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cymbaline · 09-05-2012, 18:26

I'm curious to know what your married life is like other than this? How do the pair of you get on otherwise? Is there any sort of friendship there at all? Are you able to sit down and talk about anything? What I noticed from this thread was how you didn't really seem to take on board what people were talking about. People suggested all sorts of reasons why your wife might not want to have sex with you. Yet you came back and more or less reprised your initial question as if the other posts had never happened. The way you're talking about your wife doesn't make it sound like you even like her. Excuse my assumptions here by the way. I know you're very frustrated

username123 · 09-05-2012, 19:28

The OPs wife says - I dont want to have sex and its my way or the highway.

There are possible weeks of silence if he brings it up.

The OP says - why do women go off sex, I cant afford the highway, I dont want my parenting to be an hour in McDonalds.

The above thoughts/opinions/views do not come across as adult viewpoints or modes of communication from either party.

No amount of nice house etc... is worth staying in a dead relationship for. Clearly if the above is the level of communication then there is no mutual love or respect.

Perhaps if the OP told his wife that he wished to take the highway, and as such the family home would have to be sold, and rented accommodations sought for all while they await a court date pertaining to spousal support, maintenance and access agreements to be hammered out OR they could go for couples counselling - which would she go for?

Because judging by the childish exchanges on the issue of their relationship and the unwillingness for either of them to address anything for the past 10 years - perhaps she thinks he will never act to change anything and she is happy with that?

scholar007 · 13-05-2012, 21:35

Nearly a week of silence - she went out Friday night looking very hot - came home late...Whats a guy to do?

**Ickle Magoo** · 13-05-2012, 21:43

OP, you have had 6 pages of advice here and you are asking the same question regardless of the advice already given, so I'm locking this thread.

The posters of PI aren't going to be able to solve your marital issues beyond the advice already proffered - you need to speak to your wife/get professional help in the real world.

All the very best.

09-05-2012, 18:26	#76
cymbaline Registered User Join Date: Apr 2011 Posts: 745 Adverts \| Friends	I'm curious to know what your married life is like other than this? How do the pair of you get on otherwise? Is there any sort of friendship there at all? Are you able to sit down and talk about anything? What I noticed from this thread was how you didn't really seem to take on board what people were talking about. People suggested all sorts of reasons why your wife might not want to have sex with you. Yet you came back and more or less reprised your initial question as if the other posts had never happened. The way you're talking about your wife doesn't make it sound like you even like her. Excuse my assumptions here by the way. I know you're very frustrated

09-05-2012, 19:28	#77
username123 Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 4,403 Adverts \| Friends	The OPs wife says - I dont want to have sex and its my way or the highway. There are possible weeks of silence if he brings it up. The OP says - why do women go off sex, I cant afford the highway, I dont want my parenting to be an hour in McDonalds. The above thoughts/opinions/views do not come across as adult viewpoints or modes of communication from either party. No amount of nice house etc... is worth staying in a dead relationship for. Clearly if the above is the level of communication then there is no mutual love or respect. Perhaps if the OP told his wife that he wished to take the highway, and as such the family home would have to be sold, and rented accommodations sought for all while they await a court date pertaining to spousal support, maintenance and access agreements to be hammered out OR they could go for couples counselling - which would she go for? Because judging by the childish exchanges on the issue of their relationship and the unwillingness for either of them to address anything for the past 10 years - perhaps she thinks he will never act to change anything and she is happy with that?

13-05-2012, 21:35	#78
scholar007 Closed Account Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 893 Adverts \| Friends	Nearly a week of silence - she went out Friday night looking very hot - came home late...Whats a guy to do?

13-05-2012, 21:43	#79
Ickle Magoo Ach, stick it up yer trakkens Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Ragnar�kkr Posts: 15,771 Adverts \| Friends CMod: Personal Issues, Phobias, Soc, Soc Mods	OP, you have had 6 pages of advice here and you are asking the same question regardless of the advice already given, so I'm locking this thread. The posters of PI aren't going to be able to solve your marital issues beyond the advice already proffered - you need to speak to your wife/get professional help in the real world. All the very best.