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Lads view on texting a girl

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    #32
    Magic Eight Ball
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,420 ✭✭✭Magic Eight Ball


    anonymous_joe wrote: »
    A mate of mine as a point of principle won't reply to more than half the texts a girl sends him because he's afraid of seeming too eager. I know other people with similar attitudes.

    That's just ridiculous! If she's texting it's because she's interested. How does having the courtesy to reply to a text seem eager?


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    #33
    cork1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 443 ✭✭cork1


    bellorina wrote: »
    Thanks lads, but seriosusly do I not make myself look like a bit of a pathethic fool? or am I just paranoid? He knows people I know, so I'm afraid of looking like a fool? Yee lads are hard to figure out!!!

    the funny part is he is probably saying the same thing!!


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    #34
    chrisr001
    Closed Accounts Posts: 41 ✭chrisr001


    There are all kinds,
    hard to get types,
    eager types,
    afraid to be hurt types,
    do anything for a score types,

    which type do you like?

    you're in the dark,
    gotta switch on some light.


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    #35
    CDfm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    Trevor Coulahan wrote: »
    That's just ridiculous! If she's texting it's because she's interested. How does having the courtesy to reply to a text seem eager?

    I love this thinking and its totally straightforward. Lots of sense.


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    #36
    chrisr001
    Closed Accounts Posts: 41 ✭chrisr001


    Suppose there are other girls he's interested in too?
    he not might like his comments ending up in the public domain.


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    #37
    CDfm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    You meet someone that you are interested in and its over the holidays when people are likely to be free.

    Whats so wrong with that as you can only be out with one person at a time.

    Do the math.


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    #38
    anonymous_joe
    Registered Users Posts: 9,255 ✭✭✭anonymous_joe


    Trevor Coulahan wrote: »
    That's just ridiculous! If she's texting it's because she's interested. How does having the courtesy to reply to a text seem eager?

    Because some women think a guy whose too attentive is desperate and that's unattractive.


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    #39
    chrisr001
    Closed Accounts Posts: 41 ✭chrisr001


    We can't generalise too well when it comes to an individual,
    few want to be clones.
    They will be who they are,
    if they don't text back, only that person is sure why.


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    #40
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Ok, story goes as follows!!!

    Text him yesterday, sweet, sincere and full of XMAS jolly!!! Got a response and swapped a few nice texts.

    But still non the wiser!!!!!....is he just stringing me along or is he really interested? Ball is in his court now, I really think that unless he initiates conversation, I cannot be sure if he's really interested?

    Oh man......!!!!!


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    #41
    robjones
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16 ✭robjones


    text him for gods sake if you havent already

    i dont think most guys worry about girls being to eager etc - just text him


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    #42
    Black Magic
    Closed Accounts Posts: 592 ✭✭✭Black Magic


    Well. What's the news? Did he get the Xmas shag or what?


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    #43
    midlandsmissus
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,838 ✭✭✭midlandsmissus


    I hate texts!

    People always get the wrong end of the stick with them.

    Similiar story with me, I met a guy I liked last wknd, got on great, swapped numbers.
    I haven't texted him all week, and I haven't heard from him all week. I'm not texting him cause I think if he really liked me he'd text me! In fairness it's been a week so he would have texted by now if he was interested.

    I met another guy, who texted me straight away, and was very nice.

    I think it's true really - if you really like some-one you will text them.

    Or maybe he's just flat out busy, you never know. You texted him the last two times so just leave it now and see what he wants. Don't be worrying about it anyway!


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    #44
    cocoa
    Registered Users Posts: 1,269 ✭✭✭cocoa


    midlandsmissus wrote: »
    Similiar story with me, I met a guy I liked last wknd, got on great, swapped numbers.
    I haven't texted him all week, and I haven't heard from him all week. I'm not texting him cause I think if he really liked me he'd text me! In fairness it's been a week so he would have texted by now if he was interested.

    In all fairness, it's clear you didn't really like him, or else you would have texted.


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    #45
    midlandsmissus
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,838 ✭✭✭midlandsmissus


    cocoa wrote: »
    In all fairness, it's clear you didn't really like him, or else you would have texted.

    See that's where everyone can end up getting the wrong stick with texts! I was waiting for him to text me first.

    Bloody texts!


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    #46
    D.R cowboy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 698 ✭✭✭D.R cowboy


    This is ridiculous at this stage I would have her tapped up by now what are you playing at!!!!


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    #47
    Colpriz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 216 ✭✭Colpriz


    the 1920's are over..if you like em text em..but keep it light


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    #48
    cocoa
    Registered Users Posts: 1,269 ✭✭✭cocoa


    midlandsmissus wrote: »
    See that's where everyone can end up getting the wrong stick with texts! I was waiting for him to text me first.

    Bloody texts!

