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Peared · 11-02-2008, 16:24

Whats the feckin story with this place? When the Ladies Lounge opened first I asked if it wold be boring or if the fellas would pop in and mock us. Strangely though, the one thing I didnt anticipate was the absolute b*tchiness that goes on in here. Yes there are a lot of good arguments and interesting posts and people just disagreeing but my god, theres an awful lot of nastiness too.

I went to a Loreto and I gotta say this place is starting to remind me of my days there. I think, if it continues to escalate in this manner, the Ladies Lounge will eventually implode.

Any thoughts?

ntlbell · 11-02-2008, 16:27

You might be awhile waiting on certain replies, they have to ask Vanesa Feltz first before replying.

Sherifu · 11-02-2008, 16:30

A women's forum is bitchy? Well I never

edit: this is one of those men mocking you posts you talked about

FavouriteSlave · 11-02-2008, 16:31

I think posts can be taken the wrong way very easily on a forum, and umbrage can be taken very easily.

And yeah, women can be awful bitches!

ntlbell · 11-02-2008, 16:31

More news at 11 users of BGRH have unbalanced diets

Clare Bear · 11-02-2008, 16:32

I don't see that much bitchiness in here? Though there's one or two posters that baffle me and need to chill the fock out. Apart from that I think it's grand.

You can't expect it to just be a female version of the BGRH. I think this place is great and the few of us that now hang around together are having a ball so it's all good in my hood!

Lux23 · 11-02-2008, 16:34

Women are bitchy in general and we don't have the same camaradie as men do but i don't think the ladies lounge is all that bitchy. Ive never had anyone make any remarks that I felt were uncalled for to me.

LouOB · 11-02-2008, 16:36

I havent seen much in here at all.
Maybe its just some Threads that you were in??!!Dunno.
I steer clear on all that lark - makes for easier life

Peared · 11-02-2008, 16:38

Yeah ok smartasses so I knew a womens forum would be a tad snipey every now and then

Maybe I have used the wrong word, its just sometimes it doesnt feel like a welcoming place to be.

BGRH is worse though, all that fear of catching teh gay.

A lot of it is persona I know but I sense an element of bullying sometimes.

All to be expected I know, just feels more personal and intense in the LL.

Some may disagree, and that will be a good thing.

Stargal · 11-02-2008, 16:42

Rather than just putting it down to the fact that 'women are bitchy' (yawn), surely a lot of the clashes are because of the two very different types of women that are posting in this forum?

Firstly there are the girly-girls, who like boys, pink things and planning what kind of mothers they'll be. Then there's the thinking girls, who want to talk about what it means to be a woman nowadays with the expectations, the blurring of gender roles and living up to the 'superwoman' ideal.

On a lot of the threads here it seems that the clashes are often between the two types of women, rather than just random bitchiness directed at individuals. That'd be my reading of it anyway...

ntlbell · 11-02-2008, 16:43

Quote:

Originally Posted by Peared

Yeah ok smartasses so I knew a womens forum would be a tad snipey every now and then

Maybe I have used the wrong word, its just sometimes it doesnt feel like a welcoming place to be.

BGRH is worse though, all that fear of catching teh gay.

A lot of it is persona I know but I sense an element of bullying sometimes.

All to be expected I know, just feels more personal and intense in the LL.

Some may disagree, and that will be a good thing.

The thing is it's quickly became a fairly "large" busy forum with lots of different personalities when you add to the fact a lot of people seem to take up things the wrong when in text when there's no tone to the words.

Then you have the odd little clique and when one person gets in an argument there friends come and regardless of their real opinion they get dragged in.

This has been happening for years on nearly every forum.

Quality · 11-02-2008, 16:43

No One or two of the posters is starting to piss me off.

The moral police seem to come along anytime someone posts something fun.

Freedom of speech...

Slow Motion · 11-02-2008, 16:45

Quote:

Originally Posted by Peared

Yeah ok smartasses so I knew a womens forum would be a tad snipey every now and then

Maybe I have used the wrong word, its just sometimes it doesnt feel like a welcoming place to be.

BGRH is worse though, all that fear of catching teh gay.

A lot of it is persona I know but I sense an element of bullying sometimes.

All to be expected I know, just feels more personal and intense in the LL.

Some may disagree, and that will be a good thing.

You complain of bitchiness and then have a go at BGRH, way to prove your point!

