[Neyite]

Detective,
I would tend to agree with your mother, and take whatever time you need. Only a few hours ago relatively speaking, your OH wanted to bring you to A&E. you need time to heal not only physically, but emotionally I think you need it,

I used to get irrationally annoyed with the work dramas especially when I had spent the weekend caring for my dying dad - and some stupid git would be moaning about the lack of stationary supplies or a minor mistake someone else made.

It also depends on if anyone at work knows about your pregnancy and MC. Sometimes you dont want to face a sad topic in a work environment.

You have been through physical and emotional trauma, so be kind to yourself for a little while longer.
((Hugs))

I am due to test/get my period on Tuesday. I had really sore boobs last week, they are grand now but seem to be a bit fuller still. That could just be pre-period though usually they are sore right up to my period.

I decided to do a bit of Hypnosis to relax and calm me - It worked wonders years ago getting me off the fags so I have "positive thinking" and "radiant health" on the ipod, and seriously contemplating getting a fertility/conception one - think I will search a few fertility forums to see if any recommendations jump out at me.

[barbiegirl]

DFT I remember those pains doctor presecribed tylex and difene. I had been taking difene i had at hme but it did nothing. So she prescribed stronget ones.
Don't go to work take a few extra days this was and is a big deal and you need to let your body, mind and emotions recover. Big, big hugs

[Lucyfur]

DFT, try to take a few days (at least) off. I'm taking a week and my boss has text with the offer of a second week off. I'll go back after a week, I think I'll be ready then. I could probably go back mid week but I'm gonna give myself the full week.

Take it easy and mind yourself x

[applesock]

*hugs* to Lucyfur & DTF ive been reading & not posting of late. Read this lastnight so upsetting. i can only imagine what your going through

ive given up on trying for now , i just cant take the disappointment every month, doing a test praying for positive but knowing deep down it will always been negative. and actually as bad as this sounds im started to get jealous of people around me who are pregnant, not that im not delighted for them i think the feeling of why isnt it me is to much at the moment.
think i need to take a step back and relax. although ovulating this weekend

[spingler]

dft and lucyfur, my thoughts are with ye so much this week x

thank you dft for replying to my question.. i googled mid cycle bleed and didn't really get much satisfaction, they done bloods on me last week in the clinic and my progestrone levels showed i had ovulated, so im totally at a loss?? its really annoying because its like having a bit of a period every day. sorry for going on... dft take your time going back to work, you body and mind needs time to get strong again, my friend took a number of weeks. She said she def glad cause she needed time to grieve xx

(((Hugs)))

[Lucyfur]

I have made a big pot of soup, a huge pan of chilli con carne and 2 batches of cookies......I'm really not used to having time off

Hope everyone is doing well today x

[Tigeress]

Hi ladies, I'm having a crap time of it at the moment I haven't Ovulated this month & although I'm trying to stay positive I'm a bit down.. I'm sure I haven't ovulated before (as in not every month) but I was so excited to get the ovulation sticks & I almost convinced myself that I would ovulate, maybe not get pregnant but at least I know I'm Ovulating ok by nothing is showing up.. I know I sound a little silly but I cant help but feel down I know I do ovulate because I have gotten pregnant twice (both ending in mc) I think there might be something wrong.. My partner keeps telling me I'm putting too much pressure on myself & I know he's right! I just don't know what to do..

Cap thanks for the link!! Gonna make an appoint! Kilkenny isn't far from me at all..

[DetectivFoxtrot]

thanks ladies *hugsies back at all of ya*


Tigress - I know this is NO help at all, but juts wanted to reassure you that every now and then every woman gets an annovualtory cycle, it's totally normal. I've seen it twice since I started charting. If I hadn't been charting I'd never have known. I did a lot of research and found that it happens all the time.
don't get me wrong though it's still a pain in the arse and I'm not surprised you're fed up x


AFM, I am on Cycle Day 7 today. Got a +ovulation test today (test line was darker than control line) and a faded +preg test. I obviously still have HCG (preg hormone) in my system but am amazed at how quickly it is dropping.
I don't feel like I'm ovulating and have no signs (flow has reduced to light/spotting so no cervical mucous and no ovulation pain) so am assuming it's a false read on the ovulation test? anyone any experience to share?

