Originally Posted by mariaalice
im in my 40ties and i think im gorgeous
... iv little or no interest in fashion, live in a pair of jeans...and im considered a bit eccentric by my family and friends.
I get lots of male attention( due to having large breasts!! )...attention from men doesn't bother me one way or the other...im happy the with myself.
Fair play!! This post made me laugh though. Fact of the matter is wearing a very short skirt gets male attention, large breasts get male attention and showing them gets even MORE male attention regardless of whether they're big or not or if they're 30 year or 40 year old boobs. In reality it's not all that difficult to get the attention of men if that's what you want, they're simple creatures really
but why would you base your whole self-worth on whether some guy on the bus looks at you twice?
I live in Spain and like to observe what draws the attention of Latin men here when I'm coming to and from work. They'll be more obvious about it and I find it interesting at how indiscriminate they are when it comes to checking out a lady. Age is not a factor anyway...I see very beautiful young women daily on public transport but they're awkward and unsure of themselves and don't get as much attention as you'd expect. Generally speaking, they don't stand tall, they pull at their clothes, they don't dress to suit their shape....just like I did at their age. Youth is wasted on the young 'n' all that. The women who get the most attention are those in their 30's and 40s who know how to dress, who exude confidence because they clearly have less hangups and are comfortable in their own skin. Of course you do see the beautiful, sexy young women as well but that's the way it's always been, even when I was younger myself. That's life but it doesn't mean that youth is automatically preferable.
But generally speaking, if I see younger women out and about, I kind of feel sorry for them. It's a stage in life when I was very unsure of myself, what I knew and I was constantly worrying what other people thought of me. I'm a wiser person now and can hold the attention of men for a lot longer with my conversational skills whereas when I was younger, I depended solely on my looks and hoped to God they wouldn't notice that I didn't really have a clue what I was talking about. This only got me so far.
To be honest, I know I'm a sexier woman now than when I was 20 (almost 30 now) even though the aging process has kicked in. I'm comfortable with who I am, with my body etc etc. I don't really give a damn if a man looks twice and I think that shows. When I was younger my self-esteem depended on it. For example, I generally get more male attention on Friday than Monday because I'm usually peed off Monday morning and that's the vibe I'm giving off. I get more attention at weekends because I make more of an effort with my appearance and I'm giving off a carefree vibe because it's the weekend. If you change your mindset OP, the rest will follow.