Due July 2012 Thread

Oh my god my daughter is baiting me from inside, wonder how she thinks of it..

Zoe(looking at invisible watch): "hmmm, half one, late but im still not sleepy- i know my house probably doesn't contain the space i need but, seeing as i had a movie day today... Baby zumba woo hoo"

Very sleepy mam: "Urgh zoe that really hurts"

Zoe:"oh sorry mam,but it's too late now and im in the groove la la la"

:-(

javagal wrote: »

Zoe:"oh sorry mam,but it's too late now and im in the groove la la la"

:-(

baby zumba, ha! That was the same as my little one last night, I get weird dreams if I sleep while there's kicking so ended up staying up for ages watching a show about sandwiches...
scan this evening now, can't wait to see the wriggler!

Mink wrote: »

Right, quick one, how much weight have you guys gained so far? I'm 27 weeks and have now racked up a grand total of 24 pounds (nearly two stone). I've been keeping track of it on this spreadsheet thingy that I got off some pregnancy site (which already takes into account my height & starting weight) and I'm about 5 or 6 lbs above the "high end" of where my weight should be.

I don't think I've porked out too much but I see a double chin starting, I look a bit moon faced & not in a bloaty way.

I'm eating pretty healthily, just a lot , and lots of cake type things think I need to lay off the cake! I don't have to have dessert everyday, I don't think it's crucial to baby's development somehow.

I didnt know my starting weight, so i dont know if i have gained much..
I feel as though i havent put on any unnessesary weight. i keep asking friends and family if they think my face has filled out etc...they say it hasnt but maybe they just dont want to upset a pregnant lady..

i am still wearing my pre pregnancy knickers..and i am still wearing my pre pregnany jackets and cardigans (without closing them obviously).
My problem area has always been my thighs...they are always HUGE! but i think they are still as huge as they always were.

My hubby thinks that my boobs are after shrinking...?? but i think they just look small in comparison to my belly.

Mink if your medical people are concerned I would imagine they would mention it, you could always ask next time you are in if it's still worrying you
As long as your baby is growing well that's most important & heck sometimes we just need cake icecream is my big thing at the moment
I have gained about a stone but I had gained about a stone over my normal weight (which isn't skinny to begin with) before getting pregnant during our treatment cycles so I'm up something similar to you overall. In the early stages of pregnancy my weight stayed the same but I lost weight from face etc so I think my weight was redeployed around my body initially & then I started gaining
Pregnancy is not a time to worry about your weight - like I said I'm sure they will mention it if they are concerned

I've put on about 2 and a half stone, which is a chunk more than I am suposed to. My face is a bit fatter - but the rest of me is only marginally bigger, apart from the giant bump. I have a scan on the 11th, and hopefully they'll be able to tell me if I am having a giant baby.

I started buying some bits and pieces for my hospital bag, so I now own a nightdress and a pyjamas - there's a first time for everything!

Ray Darcy is doing some pregnancy talk with some women...
One has had 4 home births..

Can i have a bit of a rant please??

Ok, here it goes..

i'm sick to DEATH of people making comments like - if i said i had a bad nights sleep i'm told - "oh get used to sleepless nights ha ha"
or I met my sis in town on saturday and there was a baby crying in a shop - like hysterical and i got "you better start getting used to that sound now ha ha ha"..
I just mentioned to someone about looking forward to buying regular clothes again and i get "ha! you wont even be thinking about normal clothes for the first few months"
Or, my sister (who has three kids) went out with her hubby at the weekend, first night in months, and she was like "that'll be you now too, you and your hubby wont be going out anymore ha ha"
Or she made some comment about me having to push a buggy around when she wont have to anymore (her youngest is 3) and she seemed to find it very amusing...

Like, i have a daughter, i KNOW what its like to have a child...and i was a single mother (albiet - got alot of help from my mother when i moved home when my daughter was 2) but for the first 2 yrs everything was all done by me..so if anything i know what its like at its worst - being alone.
Whats with all the negative comments!! - especially from people that have kids! Like if it was that bad why did you do it yourself!?

silly wrote: »

Can i have a bit of a rant please??

Ok, here it goes..

i'm sick to DEATH of people making comments like - if i said i had a bad nights sleep i'm told - "oh get used to sleepless nights ha ha"

I'm already sick of this. My boss said to me this morning he was up all night with his 1yr old as she was teething & ah sure you have all that ahead of you.

All it does is worry new mums! Unless you live under a rock, you are well aware that you could have a very unsettled baby or a baby who goes through phases of screaming through the night. We know this, please don't ruin our last three months in sleepy,nighty,dreamy,snoozy land by reminding us!

