[ciagr297]

well looks wise, i take after my dad's side, without doubt. personality, i reckon i've inherited from both but there are some traits i can squarely pinpoint from my mother
bless her but they irritate the bejebus of me and i just go a bit nuts thinking i've got that too.
my sister and i have a pact....if we start acting like our mother in the ways we both hate, we are justified in kicking the arse of the person who did. fair and square.
and we're not allowed to argue about the arse kicking

[Dinxminx]

I don't know what I would do if I grew up to be like my mother. Suffice to say it is the very last thing I would want, in every way imaginable.

I cannot think of a single trait I would like to have inherited from her.

So far so good though, since I seem to be more like my dad in every way.

[VexedRed]

I think i'm very like me mother-not so much looks wise (other than us both being short @sses) but very much so personality-wise.
She is probably one of the best people I know-entertaining, supportive, level-headed, she gives the best advice-she's always ALWAYS right-even my girlfriends come to her for advice, she's fun, she's so young at heart (although she is not even that old!), I could just go on and on-so cheesey but the more I think of it the more I realise she really is like a best friend to me.

I'm glad I have picked up her unique way of thinking about things and her relaxed nature towards life. I would be a stressed, emotional wreck if I didn't. One of her favourite things to say is "it will all work out in the end", I have applied this little saying to all areas in my life and I must say it really had made making the big decisions/getting over things that went wrong a lot easier for me.

I had been quite ill for the last 9 months and I have spent the entire time at home with my mother and although we had our little ups and downs (we are spending 24 hours a day together after all!) we still get on like a house on fire and want to do loads of things together.

All my friends love her-the girls want to be adopted by her and the boys just drool at her. If I ever have kids of my own I would aspire to emulate my mother. She instilled so many good values into me over the years...

Only this week I was wandering around the house in my underwear and I had the realisation that although I haven't got the "ideal body" (and currently I'm very bloated due to all the meds) it didn't really bother me at all and it's all down to her-she never talks about weight, diets etc. so it was never an issue in my house and I am so glad it wasn't as i'm surrounded by girls who think the be all and end all of their lives is their weight! With a lot of them it was ingrained in them at home that you had to be thin to be happy/successful by their mothers who were on constant diets trying to achieve "perfection". Whereas I look at my mother (who is prob a size 18-20 and doesn't give a damn-she exercises all the time and is very healthy) who is happy as a lark, has more friends than the Dalai Lama and is happy just doing her day to day things and looking after her family and her community-I'm so proud.
Of course she has taught me many other things but that is the one that is in the forefront of my mind at the moment!

So all in all-I would love that I'm kind of turning out like my mother-she's a legend!

[Chocoholic84]

Originally Posted by banshee_bones

No.No.No. and No.

No way similar. Polar opposite if there ever were and No we do NOT get on either. We see each other about three times a year max. So far this year its been once, will probably be Christmas before I see her again so that will make two.

I don't get why people are thanking this post? I think that's really sad - it's unfortunate that some people can't choose their parents!

I get on well with my own mum, and while she can be a bit batty sometimes, and some of the things she says/does make me cringe, she's still my mum at the end of the day!

[Malari]

Originally Posted by Chocoholic84

I don't get why people are thanking this post? I think that's really sad - it's unfortunate that some people can't choose their parents!

I agree. When reading this thread I found it astonishing how many girls don't get on with their mothers. Or even abhor the thought of ending up like them.

I don't want the same things my mom wants and I have very different views on life in some ways but I could do a lot worse than turning out like her.

Do you think the mothers who are being complained about thought the same things about their own mothers?

[CatLady1]

I look like her and I love her. Always feel proud when I'm told how alike we are. As an only child I'm glad I don't have to share her! And definately since moving out she has become even more of a best friend than just a mother.

Best Mammy ever!

[pikachucheeks]

Originally Posted by Corb

Well ladies, are you like your mother? Looks wise? Personality wise? Do you have the same quirky little habits or funny sayings as them? The same laugh? Or are you the complete opposite? Do you get on with her? Do you clash? Do you see more similarities as you get older?

Just thought it would be an interesting discussion.

I get on really well with my mum, which I'm very thankful for. My parents are both great and I'm very proud of them.

I think our relationship has improved since I've grown up. I'm at a stage now where I feel like I can open up to her, tell her what's going on in my life - Didn't do that in my teens.

Looks wise? Apparently we look alike. She's always delighted when people say that, for whatever reason! She comes home chuffed if someone tells her I look like her, despite the fact she always slags me for being "vain"

I think we're alike in the sense we're both positive, upbeat people, who like to have fun with life. She's a lot more sensible than me though, although that comes from her years of experience (She'll read this and kill me! )

[SeekUp]

Originally Posted by Malari

Do you think the mothers who are being complained about thought the same things about their own mothers?

