[Cheeky_gal]

Originally Posted by The-Rigger

Yea she is.

+ 1

aha i kid i kid, but seriously i dont kid...

jeez I doubt your bf would be too happy knowing you kissed another guy especially on christmas eve. No offence but you're been very unfair to your bf. Make up your mind for both your sake and his.

[Andy Carroll]

Originally Posted by Cheeky_gal

+ 1

aha i kid i kid, but seriously i dont kid...

jeez I doubt your bf would be too happy knowing you kissed another guy especially on christmas eve. No offence but you're been very unfair to your bf. Make up your mind for both your sake and his.

I'm almost afraid to think it, let alone say it, but...

Cheeky_gal = Voice of reason.

[Quality]

The grass is always greener on the other side...

You need to sort out your feelings, You are obviously not happy in your relationship cause if you were you wouldnt be kissing other lads.

Dont be ripping your boyfriend off though, thats a horrible thing to do...

[Cheeky_gal]

ha ha! I love your reason!!!!

[Nevyn]

Why not date them both ?

[Agent Smith]

threesome?

[jellie]

Originally Posted by ladeelove

I dont want to feel this way about him because i love my boyfriend but i am sooooo confused about the whole situation

If you truly loved your bf you wouldnt have gone near the other guy in the 1st place. do the guy a favour & break up with him before you do more to hurt him.

[Tom Dunne]

Originally Posted by agent smith

threesome?

I believe the phrase the young people are using is "four ball".

[Maple]

break up with your boyf. take some time for yourself and decide what exactly it is befre you do anything further.

[whatsgoinon]

well the way I see it is, man 2 has ended his realtionship for you, and if you do get with him, how do you know it won't happen again, if you get my drift, when the magic wears off and you're back to where you are now except you are the one getting your heart broken., when he trades you in a for a newer model or vice versa
once a cheater always a cheater and cheaters always get caught.

[Kiya]

op, i think ive an idea how ur feeling.

u must be feeln guilty about ur current bf but then it mightnt seem too bad cos you're probably all excited about this new guy, espesh if he has left his gf for you.
its a big ego trip for you too, hes broken someone elses heart especially for you!

i know how i felt when it happend to me a few years ago.
id broken up with my "nice, honest, steady" bf before i kissed this guy (who was a long term crush) & supposedly madly in love with me.
i refused to see him unless he was single & because i felt crappy for his gf, i didnt speak to him til a month later.
by this stage he'd "supposedly" ended it with his gf & i was crazy about him thinking it would all work out.

but unfortunately like the other guys say, once a cheater....
a few months later he dumped me to get back with her, saying it had all been a huge mistake.. lovely bloke eh!
imagine if i had still been in a decent relationship & ended it for him.


just out of curiousity, how long u with ur current bf?
& u say uv known him years... have u always fancied this new guy?

[Will]

break it off with the guy, do him a favour. Tell him you cheated on him too so it wont take him ages to get over you.

[milli]

Originally Posted by ladeelove

I am unsure about him long term, i dont know if i see myself having kids and growing old with him but i can with the new guy

Try imagining things without this new guy - would you still be happy with your boyfriend? Or would you just be coasting along? Maybe this new guy is the excuse you've been looking for to get out of your current relationship?

[Wibbs]

This is not rocket science. You're at the "in love" infatuation stage with the new guy. You love in the long term way the boyfriend. Hence you love two men, just in different ways. You have more of the spark with the new guy. You had the same spark with the boyfriend when it was all new and exiting too though. It's just familiarity has dulled that somewhat. Spark pretty much equals horniness. It can be dressed up in flowery chocolate box romance terms, but basically you want to bone the new guy more.

Because people nowadays have more choice of partners this confuses things. In the past you would probably be married to the boyfriend and that would be that or you would have an affair.

The grass is greener stuff is where this comes from. You leave the boyfriend and go out with new guy. The lust stage passes and you find you may not be as compatible with the new guy as you were with the old. Cue tears and tales of regret. In some it's also repeat ad nauseum.

Every time you fall in love you reset the mechanism somewhat. I know I do. I think "I never felt like this before" and this one is special etc. In retrospect looking back they were all pretty similar just different women.

[BeardyGit]

Nail on the head Wibbs.