What do women think men want?

Piste wrote: »

Tbh if you head over to BGRH and read most posts there, and read posts by guys concerning relationships with women in any other forum you'll see the opinions expressed here of what men want are quite apt.

Of course you can generalise, obviously you wont be as accurate as if you considered every man individually, but for obvious reasons that's impractical.

Deleted User wrote: »

Well I work with just guys, I train with just guys and I have one of my own.

So I think I have an idea of what MOST men want...

They don't want drama, hassle, histrionics. They don't care that so-and-so said this to yer one at the weekend, and she looked at me funny and the other one is just jealous and she's a bitch and blah blah blah.

They don't care that you've put on or lost a quarter of a pound this week, and they really don't want to hear the ins and outs of how many points are in a leaf of lettuce.

They think your bum looks just fine in those jeans, you don't need to wear that much make-up and a mussed-up hairdo and a smile is more attractive than a fake-tanned dolly bird with hair ghd-ed to within an inch of its life.

They want to be able to relax in a woman's company without wondering if they're saying the 'right thing'.
They want to be able to laugh with you, and want you to be able to take a bit of gentle slagging without dissolving into girlie tears.

And (this might cause consternation) I think men want a woman to need them in some ways. Independence is great, but a man wants to feel like he's useful for being a man.
So put down the hammer, even if you can do it yourself, and let him put up the shelves.

Deleted User wrote: »

Well I work with just guys, I train with just guys and I have one of my own.

So I think I have an idea of what MOST men want...

They don't want drama, hassle, histrionics. They don't care that so-and-so said this to yer one at the weekend, and she looked at me funny and the other one is just jealous and she's a bitch and blah blah blah.

They don't care that you've put on or lost a quarter of a pound this week, and they really don't want to hear the ins and outs of how many points are in a leaf of lettuce.

They think your bum looks just fine in those jeans, you don't need to wear that much make-up and a mussed-up hairdo and a smile is more attractive than a fake-tanned dolly bird with hair ghd-ed to within an inch of its life.

They want to be able to relax in a woman's company without wondering if they're saying the 'right thing'.
They want to be able to laugh with you, and want you to be able to take a bit of gentle slagging without dissolving into girlie tears.

And (this might cause consternation) I think men want a woman to need them in some ways. Independence is great, but a man wants to feel like he's useful for being a man.
So put down the hammer, even if you can do it yourself, and let him put up the shelves.

Wibbs wrote: »

Good start this one.
I wouldnt even consider a second date with that type tbh. Been there, worn the tee shirt. For a while in one case. Major head wreck, though my willy took over there as she was very attractive. Even that wasn't enough to keep going though. Goes double for the ones who want you to be their shrink. Not good. Shrinks get paid and paid well. Sex though fine and dandy doesn't really cut it.

Yes. In a big way. All of us have uncertain days, but obsessing about food, either too much of it it or too little is boring and gets boring really quickly. And yes too little is as bad as too much.


This is a major biggy and rare to find. OK in the early stages you're both bound to screw up a bit, but if as a guy you feel your sphincter tightening once a month or more because you said or did something innocent, then let her go. Life is too short. You do not want to be one of those couples where the woman is constantly making disapproving looks towards their partner. Easygoing for the win.

True but both this one and the previous point is all too often an excuse for some men to be complete boors. I would also add the ability to have a discussion about us as a couple without her feeling it is automatically an attack on her as a person. Very common and easy to see as a way of avoiding dealing with things.
That bit I don't get. For me at least. I would be looking for a partner. Simple as. If she can do something better for us as a couple then cool. Go for it. I'm well up with that. I dont need my ego stroked because she's better at certain things. I dont have an ego about that stuff really. I wouldnt go with her if she wasn't better and added to me as a human being. Also if I can do something better than her for us then it doesn't mean she's lesser. If I got that vibe of "how dare you be better" too much that would be a sticking point.

Independence and confidence are hard ones to define for many. Both men and women. Too many think independence is them saying no all the time or laying down the law. Same with confidence. I am who I am so follow me little boy types. That gets old real quick, basically because any relatively emotionally centered man will spot that for the facade it is. Confidence doesn't require being strident all the time.

I think what I look for long term is emotional stability, loyalty through tough times(very important and surprisingly rare), ability to grow as a person. Self awareness, not self centered(also rare in both sexes, but some women hold the rights to that), consistency of emotions and a physical and sexual compatibility. And last but not least, kindness based in intellect and emotions, not sentimentality.