Advice - Relationship!

OK there's no quick and easy solution here. I understand your frustration at the situation, especially if you have been in a relationship for two years, but you must understand that this is his decision to take and asking him to come out is essentially a lifestyle change that he doesn't want to make right now.

Does he live with his family or does he have his own place? What is his relationship with his parents/siblings like right now and would he risk straining it by coming out? All of these are important factors contributing to his decision. He came out to friends, did he come out to you personally in the past?

Although this is his decision to make it does have a bearing on how you are feeling, you don't like being his secret and you've opened up your life and family to him. What I'm trying to say here is are you prepared to wait for him to move slowly on this given that you have both been in this relationship for so long already, or has it reached a point where this is now a dealbreaker for you? If it is then you need to have a frank and serious discussion about what you both want from the relationship and what you can and cannot expect of each other for the future.

In this type of situation there are limits on how far the relationship can truly progress and I'm guessing that you are feeling a little stuck right now. Getting him to talk about it is the key here, identify his specific fears and if he is willing then the two of you need to try and tackle these fears one by one, otherwise he will remain in the closet to them and assume that everything between you and him is fine.