Last night I passed a large lump of solid mass tissue. Not sure what it was, placenta perhaps, but I knew once I passed it that my body was done, somehow I felt 'physically' empty, if that's possible...
Today it's been confirmed by scan that I had a complete natural miscarriage. Bloods were taken and I'll know what my hcg level is tomorrow. I feel that I need to start ttc again asap, I think it will help me cope. Personally if I ruminate in the grief I think I'll go mad, keeping busy and getting things back under my control will be beneficial to my psyche I think (typical 'Type A' personality )
I am taking the advice and going back to work on Thursday (have been out since last weds so 6 working days altogether). That gives me two (hopefully) nice days in the sun; I'm going to do some gardening as I find it very therapeutic.
Today I bought a beautiful orchid plant in honour of my baby. It was so peaceful walking around the garden centre. No one was there so I could only hear the birds sing, and the sun was so warm on my face... My baba was saying goodbye...

[Lucyfur]

((hugs)) Tigeress. I know it's incredibly frustrating when you feel you should be able to see a positive. I don't use ovulation sticks as I get strong ovulation signs myself. I was CONVINCED I didn't ovulate in Feb, but obviously I did.


DFT, I cried reading your post I was chatting to a friend last night, she's had 5 miscarriages and has 5 rose bushes lined up in her garden. It's a lovely, lovely idea. I'm not green fingered at all but I'm going to do something to mark this I had my hCG done again today, it's down to 12. It was 100-and-something on Friday. My bleeding has almost stopped.

[CathyMoran]

What we did with the one that we lost in Jan 2009 was let a baloon free.

[Quins5]

Lucyfur Im soo sorry for your loss Iv only just checked in and seen all the posts (big hugs)

Detective so sorry to hear you had such a bad and painful weekend (big hugs)

Big hugs to you all, It brought tears to my eyes reading your post of walking round the garden centre, I know exactly how you are feeling

Thinking of you both and your other halves x

[Neyite]

Originally Posted by applesock

ive given up on trying for now , i just cant take the disappointment every month, doing a test praying for positive but knowing deep down it will always been negative. and actually as bad as this sounds im started to get jealous of people around me who are pregnant, not that im not delighted for them i think the feeling of why isnt it me is to much at the moment.
think i need to take a step back and relax. although ovulating this weekend

Its really tough getting constant unwanted periods. I recognise that its not easy to make the decision to give up for a little while, but maybe we need to step back if it is getting too much. Would a de-stressing cd help? I have a Paul McKenna Hypnosis CD knocking around somewhere called eliminate stress, which, when I find it, I'm going to put on the ipod - if you think it will help, I am happy to share it if you want to pm me.

I am due my period tomorrow. I have delibrately convinced myself that I am not pregnant this month. If the Wicked Witch doesnt wake me up with cramps during the night, Im testing in the morning.

[Lucyfur]

Fingers crossed for you Neyite

[dublinlady]

Hope ye all ok, def do take a few days of dt and lucyfur, I didn't and regret it now, didn't deal with it emotionally at all until started acupuncture couple months ago, I think thats the reason I couldn't conceive since... Stressed and uptight etc.

Two weeks into my compulsory month off, enjoying it actually! Weirdly! My mind is very appreciative of the rest!!! .
Had pelvic ultrasound today to make sure all is well for when we do start again and he seemed to think it was but will write to my doc! That is a relief, I kinda know now no physical reason for not being able to and have myself put it down to stress and trying too hard, this break is doing me wonders.., have decided to stop actively trying til aug or sept, if something happens in the middle great, but if not that's ok. Break from the stress! 15th April was my due date... I'll be glad when that's over.... It's weighing heavy on my shoulders... I think I'll do cathymorans idea of releasing a balloon... To Mark the end of my dark time and grief, it's time for me to move on and get back to living life..... I just hope it's as easy as that.

[May79]

thanks again for all your kind thoughts.I just have to keep reminding myself that I am one in four and that it's not my fault


It is never your fault detective - Life throws some dreadful things at us - NEVER your fault

Originally Posted by DetectivFoxtrot

My mam is pressuring me to not go back to work til next fri, what do you think? She says it will be much easier going back for a very short week rather than on a monday. She also thinks going back next Tues/Wed/Thur is far to early as I am grieving. I dunno. Didn't plan taking that long off

I hope you took your mams advice - It's a hard thing to go through - Take your time - don't rush - you could end up regretting it in a weeks time - You need time to allow the hormones leave your body let alone the grieving process. Such a whacky time for a woman and that needs to be taken into account - there are some things you just cannot help....


You will get through this ok It's rotten and hard but you can turn it around - You seem to be a strong character - I can't get over how In the middle of all you are giving adivce to others TTC on this thread!! We are all very grateful for the knowledge you have detective - You do need to think of yourself and only yourself for a while. (and DP too as he is going through it with you) If you can take a positive from it at all, you did get pregnant after all - You were afraid it might never happen and hopefully it won't take so long again.