Peared · 11-02-2008, 16:46

Stargal you forgot the girly thinking girls, the two are not mutually exclusive. And I think there are a few of those on here.

Peared · 11-02-2008, 16:49

I wouldnt call commenting and making an observation being bitchy.

Really really trying to nitpick there imo.

11-02-2008, 16:24	#1
Peared Registered User Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Ireland Posts: 1,147 Adverts \| Friends	*Btchiness** Whats the feckin story with this place? When the Ladies Lounge opened first I asked if it wold be boring or if the fellas would pop in and mock us. Strangely though, the one thing I didnt anticipate was the absolute b*tchiness that goes on in here. Yes there are a lot of good arguments and interesting posts and people just disagreeing but my god, theres an awful lot of nastiness too. I went to a Loreto and I gotta say this place is starting to remind me of my days there. I think, if it continues to escalate in this manner, the Ladies Lounge will eventually implode. Any thoughts?

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11-02-2008, 16:27	#2
ntlbell Registered User Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Dublin Posts: 16,186 Adverts \| Friends	You might be awhile waiting on certain replies, they have to ask Vanesa Feltz first before replying.

11-02-2008, 16:30	#3
Sherifu Registered User Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Bucharest, Romania Posts: 17,419 Adverts \| Friends	A women's forum is bitchy? Well I never edit: this is one of those men mocking you posts you talked about

11-02-2008, 16:31	#4
FavouriteSlave Registered User Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 450 Adverts \| Friends	I think posts can be taken the wrong way very easily on a forum, and umbrage can be taken very easily. And yeah, women can be awful bitches!

11-02-2008, 16:32	#6
Clare Bear Closed Account Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 10,483 Adverts \| Friends	I don't see that much bitchiness in here? Though there's one or two posters that baffle me and need to chill the fock out. Apart from that I think it's grand. You can't expect it to just be a female version of the BGRH. I think this place is great and the few of us that now hang around together are having a ball so it's all good in my hood!

11-02-2008, 16:34	#7
Lux23 Registered User Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Dublin Posts: 3,108 Adverts \| Friends	Women are bitchy in general and we don't have the same camaradie as men do but i don't think the ladies lounge is all that bitchy. Ive never had anyone make any remarks that I felt were uncalled for to me.

11-02-2008, 16:36	#8
LouOB Registered User Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: under the bush Posts: 1,156 Adverts \| Friends	I havent seen much in here at all. Maybe its just some Threads that you were in??!!Dunno. I steer clear on all that lark - makes for easier life

11-02-2008, 16:38	#9
Peared Registered User Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Ireland Posts: 1,147 Adverts \| Friends	Yeah ok smartasses so I knew a womens forum would be a tad snipey every now and then Maybe I have used the wrong word, its just sometimes it doesnt feel like a welcoming place to be. BGRH is worse though, all that fear of catching teh gay. A lot of it is persona I know but I sense an element of bullying sometimes. All to be expected I know, just feels more personal and intense in the LL. Some may disagree, and that will be a good thing.

11-02-2008, 16:42	#10
Stargal Registered User Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: In my head Posts: 3,302 Adverts \| Friends	Rather than just putting it down to the fact that 'women are bitchy' (yawn), surely a lot of the clashes are because of the two very different types of women that are posting in this forum? Firstly there are the girly-girls, who like boys, pink things and planning what kind of mothers they'll be. Then there's the thinking girls, who want to talk about what it means to be a woman nowadays with the expectations, the blurring of gender roles and living up to the 'superwoman' ideal. On a lot of the threads here it seems that the clashes are often between the two types of women, rather than just random bitchiness directed at individuals. That'd be my reading of it anyway...

11-02-2008, 16:43	#12
Quality Registered User Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: East Coast Baby! Posts: 9,280 Adverts \| Friends	No One or two of the posters is starting to piss me off. The moral police seem to come along anytime someone posts something fun. Freedom of speech...

11-02-2008, 16:46	#14
Peared Registered User Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Ireland Posts: 1,147 Adverts \| Friends	Stargal you forgot the girly thinking girls, the two are not mutually exclusive. And I think there are a few of those on here.

11-02-2008, 16:49	#15
Peared Registered User Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Ireland Posts: 1,147 Adverts \| Friends	I wouldnt call commenting and making an observation being bitchy. Really really trying to nitpick there imo.