[Custard Cream]

Morning everyone. We had our 12 week scan on Monday and unfortunatly a heartbeat could not be found. I can't really write anymore about it as I'll just start crying again. I just wanted to ask some of the girls who have been in the same situation when their period came back? The doc said it could be 5-6 weeks? Also my lower back is killing me. Is that normal? My husband says it's probably stress as well as the D&C.

I may not post on TTC for a few weeks but as always I'll follow all your stories and keep you all in my prayers. Wishing you all the very best of luck this month.

[yellow hen]

I'm so sorry to hear that custard cream. Hoping you and your partner get through this in your own way and in your own time.
Thinking of you and will send up a little prayer for you. xx

[Nicky987]

custard cream what devasting news. so sad to hear. thinkin gof you and your partner and we are always here if needed.

iguana - any updates?? sounds like you covered all areas.

As for me i had a HSg done end of sept (day 6 of my cycle) a week after i had a spontaneous 3 day period (my first sponatneous AF in over 18 months!!) and then yesterday evening - totally out of the blue full blown AF arrived! totally freaked me out. And it would of been 32 days since my last one. So maybe i might of needed clearing out which the HSG must of done. Im back to the consultant of Tuesday - any suggestions on what be our next opitions?? I have already tried 2 cycles of clomid 100mg post a provea brought on AF and bloods showed it had no effect. Will he try it again? he was speaking about a lapasocopy but not that i have had two AF will he still do that?

In the next few months 3 of my closest friends will be due to give birth and these last few weeks i cant stop thinking about if i will ever fall pregnant. Im off out this weekend for a hen and just gonna let my hair down (think its long overdue!!)

[Hope34]

Custard Cream, I'm so so sorry. I know you must be so sad. Don't lose hope though, this will happen for you.

[barbiegirl]

Custard Cream I am so sorry for your loss. Really nothing and no-one can help, but hold on to one another and you will get through.

The pain in your lower back is normal, infact I felt uncomfortable for about a week after each d&c, nurofen plus were my friend. As to my period in all three cases it was 4 weeks after the bleeding stopped.

Big big hugs to you and your hubbie

[Mink]

Custard Cream, I am so so so sorry to hear that. I hope you & your OH are taking care of each other. I've not had a miscarriage before (not been preg) but I know many here have & will have advice.

I'm sure they will tell you let yourself heal fully physically & emotionally & that's the priority. So sorry.

[Mink]

Originally Posted by Nicky987

As for me i had a HSg done end of sept (day 6 of my cycle) a week after i had a spontaneous 3 day period (my first sponatneous AF in over 18 months!!) and then yesterday evening - totally out of the blue full blown AF arrived! totally freaked me out. And it would of been 32 days since my last one. So maybe i might of needed clearing out which the HSG must of done.

Someone else was saying that the Hsg definitely helps clear things out and can really trigger a period. It's great that you are having spontaneous ones now!!

Apparently it can help move any little blockages in tubes & so on so you could well fall preg on next couple cycles.

[Digs]

Custard Cream I am so sorry for you and your partners loss. Stay strong and look after each other.

Custard Cream, I'm so sorry for your loss. I cant even begin to imagine the pain you must be feeling. take care of yourself x my thoughts are with you and your partner

[Grawns]

Originally Posted by Custard Cream

Morning everyone. We had our 12 week scan on Monday and unfortunatly a heartbeat could not be found. I can't really write anymore about it as I'll just start crying again. I just wanted to ask some of the girls who have been in the same situation when their period came back? The doc said it could be 5-6 weeks? Also my lower back is killing me. Is that normal? My husband says it's probably stress as well as the D&C.

I may not post on TTC for a few weeks but as always I'll follow all your stories and keep you all in my prayers. Wishing you all the very best of luck this month.

So sorry for your loss. Rotten rotten rotten. My af came back exactly 28 days after d&c. I hope you get over the physical and emotional trauma soon. Hugs

[iguana]

I'm really sorry for your loss Custard Cream. Take care of yourself.

[Neyite]

Originally Posted by Custard Cream

Morning everyone. We had our 12 week scan on Monday and unfortunatly a heartbeat could not be found. I can't really write anymore about it as I'll just start crying again. I just wanted to ask some of the girls who have been in the same situation when their period came back? The doc said it could be 5-6 weeks? Also my lower back is killing me. Is that normal? My husband says it's probably stress as well as the D&C.

I may not post on TTC for a few weeks but as always I'll follow all your stories and keep you all in my prayers. Wishing you all the very best of luck this month.

Custard, I am so sorry to hear your news. My sincere condolences to you and your husband on your loss.

I got sad news this morning too - one of my little twins stopped growing at 8 weeks, The little one I was worried about. I know I should be happy that I still have one very healthy baby, and I am, but today I need to grieve for my little one that was only with us for a short while. My emotions are all mixed up - The nurse pointed out the twin that was moving around - the head, the arms, the feet, and I was so proud, yet at the same time my heart was breaking because the other little one was so still, and small.

I had to pull a sickie after our early morning scan. If I had to listen to my supervisor flap on about a dumb spreadsheet or report today, I might have cheerfully killed her. My partner is in bits, I have never seen him cry before, but today he is so upset. Which sets me off. Today I have cried so much for my little fragile child that was too delicate for this world.

oh Neyite, i'm so sorry. How heartbreaking for you both. It must be such mixed emotions for you. You were right not to go to work, you need time to grieve. My thoughts are with you x hugs

[Nicky987]

neyite - very sorry on your sad news also, you need to grieve for your little one but remember they will leave on in their sibling who is a true fighter...... be strong

[Ms2011]

Neyite, Custard Cream, I don't know what to say, there is never the right words for events like this and I can't even imagine putting myself in your shoes as that alone would be too painful. Please take care x