[username123]

Originally Posted by Ilyana

Tbh if someone doesn't have a large amount of weight to lose, people probably aren't talking about it, unless said person is squeezing themselves into clothes that don't fit. But as I said, when you have these insecurities, you feel like your weight is the only thing people judge you by.

I suppose I dont really know what people mean when they say overweight. There are so many variables with height and weight, one persons 10 stone could be slim to another looking chubby.

Maybe people do judge me by my weight, its not really something I ever thought about actually, I have always felt I was my own worst judge!

[Ilyana]

Originally Posted by username123

I suppose I dont really know what people mean when they say overweight. There are so many variables with height and weight, one persons 10 stone could be slim to another looking chubby.

I suppose a lot of people are on the verge of being clinically overweight, even if they don't look it. My BMI is about 25 but I'm a size 10-12, go figure. When I say someone is overweight I mean that, in my eyes, they look heavier than what is probably healthy for them. But someone else could have a different yardstick for it. But I think most people can agree on what classifies someone as obese.

I read somewhere (probably the Daily Mail ) that people with eating disorders can judge other people as overweight or normal quite accurately; it's only when it comes to themselves that their perception of 'fat' becomes warped. I've no idea if there's any truth in that, but from my experience it actually rings quite true.

[username123]

Originally Posted by Ilyana

When I say someone is overweight I mean that, in my eyes, they look heavier than what is probably healthy for them.

Yeah its very subjective. I have noticed that as I age (im close to 40), that my friends of a similar age have become more forgiving of a few lb here and there. As people get older the metabolism slows, perhaps a few pregnancies have taken a toll, perhaps the sweet tooth is indulged a little more

I often wonder if I could take my today self and insert me into my 1990s life, would I magically lose weight just because I was so much busier then! I was constantly on the move, walking to and from the bus stop, walking round college or town, out dancing etc... I rarely sat still. Whereas now, with the exception of the time I actively spend in the gym or running, my everyday life is not nearly as active.

[Stench Blossoms]

Originally Posted by Ilyana

I read somewhere (probably the Daily Mail ) that people with eating disorders can judge other people as overweight or normal quite accurately; it's only when it comes to themselves that their perception of 'fat' becomes warped. I've no idea if there's any truth in that, but from my experience it actually rings quite true.

I'd fully agree with that.

In fact, I'd say that's 100% me.

[Ilyana]

Originally Posted by Stench Blossoms

I'd fully agree with that.

In fact, I'd say that's 100% me.

When I was dieting, if someone told me they were on a diet, I would tell them not to do it - that they didn't need to, that they'd only get too thin. And there I was, surviving on eggs and baked beans. There was no way I'd take my own advice.

There was an element of competitiveness to it as well. If a friend of mine put on a few pounds - the freshman 15 - I was secretly delighted. It was just one more person I was 'beating' to thinness.

[girlonfire]

Originally Posted by Princess Peach

it's just kind of ingrained in me at this stage as a way of doing things.

Yeah, I understand this fully.

As for worrying about what people think of you for gaining weight, while I do understand that frame of mind, your recovery is about you. It's your journey. Those who really care for you will have admiration for you for dealing with such a difficult and complex illness. Stick with the supportive ones.