26

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Do what you like and enjoy the day!

Yep, that's it. We may not even go with matching colours, never mind matching numbers

the shock of it all

bubbles747 · 11-06-2010, 22:07

i know im still so surprised how people badly people take it when you dont do whats expected, im having a terrible time trying to explain this not matching numbers to certain family members, they just cannot understand it but im not asking people just to fill in numbers. MIL to be even suggested that she would ask people she knows to fill in the places

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what goods a wedding if u cant have it your own way?

Heineken Helen · 12-06-2010, 10:55

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Originally Posted by bubbles747

i know im still so surprised how people badly people take it when you dont do whats expected, im having a terrible time trying to explain this not matching numbers to certain family members, they just cannot understand it but im not asking people just to fill in numbers. MIL to be even suggested that she would ask people she knows to fill in the places

!
what goods a wedding if u cant have it your own way?

Agreed... I don't mind doing things that other people want... unless it's something I don't want or see the point of. Time to do some feet stamping... if ya can't do it now, well you'll never be able to.

suzieled · 12-06-2010, 20:15

Maybe its becuase Im a Libra, but we will be having the same amount of bridesmaid and groomsmen at our wedding. It would look wrong to me any other way. The photos I have looked at from friends and from photographer`s portfolio`s, they look great when everyone is paired off and its also important for the dancing later on as I wouldnt want someone to be always left out at the start for the bridal party dances. Not what I would like personally.

The Cool · 13-06-2010, 20:50

Don't worry about it, if he only has his best man and no other groomsmen, then he and your maid of honour/chief bridesmaid can be paired together for all those traditional things.

Bookkeeper09 · 14-06-2010, 13:59

I was at a wedding on Saturday just gone and there was 1 Bestman and 4 bridesmaids!

Heineken Helen · 15-06-2010, 22:10

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I was at a wedding on Saturday just gone and there was 1 Bestman and 4 bridesmaids!

Bet he really enjoyed himself

10-06-2010, 15:27	#1
bubbles747 Registered User Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 73 Adverts \| Friends	matching bridesmaids to groomsmen ok im getting married next year and have 3 best friends id like to do bridesmaid, thats great but the hubby 2b only has one best man and pushing it one groomsman, i didnt think it mattered but am being told by everyone that you have to have the same numbers bridesmaids and groomsmen?? is this the case?

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bubbles747 Registered User Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 73 Adverts \| Friends	i know im still so surprised how people badly people take it when you dont do whats expected, im having a terrible time trying to explain this not matching numbers to certain family members, they just cannot understand it but im not asking people just to fill in numbers. MIL to be even suggested that she would ask people she knows to fill in the places! what goods a wedding if u cant have it your own way?

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10-06-2010, 15:35	#3
bubbles747 Registered User Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 73 Adverts \| Friends	thanks! i really didnt go asking people just to fill in a space! so one best man will do for himself and 3 bridesmaids for me.

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seamus Dental Plan! Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: :getName() Posts: 44,165 Adverts \| Friends	If you're going for a traditional wedding, you just have to think about a couple of extra things - such as the order of people walking back down the aisle, second dances and so forth, but it's not important and it's not something that anyone will even comment on, on the day.

10-06-2010, 18:09	#5
tinkerbell woohoo! Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 4,803 Adverts \| Friends	Oh so you don't actually need to match up then? That's great actually!

10-06-2010, 18:38	#6
H8GHOTI Registered User Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Cork Posts: 1,253 Adverts \| Friends	I'd actually never even thought about this before. Didn't even enter my mind until I read this thread. In saying that I am a male & never had any interest in weddings (besides my own) so that probably explains that. Anyway, I was planning on just having a bestman & no groomsmen. What do they even do I couldn't care less how many bridesmaids there will be. I think she's going to have 2 or 3. Don't see a problem with it tbh. Do whatever ye want yourselves.

10-06-2010, 21:30	#7
bubbles747 Registered User Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 73 Adverts \| Friends	i cant see any reason myself for there to be matching numbers, just apart from walking out of the church for somone to walk out with.

11-06-2010, 14:51	#8
leap Registered User Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 45 Adverts \| Friends	My brother had four groomsmen (incl best man) and his wife had two bridesmaids. Cause that was the number of brothers and sisters they had between them. It was lovely. I remember one of the brides friends commented after, that she couldnt believe that anyone would even consider not matching the numbers, but she was the only one. Do what you like and enjoy the day!

12-06-2010, 20:15	#12
suzieled Registered User Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 39 Adverts \| Friends	Maybe its becuase Im a Libra, but we will be having the same amount of bridesmaid and groomsmen at our wedding. It would look wrong to me any other way. The photos I have looked at from friends and from photographer`s portfolio`s, they look great when everyone is paired off and its also important for the dancing later on as I wouldnt want someone to be always left out at the start for the bridal party dances. Not what I would like personally.

13-06-2010, 20:50	#13
The Cool Registered User Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 585 Adverts \| Friends	Don't worry about it, if he only has his best man and no other groomsmen, then he and your maid of honour/chief bridesmaid can be paired together for all those traditional things.

14-06-2010, 13:59	#14
Bookkeeper09 Registered User Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 265 Adverts \| Friends	I was at a wedding on Saturday just gone and there was 1 Bestman and 4 bridesmaids!