[delthedriver]

Originally Posted by cloud493

I quit college. I know I shouldn't have, and I'm already feeling funny about it but I just can't do it. I'm burnt out.

Start with getting some medical advice from your GP. You health is more important than college. When you get back on an even keel you can review the whole situation regarding college.

[delthedriver]

Originally Posted by pinkstars

Feeling awful.....
My sister was putting me under real pressure to be at her son's First Holy Communion mass and I was going...just felt overwhelmed as I needed to dry clothes, get my 2 year old ready etc and I made it anyway.

And she never ended up turning up. Shocked, sad etc. Cannot believe it since.

She said her ex called to her house with a brand new suit on and she only had second hand clothes to wear. Her son stayed with her after the mass and played with his friends. There was a party in his dad's house yesterday and he went all out, baloons, cakes, sandwiches everything.....

There were rumours my sister was out the night before the Communion too.

I was attacked yesterday by my sister for going to her son's dad yesterday. One of her so called friends had a status on Facebook re can you believe someone not going to her son's communion, and course I had to stick up for my sister.


Anyways I feel crap. Panic attack central at the moment. My ex text my dad this morning to help him with his mothers fish tank, it annoys me, but my dad takes no notice, he loves to help anyone, so should I let it bother me!

You have to let go of all the baggage ie. worrying about every else, what they are doing , seeing , not doing etc.
Please you need to concentrate on yourself, stand back from all the family issues. Create an invisible space between you and everyone else. You need time and space to recover and get your life back on track. When family members try to burden you with their issues, politely say that you are feeling unwell at the moment and cannot cope taking on board others problems.
If family members try to encroach your invisible space, gently push back. Everyone needs a bit of space in their lives, most importantly you at this time.
Finally you must communicate with your GP and seek help in getting you back on track. You are most important and must be kind to yourself.

[delthedriver]

Originally Posted by Notorioux

Feeling absolutely nothing, there were times I'm waking up the morning crying...

I'm not Irish 24 living in Ireland for 7 years. No job (don't worry I'm not taking any of your benefits)

I've got no friends (I'm scared to talk to anyone and even if I did try the person seems always not interested or some might think that I can't speak or understand english.

I'm living with my mom my sister both nurse and my bro and his wife they're both undocumented the wife got a job as a minder. It's making me feel sad that they can get a job and It's hard for me to find one. Few offers, but I'm always being turned down by the employers when I tell them that I need a work permit to work. (every employers doesn't wanna waste their time to process a work permit) It's a total knocked out of confidence the feeling of it.

It's also making feel nothing when my family are going for a shopping and they can get what they like and here's me NONE! Then they'll going to ask me about the stuffs they bought if it's nice etc...

My sister and her boyfriend went to town for a drink the other day and invited my brother and his wife with them. It made me feel so upset no one even come to me and ask if I wanted to come. I'm tired of being left out all the time.

It was my mom's birthday yesterday I tried to be happy for her. We had an alone time after we went for a dinner and she asked me if there's something wrong as I always look very sad and there I just opened up to her I cried and cried and told her everything she was being supportive, but it made me so upset that I felt that I ruined her birthday.


I really wanna take some courses, but no money.

Firstly I am sorry to hear you are feeling so unhappy. It is important that you get the feelings of depression, isolation , and loneliness under control. Please consult with a local doctor or Aware.ie
You are fortunate in that you have family here. It is important that they help support you emotionally as well as socially. I think it is very important that you explain clearly how you feel and how you yearn to be included in family trips out etc.
You have a wonderful mother who now understands to some degree how you are feeling, it is very important to keep the communication lines open.
It is also important that you remain physically fit, walking,jogging,cycling, yoga. When people are emotionally drained it is easy to forget their physical health.
Have you any hobbies? Have you any friends outside your immediate family? Do you make use of your local library?
Regarding work issues or courses, I am unable to give much advice, I wonder is it worth contacting Citizens Advice.ie or seeking some voluntary work with a charity, which may give you some necessary work experience making your skills attractive to a potential employer, making the application for a work permit worthwhile.
Thank you for taking the time to post her on Boards.ie Please keep us updated on your progress.
Remember you are very important, so be very kind to yourself.
Best wishes

Ps. Have you a qualification or language you could teach in the form of private grinds? Just a thought worth exploring?

[scrimshanker]

I just procrastinated for 8 hours solid. I'm really really really in trouble with college this time.

[Call Me Jimmy]

I have been in trouble many times with college work / exams. what's up? if you have any recent significant medical history there are things that can be done.

[scrimshanker]

presentation wednesday, havent even started it then more presentations thursday, again, which I havne't started. No medical history recently. Was going to go back then wasn't feeling awful but now am thanks to a stupid flippant remark by a supervisor I've no motivation even though I know I'm gona fail I just can't bring myself to do anything. God. Another half hour gone doing nothing.

[Call Me Jimmy]

Well I know what I did that made me procrastinate was think about getting high marks. To be more productive I thought, 'how can i increase my marks to pass, starting at the 0 I'm at right now'.

[delthedriver]

Originally Posted by scrimshanker

presentation wednesday, havent even started it then more presentations thursday, again, which I havne't started. No medical history recently. Was going to go back then wasn't feeling awful but now am thanks to a stupid flippant remark by a supervisor I've no motivation even though I know I'm gona fail I just can't bring myself to do anything. God. Another half hour gone doing nothing.

You can do it! Bed now. Early rise tomorrow morning, breakfast, walk, get head down and concentrate on what you need to do. You are near the finish line. You will not give up. Now chill out and get a good night's sleep.

[scrimshanker]

Originally Posted by delthedriver

You can do it! Bed now. Early rise tomorrow morning, breakfast, walk, get head down and concentrate on what you need to do. You are near the finish line. You will not give up. Now chill out and get a good night's sleep.

Thanks. Got 3 hours sleep last night Disaster.