I can't speak for everyone else, but I know for a fact that my mother's relationship with my grandmother was never as close as her relationship with me. My mother was an only child, and my grandmother was pretty strict with her growing up (my grandfather was about 100x more laid back!), and when I was younger, I remember my grandmother making comments about my mother's weight and hair, even about my father. I think it the constant criticism made my mother want to have a better relationship with me than what she ever had with her mother.

[Moonbaby]

Originally Posted by Malari

I agree. When reading this thread I found it astonishing how many girls don't get on with their mothers. Or even abhor the thought of ending up like them.

I don't want the same things my mom wants and I have very different views on life in some ways but I could do a lot worse than turning out like her.

Do you think the mothers who are being complained about thought the same things about their own mothers?

To be fair, you haven't met their mothers.
Just because you can procreate, doesn't mean you have an ounce of decency.




I've inherited very little of my mother, in terms of looks or personality.

She is very bold and fearless. A little of that has rubbed off on me.
We are a very supportive, and open family. We are all close friends. That is down to her. It is something that I would aspire to if I had a family of my own.

She is open minded and independent, and has always taught me to value being myself.

She has had alot of harsh experiences in life, and I guess seeing her deal with them. Has shaped my ideas about the whole point of being here.
It has given me an optimistic and resilient outlook.

She has also taught me alot about respect and personal responsibilty.

[Malari]

Originally Posted by Moonbaby

To be fair, you haven't met their mothers.
Just because you can procreate, doesn't mean you have an ounce of decency.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not judging anyone's relationship. I just was surprised and think it's sad to read some people's accounts.

[Moonbaby]

It wasn't that I thought you were judgemental.
It is just really easy to assume that all mothers fundementaly, have their childrens benefit at heart.
Sadly some have anything but.

[Novella]

I have always been very close to my mam, as was she to her mam and I had a strong bond with my grandmother as well who sadly passed away in 2001. I am an only daughter in my family and my mam was an only daughter with four brothers so I guess I was brought up in a family where mother - daughter relationships were of great importance.

I also think it's really sad that there are so many girls and women who feel such resentment to their mothers. My relationship with my mam is invaluable and I'd be absolutely lost without her and I think everyone deserves to have that sort of bond in their life because it is really special.

Of course, I understand that just because you have given birth, it doesn't automatically make you a mother. "A mother is a person who, seeing there are four pieces of cake for five people, announces that she never did care for cake."

[Abi]

Originally Posted by Chocoholic84

I don't get why people are thanking this post? I think that's really sad - it's unfortunate that some people can't choose their parents!

Its common place to use 'thanks' when in agreement with a post, or in this case for me I was saying 'I understand'.

I get on well with my own mum, and while she can be a bit batty sometimes, and some of the things she says/does make me cringe, she's still my mum at the end of the day!

Im happy that you feel that way about your mum, I think you are very lucky. Because its not an easy choice to cut your mother out of almost everything you do, and you probably cant imagine your own mum to be mean or resentful. You are right it is unfortunate you cant choose your parents, particularly when one choose to launch a scathing attack on your appearance / goals in life / career at any given chance, despite having done SFA for herself.

Banshee and I are convinced we share the same mother at this point

[Latchy]

Originally Posted by Moonbaby

It wasn't that I thought you were judgemental.
It is just really easy to assume that all mothers fundementaly, have their childrens benefit at heart.
Sadly some have anything but.

Coming at it from a male point of view I can go with that but know my 3 sisters would completely agree to

Originally Posted by Abigayle

Banshee and I are convinced we share the same mother at this point

It's true , I knew I had other sisters someplace

[Abi]

Originally Posted by Latchy

Coming at it from a male point of view I can go with that but know my 3 sisters would completely agree to

I think if the mother has any undealt with issues, the boys dont seem to feel it as much as the girls do. The mother often sees a lot of herself in her daughters, and it must be looking in a mirror at their younger selves. With this in mind and my own mothers tougher up bringing, she seems be resentful of how 'easy' its been for me in comparison. She was the eldest in her family, as am I. I think she unwittingly treats me worse than the others to equate her own up bringing. Dare I bring this up with her, or ask her would she like to go have a chat 'with someone' with me about it.. she'd see it more of an insult, rather than help.

It's true , I knew I had other sisters someplace

Thats right, you've an Irish mum too ^^ This pretty much makes my point about how the mums are different towards their daughters. Theres also another element to this. The sons in past times were always seen more of an 'asset' to the family, and property / assets of any kind were always left to the sons. This mind set has not completely left Irish mothers unfortunately, and its obviously left a sour taste with my own mother, and she definitely favours her sons over her daughters.

I know this post could easily have been put in the 'Irish mothers' thread, but the two issues are somewhat inter-twined.