    That's my point, he could quite plausibly have been doing the same thing, and drawn the same conclusion. And you'd both be right, neither of you was interested enough to drop some silly game or 'test'. But you'd both be wrong, because you both missed out on seeing what might have happened and maybe brightening someone's day with a text, instead of waiting for them to go first.

    It's very simple, forget about gauging the other person's interest and concentrate on your own. Do you want to text? Then text. Do you not want to text? Then don't text.


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    #49
    Shane732
    Moderators, Business & Finance Moderators Posts: 4,991 Mod ✭✭✭✭Shane732


    bellorina wrote: »
    Thanks lads, but seriosusly do I not make myself look like a bit of a pathethic fool? or am I just paranoid? He knows people I know, so I'm afraid of looking like a fool? Yee lads are hard to figure out!!!

    It's a text you're not declaring your undying love for him!! You think lads are hard to figure out - girl you have it easy!


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    #50
    Paulegend
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,175 ✭✭✭Paulegend


    bellorina forget him. if he hasnt txt by now he aint worth it. thrust me from all the posts here youd have loads of guys that would be waiting for you to txt them back. thrust me youll meet someone way better. but he will prob turn into a stalker. but then youll mett someone great;)


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    #51
    dRNk SAnTA
    Registered Users Posts: 777 ✭✭✭dRNk SAnTA


    Seriously, it's 2010 what is wrong with a girl texting a guy/asking a guy out/proposing marriage!!

    I've had girls text me and I never thought twice about it. Only a guy with some sort of mental problem or masculinity/confidence complex would care. And why would you want to go out with someone with such a problem?


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    #52
    LivingDeadGirl
    Registered Users Posts: 1,150 ✭✭✭LivingDeadGirl


    Seriously who thinks that they'll appear too eager when they've already obviously asked for your number for a reason??


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    #53
    Paulegend
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,175 ✭✭✭Paulegend


    LivingDeadGirl wrote: »
    Seriously who thinks that they'll appear too eager when they've already obviously asked for your number for a reason??

    the OP havent you been paying attention:D..............women:rolleyes:


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    #54
    midlandsmissus
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,838 ✭✭✭midlandsmissus


    I'm not the OP but I texted the lad that I was on about...and he was delighted to hear from me!

    I say text him!


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    #55
    Paulegend
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,175 ✭✭✭Paulegend


    midlandsmissus wrote: »
    I'm not the OP but I texted the lad that I was on about...and he was delighted to hear from me!

    I say text him!

    you go girl:D always wantyed to say that. doesnt make me seem any more manly though. but seriously well done


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    #56
    Kimbot
    Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 18,429 Mod ✭✭✭✭Kimbot


    Text him and ask him out to the cinema or something, if he is interested you will know straight away.


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    #57
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Ok, So I'm original poster!!!

    Update on situation:Took all your advice...text him and got a nice response. However, I didn't hear from him a few days so I figured that he wasn't all that interested. Decided to let it lie. Then out of blue yesterday, I get a lovely text from him.

    So we might be on to something, still haven't figured him out yet...!!!! And ye men think we're hard to figure out!


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    #58
    Colpriz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 216 ✭✭Colpriz


    Well done m'dear..not so painful after all eh?! Rest of you ladies take note


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    #59
    globemaster1986
    Registered Users Posts: 351 ✭✭globemaster1986


    Bellorina wrote: »
    Ok, So I'm original poster!!!

    Update on situation:Took all your advice...text him and got a nice response. However, I didn't hear from him a few days so I figured that he wasn't all that interested. Decided to let it lie. Then out of blue yesterday, I get a lovely text from him.

    So we might be on to something, still haven't figured him out yet...!!!! And ye men think we're hard to figure out!

    Well done! Hope it works out, personally I have no objection to the girl texting first, my girlfriend texted me first, I would have texted her but she got there first


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    #60
    Tefral
    Registered Users Posts: 4,313 ✭✭✭Tefral


    Bellorina wrote: »
    Ok, So I'm original poster!!!

    Update on situation:Took all your advice...text him and got a nice response. However, I didn't hear from him a few days so I figured that he wasn't all that interested. Decided to let it lie. Then out of blue yesterday, I get a lovely text from him.

    So we might be on to something, still haven't figured him out yet...!!!! And ye men think we're hard to figure out!

    In fairness we are not that hard to figure out. Its simple, forget this texting crap, ring him up, ask to meet up, go have fun, tell him you want to meet him again, arrange another time, and it will either escalate or you will know hes not the right type for you or visa versa and ye will just fizzle out.

    Its not all that complicated. This will I or wont I thing just frustrates people. if you try to arrange another time any guy i know including myself would either say "ya sure that would be great" or "look, i dunno if this is working out" yada yada yada. Then you know he would like to see you again on such a date or you can walk away knowing you tried but it wasnt ment to be.


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