just posting here to get your opinion to see what you think of the situation and to give me advice as I know you guys are brilliant at that sort of thing just from reading the forum. I hope you can help me anyway.
I have been going out with a girl 6 months now, we will call her Jane whom I met through her best friend who we will call Sarah who is also a good friend of mine and it's been going really well. I get on so well with her and love being with her and we are really happy with each other.
There is one small problem though...there is always a problem or else I wouldn't be here. It's her best friend Sarah. Who also happens to be a good friend of mine too.
I'll let you know the situation a bit better before i come across as bitching or whatever. Basically I am 22 and live at home and my girlfriend is 21 and lives at home too. Some weekends my parents go away and in recent weeks we have used sunday evenings when my parents are gone as our "make out" time. This has been a regular thing we have been doing to spend some bonding time with each other, we would get dinner, a film and spend quality time with each other. It's been perfect and I loved it.
So Jane and Sarah are in college with each other and Sarah has been giving her some sly digs such as "Oh your spending a lot of time with your boyfriend" or "do you want to go do this" when she knows she is going to be meeting up with me. Basically she is trying to be awkward and is wondering who my girlfriend will choose, her or me without actually saying anything if you get me. And well, as i said, myself and my girlfriend Jane have been having our bonding time on sunday evenings so I was with my girlfriend last night and we were out and she told me that Sarah was wondering what she was up too this sunday(She knows full well that Jane comes over to my house and we spend time on sunday evening) and i was like "oh grand no worries" but it was pissing me off as I knew full well and my girlfriend knew full well that she was trying to get her to choose between her or me.
Well, as the night went on, it was pissing me off that I wouldn't be able to spend my sunday evening that i normally do with my girlfriend as my parents are away this weekend again and it's the only time we can get "affectionate" and have the place to ourselves. So I said to my girlfriend "Can you not try meet Sarah during the day and then u can come to me in the evening?" and she replied "Yeah i'd love to do that but I know Sarah won't be able to do that". I got annoyed and we had a little arguement about it because my girlfriend has to try please her best friend and me. I was probably being selfish. My girlfriend was telling me "it's only one sunday and that she is her best friend" and how she needs to get Sarah off her back and by meeting her on the sunday, this may do that.
We both know full well that Sarah is trying to make her choose between me and her without actually saying it, but by trying to meet up with her when she usually meets me etc which i think is really unfair. Real friends are not supposed to do that. We also know that Sarah is really jealous of the fact that I am going out with her and the fact Sarah does not have a boyfriend. It's basically a pain in the ass and is wrecking my head. I don't want my girlfriend to have to choose between myself and her best friend.
What do i do? The only reason i feel this way is because i am happy in my relationship and really care about the girl.