I've found I'm pre-empting people saying it, like I say "ah sure it's all ahead of me" before they get a chance to get their little stab in. Grr

silly wrote: »

i'm sick to DEATH of people making comments like - if i said i had a bad nights sleep i'm told - "oh get used to sleepless nights ha ha"

Yeah, I sat with a classmate today during break who went on and on about how my life will be over once baby arrives and that I won't have a bit of freedom until baby leaves for college! I just sat there willing her to shut it.

kildareash wrote: »

I sometimes think that it's people who let the baby change their lives dramatically rather than incorporating baby in to their lives that make comments like that.

I agree completely with this. I know more parents that still worked it out to enjoy the things in life that they did before, ie occasionally going out & also hobbies/excercise. I think it's a mindset and people tend to dramatise the bad things/phases that might happen, I sometimes do this being a drama queen pregnant princess

There's always ways to figure something out, get around it etc. Probably better for baby if you're happier with your life as well as there's then no resentment building up. That's the way I'm going to try approach it.

But either way I'm treating the first 3 months completely as "play it by ear" as I just need to get into the groove with my baby first and foremost.

Kildareash that girl is a tw4t. How someone could say that about him to the mother of his unborn child is beyond me. Again, people can be so dense. I wouldn't listen to anything she has to say related to child care.

Mink wrote: »

Are you one of these that sleep in the nip? My sister is like that her whole life and my OH was until I turned him into a complete tenderfoot by buying him lots of comfy jammies! Now he's like an aul wan snuggled up in bed!

Yep - I might wear a t-shirt and socks in the winter if it's really cold, but normally not. I do however have a collection of snuggly dressing gowns for after I get up

feest wrote: »

Yeah, I sat with a classmate today during break who went on and on about how my life will be over once baby arrives and that I won't have a bit of freedom until baby leaves for college! I just sat there willing her to shut it.

I would not have been willing her to shut it, I would have been telling her to. Politely, of course. Unless she had trouble taking the hint.

I find it hilarious that people think that a life is made up of going out, and getting drunk, and spontaneously flying off on adventure holidays and what have you - my life is made up of much more than that, and having a baby is only going to make it different - it's not going to make it stop!

And it also means wonderful things (joy of motherhood notwithstanding) - like an excuse to go to Disney Land (they'll be celebrating their 25th anniversary when our kids are 5 - pretty perfect timing ) and trampolines, and swing sets, and trips to the zoo, making rice-crispy buns and face painting - I can't wait!

kildareash wrote: »

I sometimes think that it's people who let the baby change their lives dramatically rather than incorporating baby in to their lives that make comments like that.

One thing that's really pissing me off, is people making comments about my OH's ability to look after his own child. He's a bit of a messer and jokes about different things he could do with the baby. One girl, even said she wouldn't leave the baby on its own with him. I was shocked and hurt. He's actually really good with kids, my 5yo nephew loves him to bits. I wouldn't mind but he works with young people too...I know that doesn't mean he's going to be a good dad but we were shocked that she could say such a thing.

I think you have a great point there!

That girl was out of place Ash, that was uncalled for. I had a similar comment from a friend of his when out for dinner the other day, saying that my OH wouldn't be able to look after a baby, to which the table went into stunned silence. The tone was worse than the comment. All I said was "well, you're wrong. Anyone who knows him can see he'll be an excellent Dad". The rest of the table fell over themselves to agree, and she took it back pretty sharpish.

BTW Mink at 30 weeks I have gone just over two stone,

I posted a very similar post to yours a few weeks ago, but Im kinda just enjoying it now and lost 3 stone in WW in 3 months earlier this year so I will and have to do it again before my friends wedding at halloween.

I've gained so much because I was on a strict diet with WW and then I got pregnant I stopped straight away so it's obvious, but my widwife said I'm tall and broad and healthy so it's all good!!

OH just txt so say he'll be late home again...might have a little cry myself

Girls,
I think I have come to a decision about breastfeeding/bottlefeeding.
I think i am going to bottlefeed.
I really don't feel comfortable breast feeding - I am terrified of it.
I feel pressured to want to do it, i have a friend who is a midwife/PHN and she pressures me a bit.
I want to enjoy the first few weeks/months of my baby without getting stressed about feeding/latching/bleeding nipples/milk not coming in/breasts being engorged etc.
I want my husband to be involved as much as possible, he has hardly even held a baby, never mind feed one, but i want him to be able to do it because i know he will be happy to stand back and not get involved in the feeding part of it, which i know will only cause problems with us if i feel he isnt doing enough to bond.
I have an 11 yr old, who is already feeling left out in my life. It was always me & her, and then when i met my husband, we built a house and moved in with him. Then it was all wedding talk and now baby talk. and i try my best to do things with her and have our own time, but i know once baby arrives i will really need to treat her will a little more special attention, and show her that this baby is not MORE important, but equally as. So i want to be able to leave baby with my mom, so me and my girl can spend the day together, and not have to worry about expressing enough milk etc..

I have not made up my mind 100% but that is where i am right now.
Please tell me i am not being selfish by not wanting to breastfeed....or do tell me! maybe its what i need to hear to decide fully what i want to do.